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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: *amber* on 01 September 2010, 04:55:48 pm
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FUCK
Off for a little cry now
Again FUCK
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Congrats? :D
Which month are you pregnant?
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Pregnant by a client or with someone in your private life? I'm sensing from your post that you are not thrilled and congrats are not in order :-(
do you know how far gone you are etc?
I bet your brain is going at a million miles an hour but I hope you are ok and have lots of support around you to help/give advice etc xxxx
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Two fucks....i think that may be what caused it.
Should we be congratulating you?
x
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Two fucks....i think that may be what caused it.
Oh bless you, you just made me laugh so hard I puked! (TMI?)
I am not sure if its congratulations or not. I have no idea what to do but I just looked at the test and smiled. The father is my long term partner so it could be worse but we are in no situation to have a baby.
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Well if you smiled first, before your little cry then I think that is congratulations!
If it happened to me I would just cry and be google the nearest abortion clinic.
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Christ I am only 23 would I not be doing something very selfious?
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Fuck indeed. It usually starts that way.
Ok, Amber. Two choices, they are both yours. I personally think 23 is way too young to be tying yourself down, but I am also a serious baby fan- as long as I can give them back at 6pm. I will PM you, don't cry, there will be enough of that ahead.
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Oh sweetie, I really feel for you. The first time I watched the little blue line appear I was only 18 so I know how you are feeling.
No one can help you decide what is for the best and I dont think we are ever really ready financially or emotionally to bring a new life into this world as until it happens we have no idea what it really entails.
Most doctors will be able to put you in touch with a pregnancy councellor (sp) at very quick notice to help you decide how you really feel.
Whatever you decide, I wish you luck. as for your comment about being selfish, NO it is not. How can it be selfish to do what is best for you?
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Hi Amber
As others have said nobody can tell you what to do and it is your choice. Does your partner know yet and if so what are his feelings.
I am probably biased slightly as a 31 year old woman with no children and serious baby hunger issues but i dont think there is a 'right or wrong' time /age to have a baby . There is only the time that feels right for you. If your first reaction was to smile then that implies to me that your first reponse was happiness which seems fairly positive despite your reservations regarding finance.
I really do hope you can reach the decision that is right for you and wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide.
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After talking with Mr. Man I have decided to go with an abortion. As much as I would love a baby I do not want to do it with a man who is so agaisnt it and for very valid reasons (he has 2 children and one is already is struggling to adapt to so many changes this year)
Its a decission I am struggling with and know will have a long lasting effect but bringing a new life into the world now which could potentially have a negative effect on two children for me isn't an option.
Thank you guys for all your support which has been wonderful compared to the support I was expecting from my best friend which was ummmm well lets just say I have (not lightly) deleted her number.
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Sorry Amber.
There is nothing else I can say. The quicker, the better really. I am always around if you need a chat, and in the mean time a bit of virtual sympathy.
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Wow! Breathe and process things one moment at a time. Lots of virtual love.
xx
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Just adding my support, too, and hugs. :) You've obviously thought things through very carefully and with due consideration to all the many factors, and even so this is never easy. But you mustn't feel bad; you're a wonderful woman to be being so selfless and careful. (more hugs!)
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Hi Amber,
We don't know each other, but I wanted you to know that my heart goes out to you. Remember that the decision was made by both of you, so please don't beat yourself up or blame yourself in the future. You can only do what you think is right now and it does sound like you have looked at it logically. If only the heart could follow so easily.
You are in my thoughts.
Kate x
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Amber...just make sure it is what you want, I don't know how long you two have been together etc. but men change and don't just do it because he thinks it is best really make sure it is what you think as well.
I had an abortion at a http://www.mariestopes.org.uk/ and found them very good and understanding although I can't compare it with the NHS they have a advise line number on the site.
Hope you are ok today.
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Only just got to this thread (I've been away for a few weeks) but wanted to add my support. I had a surgical abortion on the NHS last year and they took really good care of me. I have no regrets but at the same time I have never wanted children and wouldn't know what to do with a baby if I found myself with one, so the decision was very easy for me. Make sure that you're certain about your decision and get all the help and support you need :)
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there is never a good time or a right time to have a baby if your young and dont earn much you worry that you wont have any money if your older and your in a professional job or have good earnings you worry that you wont be able to afford it or get back into your job at the same level
cant think of anything else really but whatever you do it will be right for you
xxx
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Just to give you guys a update. I am booked in for a surgical abortion on Wednesday.
I feel ok about what is about to happen as despite the fact that if my situation was different I would be making a very different decission and I know there is no right time to have a child but there is certainly a wrong time to have a baby.
Needless to say there have been a few tears and not just from me and currently I am finding my relationship hard work and the only way I feel I can see if we can survive this is after the proceedure and take it from there.
Anyways I hope everyone is happy and healthy and doing plenty of whoring.
Kisses
Amber
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Hey honey,
I'm sorry you're in this situation, and feeling emotional and stressed but It's worth remembering that your hormones are all over the place right now so any decision will seem more daunting than usual. Try not to put pressure on yourself about your relationship, now isn't the time to be doing that. You need to think about yourself right now more than ever. Easier said than done I know, but it'll all over over and done with soon.
Good Luck for Wednesday, if you're in the south and would like some moral support give me a shout. Sending lots of virtual cuddles and support your way.
Love Alex x