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Tigerlily_321

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I get nostalgic..
« on: 20 April 2022, 11:23:40 pm »
I haven't been a SW for two years. Before that I was on and off, starting at 20 til I was 27. I'd go through periods of escorting, mostly while I was a skint single student living in London. Before my current partner I was with an emotionally abusive guy for four years, and I cammed and escorted during that time, because he wasn't working and I felt like it was the quickest way for me to make money. After that relationship ended I started up escorting again eventually, I felt like I was doing well with it, and then I met my current partner. I shit myself telling him, I was really happy finally feeling self sufficient but I was willing to give it up for a normal job if it meant being in a good relationship (I know I sound quite sad..)

So at that time, me and my partner had a big chat and he was very supportive and non judgemental about me being an escort, but personally I thought it wouldn't be right for me to keep doing it as I saw a real future with him.

Fast forward to now, we bought a house, I love him so much, but I haaate working. I work as a carer, and it is of course 'rewarding', but I dream about when I was my own boss, working only a few hours a week to get what I need, not killing myself working 45+ hours for little reward.

Sorry, I think I'm just ranting.. and looking back fondly

oleyoleyWG

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Re: I get nostalgic..
« Reply #1 on: 21 April 2022, 01:43:23 pm »
I understand ive been doing this a few years. I know how it feels to stop all this and try and live a normal life. I left this job for 6 months for a man and I absolutely ended up resenting him for it and it caused me to leave him, he had a good job and was so free just like I used to be and I felt stuck and like I didn’t want to waste my younger years on him. It’s obviously completely different for you. you sound like your in a very loving relationship and there’s honestly nothing better in this life. Id love to meet the love of my life but doing this job I cannot ask someone for something I cannot give myself I.e monogamy. It’s hard isn’t it because now I’m free and that’s great but what is life without relationships with others. I’m very closed off to men. No matter what we do we will always look back and think things were better then they were. Just think you don’t ever have to pretend to be interested or attracted to a old dirty perv again lol. It’s swings and roundabouts like anything. But at least you know if it goes tits up adultwork is always going to be there. Good luck and I sincerely hope you live a fulfilling life x
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Gypsy

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Re: I get nostalgic..
« Reply #2 on: 22 April 2022, 08:11:50 pm »
I've been thinking about moving on as I've been recently seeing a guy who 'supposedly' really likes me  ::)

He doesn't have a clue about this job and would freak if I told him. He doesn't know I have a decent amount of money in savings, either, thank God, as he's already asked me for money.

But he conveniently puts me at the bottom of his priorities all right  ::)

There's NO WAY ON EARTH I'd give up my job for a man. If he's decent he will understand.

I hate men. The end.

There, I feel a bit better now  :D

« Last Edit: 22 April 2022, 08:47:51 pm by Gypsy »
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Re: I get nostalgic..
« Reply #3 on: 22 April 2022, 10:42:26 pm »
Haha,Gypsy! I was about to jump in and say 'don't do it!' but I can see you reached the same conclusion  ;)

OP, I understand what you mean. I had a long break before coming back during which time I thought fondly of all the free time I used to have and the luxury of being able to set my own hours and be my own boss. One thing I will say is that the industry is harder these days (in my opinion). There's much more competiton and clients seem to expect more for less. Don't get me wrong, people with good business brains are still doing well, as ever before, but in my opinion the marketing side of things is a never ending slog. Mind you, I started when it was ads in the paper! Simple times. Nostalgia can be nice because it makes us remember the good times and let's be honest, our service will always be in demand. We're like plumbers and hairdressers ;D This work will always be there if and when you need it.

MissWolf

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Re: I get nostalgic..
« Reply #4 on: 24 April 2022, 02:33:23 pm »
OP you are still really young, it took me years to find the career I love and I went back to college to retrain and do that. I came to escorting later in life and do it as a part time top up to my regular job because I'm single and don't want a partner it was an easy transition from swinging.

Why not have a serious chat with your man about how unhappy you are doing the work you are doing and maybe look at going part time and going back to uni to retrain for something you will earn better money doing while working less hours.

You could possibly do some cam work at home to top up your income while you study, you can do that without showing your face etc and it's not an actual physical meet

Good luck