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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #30 on: 09 August 2019, 09:22:13 pm »
I agree I don’t think anyone actually wants to do sex work that much the benefits (money) outweigh the negatives for some people. I doubt many people with a good paying job and reasonable hours would chose to escort. I do it because I’d only be able to get a minimum or not very well paid job.
Not everyone is privileged enough to have a good job that pays well

Yeah I'm the same, I'm extremely lucky in that I get an allowance and my car insurance paid for by my dad, he lives abroad and is well off but without that I would not be able to look after my kids without escorting benefits just arnt enough these days, couldn't live off food banks with fussy kids either, even now I'm struggling and hate asking family for help and would rather escort but not possible right now. It's a much preferable option to me than abbatoir or care home work. I actually used to enjoy a lot of bookings too yes you'd get the odd prick but not often if screen correctly. I hate it when we are told it's not a choice by rabid feminists, it really makes me mad other women want to take our choice away to do this if we need to.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #31 on: 09 August 2019, 09:39:18 pm »
Yes not like those women would be paying our bills if we stopped doing it
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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #32 on: 09 August 2019, 09:57:03 pm »
Ye sora not like those women would be paying our bills if we stopped doing it

Yeah, that question is repeatedly ignored when debating with rad fems. Mythical government support programmes are constantly talked about whilst ignoring the fact state support has been slaughtered and women are the worst effected especially single parents, wonder how many would agree with raising benefit payments massively, probably none the gigantic hypocrites!

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #33 on: 10 August 2019, 08:12:53 pm »
For me prostitution is one of those jobs that, if you are choosing it and have some control over your work its fine, but if you really don’t want to do it and have not much control over your work thenit can be one of the most horrible things in the world. Because that’s sex for you. Sex is great if you want it, or fine if you don’t mind having it. But it’s dehumanising and painful if you do it because you feel you can’t not or it’s somewhere on the spectrum of being against your will. There have been women I’ve met in this industry in the former category and women I’ve met, sadly, in the latter. 

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #34 on: 10 August 2019, 08:35:07 pm »
For me prostitution is one of those jobs that, if you are choosing it and have some control over your work its fine, but if you really don’t want to do it and have not much control over your work thenit can be one of the most horrible things in the world. Because that’s sex for you. Sex is great if you want it, or fine if you don’t mind having it. But it’s dehumanising and painful if you do it because you feel you can’t not or it’s somewhere on the spectrum of being against your will. There have been women I’ve met in this industry in the former category and women I’ve met, sadly, in the latter. 

So true and it’s brothels and agencies that are like this, it’s definitely better working for yourself and it shows a man is decent when he prefers Indy girls because of the no choice thing working for others and I have had a couple of guys tell me that this is precisely why they won’t go into brothels or call escort agencies.

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« Reply #35 on: 12 August 2019, 09:53:03 am »
So true and it’s brothels and agencies that are like this, it’s definitely better working for yourself and it shows a man is decent when he prefers Indy girls because of the no choice thing working for others and I have had a couple of guys tell me that this is precisely why they won’t go into brothels or call escort agencies.

I definitely had my worst experiences at brothels. You don’t have an realistic ability to say to say no to anybody that comes in, that can be potentially traumatising.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #36 on: 12 August 2019, 10:06:44 am »
I definitely had my worst experiences at brothels. You don’t have an realistic ability to say to say no to anybody that comes in, that can be potentially traumatising.

Definitely, I once said no to a client and he was okay but I was in such a bad mood due to the last client being awful and I still had 6 hours of a 12 hour shift to go, and if I’m in a mood then I don’t give the best service that I can, anyway one of the girls stuck me in to the boss and I got pulled up, I made something up but what I really wanted to say to my boss was go fuck yourself but I ended up leaving not long after, working in brothels still effects me to this day, it’s like I need therapy just to get it out of my system.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #37 on: 12 August 2019, 09:26:48 pm »
Definitely, I once said no to a client and he was okay but I was in such a bad mood due to the last client being awful and I still had 6 hours of a 12 hour shift to go, and if I’m in a mood then I don’t give the best service that I can, anyway one of the girls stuck me in to the boss and I got pulled up, I made something up but what I really wanted to say to my boss was go fuck yourself but I ended up leaving not long after, working in brothels still effects me to this day, it’s like I need therapy just to get it out of my system.

