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Lara123

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I'm so over it
« on: 07 February 2025, 02:21:59 pm »
I'm so over this shit, I'm so tired of dealing with idiot clients I just can't anymore. I don't know if it's the UK, the economy or just the attitude of men that has changed but I'm seriously considering retiring for good or going abroad where the money is better. For the last 3 years I've told myself it'll get better but it just doesn't. It's exhausting me emotionally, I'm constantly burned out and the money has become really unpredictable. Does anyone feel the same way? X

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #1 on: 07 February 2025, 02:23:57 pm »
I am right there with you hunni. This week I’ve driven from Cornwall all the way to Glasgow and everywhere in between. I’ve had so many breakdowns in my car I feel so emotionally drained of the bull shit. I don’t have the money just to take a break I’m barely making my rent. I am getting a day job shortly and will just work Saturdays with deposits only locally doing this.

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« Reply #2 on: 07 February 2025, 02:39:30 pm »
Im still making good money, but I agree it’s harder now than it was a few years ago.

It doesn’t help that hotel/apartment prices have shot through the roof and my price point hasn’t. I don’t want to charge any more than I do as I would rather see one extra client a day than be what I consider to be expensive.

I’ve always found that tours vary. I had a really bad tour recently then my next one was great. I just accept that there will be good ones and the occasional bad one. It’s disheartening though, and emotionally draining, driving round the country.

I’m older and don’t want to go back into civvie street, as I’ve been out of my career for so long, I wouldn’t get back in. I’d be left with care or supermarket work and I know I would struggle with the hours. It would be a last resort.

If I was younger and struggling, I’d definitely consider re training.

As long as I continue making a living doing sex work, I will continue.

Lara123

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #3 on: 07 February 2025, 04:28:29 pm »
It's such a tough game at the moment. It's great that you're going back into normal life but I don't think I can go back to a normal day job, ideally I'd like to still make money somehow on my own. I won't be making any serious changes until April/ May anyhow. I'll just suck it up for now :(

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #4 on: 07 February 2025, 05:43:17 pm »
I think I got out just in time last year when I did, granted the money in civvie world doesn’t compare, but I was getting tired of all the idiots continuous rising costs of accommodation not to mention the effect it was having on my sex drive in my personal life.

I would say for anybody that is considering getting out go for it! Retrain, there’s lots of opportunities out there. Best of all you’re guaranteed a salary, no uncertainties.

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« Reply #5 on: 07 February 2025, 10:24:18 pm »
I think I got out just in time last year when I did, granted the money in civvie world doesn’t compare, but I was getting tired of all the idiots continuous rising costs of accommodation not to mention the effect it was having on my sex drive in my personal life.

I would say for anybody that is considering getting out go for it! Retrain, there’s lots of opportunities out there. Best of all you’re guaranteed a salary, no uncertainties.

I’ve thought of re training but in my late 50’s with no references after so long in the industry isn’t ticking many boxes  :-\

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #6 on: 08 February 2025, 05:45:54 pm »
I recently started a normal job, I'm in my late forties.. I'm working as home carer for the elderly with a health care agency, you don't need qualifications. They usually train you on what to do.

matureho

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #7 on: 08 February 2025, 06:20:36 pm »
I’ve thought of re training but in my late 50’s with no references after so long in the industry isn’t ticking many boxes  :-\

There will always be somebody to give you a reference. do you have a regulars that you trust? Do you know anybody who runs a business that you could’ve done some “volunteer” work during your free time whilst you were caring for a relative ???? You just have to get creative

Failing that, you could do some volunteering for real for a few months that would give you a good honest reference.

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #8 on: 08 February 2025, 08:09:17 pm »
Admittedly it has got harder since Covid, however, I have found the secret is to look after those regulars and actively try and recruit new ones.

I give anything between 20%-25% discount on bookings of an hour or more to my regulars and I've found that they come back more frequently now, so I'm making more from them than I was before, even though they are giving me less for each booking.

I always make sure I give good service, give the client the full time they have paid for (I don't count showering as part of the booking) and don't make a fuss if there is a bit of slippage by 5-10 minutes. Admittedly you probably end up losing 90 minutes on a 60 minute booking but it keeps them coming back. I do stop boundary pushing once it gets too far though.

As for new clients who I've not seen before, assuming I want to see them again, then I always text them 15 minutes after they have gone saying what a good time we had and when I'm next available and would be great to see them again. Works wonders.

Just my view. I'm doing OK and make my target each week with ease, often doubling it, I only do this part time as well.
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SAAFE

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #9 on: 08 February 2025, 09:08:50 pm »
This is not what the thread is for, nina1997.

matureho

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« Reply #10 on: 08 February 2025, 10:01:18 pm »
Sorry, I have to ask why not? She’s just giving her view and opinion isn’t that what a forum is all about???

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« Reply #11 on: 08 February 2025, 10:05:58 pm »
Sorry, I have to ask why not? She’s just giving her view and opinion isn’t that what a forum is all about???

I think Amy means specifically this thread, not the forum in general

matureho

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« Reply #12 on: 08 February 2025, 11:06:57 pm »
But it’s still a point of view, opinion, experience, I know so many people who have come away from this forum because posts are over regulated, it’s like if Amy doesn’t agree with your opinion……….
« Last Edit: 08 February 2025, 11:11:32 pm by matureho »

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #13 on: 08 February 2025, 11:18:44 pm »
I think Amy means specifically this thread, not the forum in general

Er, that wasn't me. Surely that's clear from the top left corner* where it doesn't say 'Amy'?

And no, giving 'helpful' advice about how to demoralise yourself even further by losing time and money just to keep your business going to people who have made it clear they're already completely fed up and looking for other options (while getting a quick stealth boast in about how you're making £££££) is indeed not what this thread is about, just like the Slow... thread where we recently had somebody doing similar.

If it had been me I wouldn't have let the post through in the first place, but it's there. From now on the thread stays on topic, especially since others are having no difficulty reading the room and making helpful suggestions :)


* if a post was made by me, there will also be a picture of Courage the Cowardly Dog

amy

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Re: I'm so over it
« Reply #14 on: 08 February 2025, 11:23:37 pm »
But it’s still a point of view, opinion, experience, I know so many people who have come away from this forum because posts are over regulated, it’s like if Amy doesn’t agree with your opinion……….

The word you're looking for is 'moderated', and I have no more interest in anybody's opinion on me or anything else here than I do in real life. What the forum team is here to do is make sure the forum stays on topic - the topic being sex work, not the forum or how it works - and remains useful for those who want to use it. If people don't want to use it because we won't let them derail others' threads or squabble about crap, nobody is making them.

I'll also point out that the poster above has made a total of four posts, every single one of them about how 'she' likes to give punters discounts and extra time for free, or spends time with them unpaid. Make of that what you will.