Author Topic: How do you deal with deluded clients? (Read 4911 times)

Pepper · « **Reply #15 on:** 16 September 2020, 01:37:55 pm »

Going get shot down here.

I know there are many mean and horrible men who treat prostitutes as trash, who treat anyone as trash. However there are lots of reasons why a guy comes to see a prostitute, maybe he wants to play out a fantasy his partner is not keen on or he does not want to share it with her, secondly he might be lonely

if you treat your clients just as a business transaction how do you expect to be treated well?

I am also curious if you have met someone several times and they are nice to you how do you not build up a personal relationship with them also,

Nelly · « **Reply #16 on:** 16 September 2020, 02:52:58 pm »

Re. a previous post, I wouldn't date an escort user either. I genuinely like a lot of the clients that I see on a personal level, as I find them funny, interesting and engaging and look forward to seeing them! But no, I don't respect their values (hypocrite that I am) and so wouldn't get into an intimate unpaid relationship with them. And I'm not under any illusions; my clients see me as a fun sexy girl who they enjoy spending time with, but wouldn't take home to mother. It's just how it works, I think it's possible to have fun on a surface level whilst acknowledging there's no profundity to it

Nadya · « **Reply #17 on:** 16 September 2020, 03:29:33 pm »

I agree that they don't understand that our time is OURS. I got some joker today asking me to talk to him because 'he wanted to get to know me first before booking' They do not understand that they are not entitled to that time. He could have offered to call me as a paid service but no, he wants to message on KIK.

CelesteManchester · « **Reply #18 on:** 16 September 2020, 05:58:37 pm »

Quote from: Nadya on 16 September 2020, 03:29:33 pm

I agree that they don't understand that our time is OURS. I got some joker today asking me to talk to him because 'he wanted to get to know me first before booking' They do not understand that they are not entitled to that time. He could have offered to call me as a paid service but no, he wants to message on KIK.

I saw that. No dice🎲 buddy, you want to get to know me, you make a damn appointment like the rest of the world🌍! That’s some scamming shit right there, Nadya.

ana30 · « **Reply #19 on:** 16 September 2020, 06:52:47 pm »

Quote from: Nadya on 16 September 2020, 03:29:33 pm

I agree that they don't understand that our time is OURS. I got some joker today asking me to talk to him because 'he wanted to get to know me first before booking' They do not understand that they are not entitled to that time. He could have offered to call me as a paid service but no, he wants to message on KIK.

"I want to get to know you"

That's like me going into a restaurant and telling the waiter I would like to try the "oeufs benedicte" and the "stick tartare" before ordering them cause you know...I might not like them so I'd like to try them first.

Sure buddy.

PleasureSales · « **Reply #20 on:** 16 September 2020, 08:56:30 pm »

Quote from: TantricTease on 15 September 2020, 05:05:35 am

Deluded men are our bread and butter really, not many guys can accept your only sleeping them with for money, that’s basically what the main part of the job is, asides from the physical stuff then imo a sw job is to make the client think you enjoy having sex with them and it’s not about the cash, this is what I’m now having trouble with, I find if they are too deluded then I lose my shit and be too blunt, I think I’m just bored and fed up with this job atm and it’s time to either move on forever or take a year off!

The key for me here is to be able to switch roles, even just in your mind, just like acting. When I transition into my hooker role to work, it is a switch inside of me that I've taught myself to control. It starts with my prep and changing into work clothes and shoes. By the time the door opens for my first client of the day, I'm fully in whoring mode that wraps around me until my last client. That insulates me and I can easily deal with comments from deluded punters who only know and connect with my whoring side. That doesn't mean letting my guard down. My clients know exactly where my firm boundaries are at all times, or they don't remain my client. But I also enjoy some friendly conversation with clients. I don't think of them as a necessary enemy, but someone who decided to invest their money in my skills and me.

For me, that transition is part of what I enjoy about this career (aside from the money and other benefits obviously). It helps separate my innocent and boring civvie life from my hidden self identity. I've done amateur theatre in the past, so I guess that's good practice for acting with clients.

TantricTease · « **Reply #21 on:** 16 September 2020, 09:16:36 pm »

Quote from: PleasureSales on 16 September 2020, 08:56:30 pm

The key for me here is to be able to switch roles, even just in your mind, just like acting. When I transition into my hooker role to work, it is a switch inside of me that I've taught myself to control. It starts with my prep and changing into work clothes and shoes. By the time the door opens for my first client of the day, I'm fully in whoring mode that wraps around me until my last client. That insulates me and I can easily deal with comments from deluded punters who only know and connect with my whoring side. That doesn't mean letting my guard down. My clients know exactly where my firm boundaries are at all times, or they don't remain my client. But I also enjoy some friendly conversation with clients. I don't think of them as a necessary enemy, but someone who decided to invest their money in my skills and me.

For me, that transition is part of what I enjoy about this career (aside from the money and other benefits obviously). It helps separate my innocent and boring civvie life from my hidden self identity. I've done amateur theatre in the past, so I guess that's good practice for acting with clients.

I get the acting part but the issue is that they aren’t acting back, I don’t mind deluded clients but it’s when they get that deluded that they will text you afterwards and say things like, well we got on that much so why are you charging me and then I cannot help but have to say that it’s actually my job.

