I think at some point we all encounter this type of client will try and play us or worse become emotionally attached.

I'm a hard bitch when it comes to this business. I have a few regulars who I offer a discount for various reasons. But ultimately this is my choice. They contact me, we discuss times and I say ok it will be X. As with any other punter, this is paid at the beginning. They also either tip me or bring me gifts, although two do both, and this is their decision. At the end of the day, it's just a business transaction.

Occasionally a new regular will appear and after 2 or 3 sessions he will start saying he can do x,y and z for me. Including picking me up and dropping me off. I turn down all of their offers as for me this is where lines get blurred. Some are cheeky fuckers and want a free fuck in exchange for a photo shoot, website, bills paid etc, again they get knocked back. The regulars I chose are not boundary pushers basically.

It's all about retaining the power and control of the business transaction. I cannot walk into Tesco and say ok I want this trolley of food and in return, I will redesign your bags, they would rightfully tell me to get stuffed and either leave or pay for the goods.

The emotionally attached ones. Remember we are playing a role of the girlfriend and sometimes it can seem a bit too convincing when we spend a lot of time with them. Sometimes our skills can be too realistic for that person, if it happens too often with punters, then you have to assess what you are doing during that performance to lead them on like this.

For me, when it starts to go in the direction of them becoming attached I am very clear that nothing can happen because it's just a business deal and that although I am providing the gfe it doesn't mean I want to be in a relationship with them. It's just a role I am playing because that's what you are paying for. The last one who did this, it's been around 2 months since we had that chat. I didn't hear from him for ages until he contacted me and basically, he is still hung up on me, so I will not book him yet.

I'm very good at turning off my emotions because it's just a job at the end of the day, and if I was on the till at Tesco, I wouldn't be attached to the customer so why would I be in this job. Like I said I am a hard bitch. I know his motive isn't because he's actually interested in me, he's looking out for his own needs of saving cash, And like I said, I tell them it's just business and I'm not interested. The last one he backed off, the one before that did contact me lot afterwards and I just ignored him after explaining again I wasn't interested.

And honestly, the other reason is simply I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who was a punter because how would you explain it to his family etc about how you met - yea I found her on AdultWork, booked her, fucked her, left a review, and booked her again and again until we got together. And it would be at the back of my mind that he's still on AW booking escorts.

Hiya OP,

I believe your first mistake was spending personal time with him, that's when he thought "aha! she's fallen for big ol' me". His big ego just wanted to know you would fuck him for free.  But he's probably freaked out by the scary possibility of falling for a prostitute. Stuff like the double morality of not wanting you to be hooker while using their services. Me thinks this man has issues and a relationship with him was never going to work out. See the whole experience as a dodged bullet and a learnt lesson.

Yes, we all bump into "Mr charming" at some point and you do need to protect your feelings a lot in this business. What just happened to you explains "why" :-)

xx ana

Most of us have been there at some point and yes some women have ended up with ex-clients as long term partners in healthy relationships but really it is better to keep things totally separate and not fall for any of their charms!

My theory is, if you do have a good paying client who might be a potential boyfriend then you stop the exchanging of money and  having sex for a bit. You'll soon work out of it's just sex he wants from you and also how much you miss being paid for his company!

You have to get a bit cynical in this job I'm afraid!

Thank you for all of your advice ladies. I haven't felt like this for a while about someone but at the end of the day, it's just not realistic as we are in completely separate stages of our life.
He's a successful rich businessman who can do anything he wants. I'm trying to gain something for myself through hard work, but that will never compare to the success that he has.

He did contact me but I can't keep going there when it is just going to hurt me. I think the best thing to do now is withdraw, really focus on myself and get over him.
He has suggested a date to meet in the future but in reality I doubt that will ever happen and I'm just a lowly escort and it just won't work unfortunately.

I have definitely learnt a hard life lesson this week and that is to keep feelings and business completely separate as he goes for rich, successful women who can do anything they want. I'm nothing like that and never will be. I liked him because I was the first escort he had used (obviously lots of other reasons also) but we are just in completely different stages of out life and I would never be like him or be good enough for him in reality.

Thanks for the help, I appreciate all of your advice. Time to focus on myself I guess.

First thing I would do is take the necklace to a pawn shop and see if it’s real / worth anything 😂

A friend of mine was in a similar situation but over a slightly longer period
Guy bought her a Rolex Watch for her birthday.  Made a big deal about it, how he wanted her to have something because she was worth it

She took it to a pawn shop to get it valued and it was a fake . A very good one but a fake 😂

First thing I would do is take the necklace to a pawn shop and see if it’s real / worth anything 😂

A friend of mine was in a similar situation but over a slightly longer period
Guy bought her a Rolex Watch for her birthday.  Made a big deal about it, how he wanted her to have something because she was worth it

She took it to a pawn shop to get it valued and it was a fake . A very good one but a fake 😂

This sums up everything.
I would say in this line of work, just like the watch, it is all fake.
Learn to say and use the word "NO"
Move on, keep yourself busy and let these twats move on to someone else!

Thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear this. You are right. I shall not mix business and pleasure again.

There's nothing wrong with mixing business and pleasure, having a client who you like and enjoy your time with is great fun and one of the bonuses of this job, however... keep your boundaries tight, your head cold and never loose perspective. Be careful and not let yourself "carried away". keep in mind you're running a business, not a charity :-)