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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: northernstar on 28 June 2020, 09:36:43 pm
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As above, not much else to elaborate on ;D
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Do you mean introverted clients or being an introvert yourself?
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I'm about 55% introvert, so I don't have too much of a problem. I live alone, do my civvy job at home, and don't do much socialising, so a booking (and I rarely do more than 2-3 a week) is a nice break for me, and I actually welcome the social interaction.
I'd struggle to do more though - definitely like my own time and space.
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Do you mean introverted clients or being an introvert yourself?
Sorry, I meant yourself being introverted and therefore easily “drained” by social interaction as well as keeping to yourself.
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I'm about 55% introvert, so I don't have too much of a problem. I live alone, do my civvy job at home, and don't do much socialising, so a booking (and I rarely do more than 2-3 a week) is a nice break for me, and I actually welcome the social interaction.
I'd struggle to do more though - definitely like my own time and space.
Similar here except the civvy job involves commute (but hardly talking to anyone whilst here). I am also high volume, especially on days off civvy job and it’s taking its toll. :-X
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I space clients out and when feeling overwhelmed I take time out until ready. It was getting like that last week.
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I would like to add that when I find escorting overwhelming it's time for me to take a two week holiday and after I am refreshed.
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Im very introverted. With clients I put a mask on and have practised my small talk. Usaully ask general questions how are you, been busy, weather, journey etc. They often take the lead and I let them talk. Also you don't need to talk while sucking cock.
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Sorry, I meant yourself being introverted and therefore easily “drained” by social interaction as well as keeping to yourself.
Ah, ok :)
I am introverted. Whenever I feel overwhelmed I take a break, whether that’s a day or a week. Going to the gym a few times a week helps me keep motivated as I do get drained with work easily.
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When I'm doing multiple bookings in a day I make sure to take a couple of hours between them to recharge, I could fit more in without spacing them out but I find I get burnt out if I don't take breathing space in between. During bookings I find it easy to switch into work mode and make small talk but I don't take bookings over 3 hours anymore because they drain me.
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I'm sexually an extrovert but socially introverted so offer a PSE. This stops me getting mentally drained. Physical tiredness I can deal with. Sometimes I also just offer shorter bookings if my head is not up for being particularly social.
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During the booking I put on my face, exactly how I would during a civvy job meetinv/interview/con call.
I set my prices to encourage shorter bookings. My ideal booking is a quickie or half hour. One hour bookings and above are more than twice my half hour rate.
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During the booking I put on my face, exactly how I would during a civvy job meetinv/interview/con call.
I set my prices to encourage shorter bookings. My ideal booking is a quickie or half hour. One hour bookings and above are more than twice my half hour rate.
I have done this at times. It always makes me laugh when a potential or already client has balls to say don’t you want to see me for a long booking rather than a few.
Sometimes when I’m at my wits end with someone who won’t take a no I’ll say I find high energy or long bookings hard as my other mainstream job is quite energy consuming or make some excuse up. It’s hard to actually say. No I don’t enjoy long bookings. Because it’s mental torture for an introvert like me. Or no, spending a whole day with you going out and about is NOT fun to me. Give me a few quick jobs where I can wear my mask and be the actress which aren’t too draining mentally over a weekend with you thanks! :-\
Some just don’t realise how draining it is if your not a social extrovert to spend overnights, days or holidays with them. And when they want discount because it’s a long booking or “I’m planning to take you to a 5 star hotel resort or this or that” is my idea of hell. I NEED my own space to recharge my batteries.
I actually was wanting to ask how you ladies would word the wording on your adverts or website about if someone is wanting to book a long booking, overnight or trip. What your requirements are if your like me and need time to recharge. So IF someone wanted to book. They know I need parts of the day to myself.
I have only done trips in last few years with one guy who even books me my own room in hotel he has his suite because he knows and understands I need my personal space to clean up and recharge. But I’ve known him years and he has unlimited finances. To the regular guy wanting to book a long booking they just don’t get that’s not fun in my eyes! The idea of spending more than 2hrs if that in a typical hotel room or even them coming to my apartment gives me shudders!
Maybe I’ll say I need to work remotely from my own room for half of day and so need privacy and time to do that.
Guys that used to book trips and were out all day at meetings and we only came together in evenings when I was younger were perfect. But I’ve got worse in my older age and now need my own bathroom and even space to breath of spending a whole evening together :-X
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I don't offer anything more than 2hrs so I rarely get this question. If you're doing overnights and trips and hating them, can you just stop, and look at picking up more shorter bookings?
When I was really struggling a year ago I told clients that I had some personal issues and needed to be contactable, so if they booked more than a half hour they would have to be okay with me checking my phone halfway through, and I might have to cut the booking short (with a refund).
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Sometimes the money is too hard to pass up if it’s the option of a trip.
I think I just need to make it clear the type of client / trip schedule I can go on if at all.
I think some enquiring clients think we’re robots and just think can book 4 hrs or some overnight with a Stranger you’ve not met and not even think twice.
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I think some enquiring clients think we’re robots and just think can book 4 hrs or some overnight with a Stranger you’ve not met and not even think twice.
This is what puts me off the most. Would you really spend that amount of money to spend time with an unknown quantity, unless you're so disengaged that you just want a warm hole?
I know that generally men don't need to consider their personal safety in the same way as women do, but honestly would you spaff £500 on someone who might be a shit conversationalist AND a crap shag?
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I just fake it until I feel it..
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I'm an introvert and I can't see more than 3 people a week. If I do, I need weeks to recover. But I offer longer meetings.
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I'm an introvert and I can't see more than 3 people a week. If I do, I need weeks to recover. But I offer longer meetings.
Have you tried doing shorter bookings and seeing if they're less draining?
My ideal day is 10 back to back quickies. No social interaction required, just good blowjobs!
I won't see a new client for more than an hour. I have a very few regs who I'll do 2hr+ bookings with.
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I'm an introvert but I present as an extrovert, am very very good at conversation and being entertaining albeit for a limited amount of time a week - I do one or two long bookings, usually dinner dates or overnights a week.
There is absolutely no way I could cope with several short bookings or quickies a day, several days a week.
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I'm more introvert but think I cope ok.
I think now I am seeing clients more frequently, it has helped my conversation skills, although do find it tiring at times having to put on a friendly face when I'd rather just relax.
If I've seen so many without a decent break I go for a walk to clear my head. On days like that I get so wired from all the work that I struggle to get to sleep but have found going out walking helps.
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I suffer with social anxiety, and I find exercise beforehand makes me much less nervous and more talkative.
For instance a brisk walk to the shop and back, and the interaction with the person in the shop can help too.
Failing that, a drink! ;D
Bookings are the worst when both parties are dead awkward and don't have anything to say to each other... and nervousness can rub off on others. For these situations I like to have a few bits of small talk planned or perhaps even a bit of silly humour can work as an icebreaker in this situation.
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I have terrible social anxiety and spend most of my time alone. I work from home with a civvy job too, and work 3 days a week escorting. I absolutely hate longer than half an hour because my bubbly mask slips and the true me starts to emerge. Ie a bloody miserable monotone bore. 😁.