I feel like I’m making a rod for my own back if I don’t explain to them it’s business if you see what I mean? I also get bored and I’ve had a few normal jobs and I got bored of that so it’s probably just boredom now, I don’t think I am the sort of person to do something forever, I envy people that can stick to the same job for life, not that many employers expect that now but there are plenty folks that do stick to the same job/company for years, I don’t know how they do it!

Nadya · « **Reply #22 on:** 17 September 2020, 12:28:42 am »

Quote from: CelesteManchester on 16 September 2020, 05:58:37 pm

I saw that. No dice🎲 buddy, you want to get to know me, you make a damn appointment like the rest of the world🌍! That’s some scamming shit right there, Nadya.

Oh yeah and he wrapped it all up in loads of complements too, as if I am so starved for validation that it would make me more likely to put up with his BS. Dude, I know this isn't the first time you tried this shit.

It's frustrating because all I had was him and two other timewasting twats today.

Nadya · « **Reply #23 on:** 17 September 2020, 12:34:20 am »

Quote from: ana30 on 16 September 2020, 06:52:47 pm

"I want to get to know you" That's like me going into a restaurant and telling the waiter I would like to try the "oeufs benedicte" and the "stick tartare" before ordering them cause you know...I might not like them so I'd like to try them first.

Sure buddy.

I think I am just going to walk into a nail salon and tell them that I don't want to see anyone yet, I want to get to know her first, yanno, because she has time for that!

TantricTease · « **Reply #24 on:** 17 September 2020, 01:20:04 am »

Quote from: Pepper on 16 September 2020, 01:37:55 pm

Going get shot down here.

I know there are many mean and horrible men who treat prostitutes as trash, who treat anyone as trash. However there are lots of reasons why a guy comes to see a prostitute, maybe he wants to play out a fantasy his partner is not keen on or he does not want to share it with her, secondly he might be lonely

if you treat your clients just as a business transaction how do you expect to be treated well?

I am also curious if you have met someone several times and they are nice to you how do you not build up a personal relationship with them also,

I treat them like a business transaction and I act like I enjoy what I’m doing, that’s basically what the job is!

roseanna · « **Reply #25 on:** 17 September 2020, 10:37:45 am »

Quote from: English Green on 14 September 2020, 08:47:56 pm

She might have meant she just do not want to date someone who uses sex workers because so many cheat, so many get addicted to it being like a sweet shop and enjoy it too much and don't want to give it up if they get in a relationship.

The difference is most sex workers do it for the money only and a lot of men pay for it as they enjoy it a lot so there would be in back of your mind are they out booking still.

I think both of those are true. But the addiction that many fall into is also what makes it work so well. I would say the vast majority of regulars I see are addicted which is not something to be discouraged. Quite the opposite.

I wouldn't want to date one though, the uncertainty would be too much to bear.

Hunixoxoxo · « **Reply #26 on:** 17 September 2020, 12:27:33 pm »

Some of my regular clients seem to want to be single. Some of them work abroad or away from home a lot. And their free time is either spent doing hobbies they miss when they are away or meeting family members. I’m assuming for most of them they just want to have sex and not have to deal with other dynamics when free time is short.

One of my regulars told me he pays for sex as he thinks he can’t trust a female partner and they would take his house and money from him. Most likely true based on his experiences of women. So he just pays to fuck me instead. For me this is a win. He is a bit of a mongo though. A rich mongo but a mongo all the same.

Mirror · « **Reply #27 on:** 17 September 2020, 12:38:27 pm »

Quote from: Hunixoxoxo on 17 September 2020, 12:27:33 pm

Some of my regular clients seem to want to be single. Some of them work abroad or away from home a lot. And their free time is either spent doing hobbies they miss when they are away or meeting family members. I’m assuming for most of them they just want to have sex and not have to deal with other dynamics when free time is short.

One of my regulars told me he pays for sex as he thinks he can’t trust a female partner and they would take his house and money from him. Most likely true based on his experiences of women. So he just pays to fuck me instead. For me this is a win. He is a bit of a mongo though. A rich mongo but a mongo all the same.

Yes to some clients/punters it is simply their lifestyle choice.

Do you mean he doesn't seem particularly intelligent?

ana30 · « **Reply #28 on:** 17 September 2020, 02:51:49 pm »

Quote from: roseanna on 17 September 2020, 10:37:45 am

I think both of those are true. But the addiction that many fall into is also what makes it work so well. I would say the vast majority of regulars I see are addicted which is not something to be discouraged. Quite the opposite.

I wouldn't want to date one though, the uncertainty would be too much to bear.

I believe there's many reasons why men pay for sex and you can't "put all in one box". Personally I don't have a problem with anyone paying for sex (but that's just me), what i do have a problem is dating someone with an addiction, may that be alcohol, pills, escorts or social media. So many sexless marriages out there, and so many would desintegrate without the possibility of the husband getting his "jolies".

Harriet_Lille · « **Reply #29 on:** 18 November 2020, 10:48:57 am »

I send a rather curt message in response telling them that texts are business and not chit chat, and that I am happy to talk but only if they make a booking and come see me.

I have less tolerance for that nonsense these days

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