Yes, I worked in nice well ran brothels with decent enough owners but the fact just anyone can walk in and the prices tend to be a bit on the lower side (one near me does half an hour for 45 so the girl must get about 30 for a half hour booking! 90 an hour is the going rate at many too) you get more undesirable clients you would never see independent like poor English speakers or men with an entitled attitude, I found in brothels you get a higher percentage of clients that were rude and boundary pushing never satisfied etc etc than you do independently and you earn less money and often have to compete for work on shifts that have been over booked or have too many girls on leaving some with barely any work. It's a good option if you can't incall or make much out calling though. I used to work a place you would choose your own hours and days it was really good no long shifts if you didn't want it. If I ever parlour worked again I'd probably go there, they told me I was welcome back anytime so I'm glad it's an option.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #38 on: 12 August 2019, 11:10:47 pm »
Yes, I worked in nice well ran brothels with decent enough owners but the fact just anyone can walk in and the prices tend to be a bit on the lower side (one near me does half an hour for 45 so the girl must get about 30 for a half hour booking! 90 an hour is the going rate at many too) you get more undesirable clients you would never see independent like poor English speakers or men with an entitled attitude, I found in brothels you get a higher percentage of clients that were rude and boundary pushing never satisfied etc etc than you do independently and you earn less money and often have to compete for work on shifts that have been over booked or have too many girls on leaving some with barely any work. It's a good option if you can't incall or make much out calling though. I used to work a place you would choose your own hours and days it was really good no long shifts if you didn't want it. If I ever parlour worked again I'd probably go there, they told me I was welcome back anytime so I'm glad it's an option.

Yeah parlours have their good points and if you get on with the girls then sometimes you can get a right laugh, it’s like saafe but all the girls are there in front of you!

I owe my experience in SW to parlours and I’m grateful for that, but as girls get more experience, and confidence in sleeping with strangers then Indy is the way to go, if you have a place to work from, this is the biggest issue I think.

I could go back to the parlour I worked in too except I don’t want too and they are in a different city to where I live.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #39 on: 13 August 2019, 07:15:00 am »
I agree I don’t think anyone actually wants to do sex work that much the benefits (money) outweigh the negatives for some people. I doubt many people with a good paying job and reasonable hours would chose to escort. I do it because I’d only be able to get a minimum or not very well paid job.
Not everyone is privileged enough to have a good job that pays well

Do you have anything stopping you from seeking a well paid job? Have you fully tried and committed to it?
I know a few sex workers who quit and become successful at something else. Took time and effort though.
I'd hate for anyone to only do this work long-term out of low self esteem..

I love sex work. Some of us are genuinely drawn to it.
Although I rarely do full service ! There's a lot of ways to make money as a sex worker without penetration and oral.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #40 on: 13 August 2019, 03:45:14 pm »
 I do want to get into different work but beauty therapy and care doesn’t pay much. I couldn’t do another job I don’t think and many don’t pay well.



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Do you have anything stopping you from seeking a well paid job? Have you fully tried and committed to it?
I know a few sex workers who quit and become successful at something else. Took time and effort though.
I'd hate for anyone to only do this work long-term out of low self esteem..

I love sex work. Some of us are genuinely drawn to it.
Although I rarely do full service ! There's a lot of ways to make money as a sex worker without penetration and oral.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #41 on: 13 August 2019, 05:19:22 pm »
The truth is, if you're doing this under duress - because some psycho has threatened to kill your children if you don't give them £1000 in a week - then it probably is fucking awful.

Most women find sex with random strangers repugnant. Having to do so out of fear and desperation would only make it worse.

The programme wasn't about sex work. It was about vulnerable single mothers and predatory men.

Exactly this. I caught another episode where a woman was going down the gym & her partner was controlling & abusive so she didn't go. It's a good series if you want to learn about the tactics of abusive men/people. Although the camera angles & jerky movements are very off-putting.

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Re: I am Kirsty channel4
« Reply #42 on: 22 August 2019, 11:09:46 am »
Exactly this. I caught another episode where a woman was going down the gym & her partner was controlling & abusive so she didn't go. It's a good series if you want to learn about the tactics of abusive men/people. Although the camera angles & jerky movements are very off-putting.

After reading this thread, I downloaded "I am Nicola" by mistake.
I was hanging on, wondering when Sex work would come into the story :D
Thought Vicky Mcclure was great at always though.
 
Will definitely watch 'I am Kirsty' when I get a chance.