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Anonandon

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My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« on: 04 May 2023, 10:34:30 am »
More and more men seem to use their nails these days instead of the pads of their fingers when playing with our vaginas. Do they not even realise that they’re using their often dirty nails to rub I mean claw our clits or are they just dumb? Whenever I point this out they get offended as well  :o

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #1 on: 04 May 2023, 10:54:50 am »
No, I've noticed it too and it's horrific. A tip I try to give them is to always keep their fingers straight and move their whole hand instead of clawing with their fingertips, but they don't listen and I find myself having to stop them more often than not. Another thing you can tell them is to just do it very gently and only on the outside and when they do try to say something banal about how much nicer it is. I have no idea what they get out of it.

I actually copped for a visible scratch a couple of weeks ago which could have put me out of action for days (or longer), so I have no qualms about telling them. I think they forget (or just choose not to remember) that when you've spent most of the day/week having your bits mauled about then it makes it even more uncomfortable when they're rough and clumsy than it normally would be - mentioning you've had a very busy day can put a stop to it too :)

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #2 on: 04 May 2023, 11:04:01 am »
Thanks for your input Amy. It really is so painful  :-\ if they put their fingers in too deep into the vagina as well  I find it agony and almost always end up with a urine infection. I always say in a nice way to stop  then I show them what to do, unfortunately most of them dislike being told to stop and are offended when u show them how to use their fingers.
« Last Edit: 04 May 2023, 11:06:06 am by Anonandon »

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #3 on: 04 May 2023, 12:12:28 pm »
Yes I had one only yesterday digging his nails in.  I have no qualms about telling them to stop if it's uncomfortable as I have also suffered with urine infections after particularly rough fingering.
Also trying to shove 2 fat fingers in  :FF
I always take a look at their fingers and nails and if they are not clean they are going nowhere near my vagina.
I blame porn, they see guys ramming their fingers in like a jack hammer and think that's how to do it.
If we handled their cocks in the same rough manner they'd soon be screaming and moaning... and not in pleasure!
« Last Edit: 04 May 2023, 10:56:59 pm by fallen angel »

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« Reply #4 on: 04 May 2023, 01:19:52 pm »
This happens a lot and it has caused me a couple of times to develop Thrush because their nail has cut my delicate skin.

They have to be told and if they still hurt you then they are banned from using fingers down there. Some don't like being told but it's tough shit as we not being paid to get hurt ( well most of us i would say)

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #5 on: 04 May 2023, 01:33:19 pm »
This happens a lot and it has caused me a couple of times to develop Thrush because their nail has cut my delicate skin.

They have to be told and if they still hurt you then they are banned from using fingers down there. Some don't like being told but it's tough shit as we not being paid to get hurt ( well most of us i would say)

Totally agree! I hate it when they’re too rough, one wrote on a review site that I “moaned” about being hurt so basically if u tell some of them they’re being a bit too heavy handed it’s a negative. Sometimes we can’t win but yes they have to be told.

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« Reply #6 on: 04 May 2023, 01:44:52 pm »
If we handled their cocks in the same rough manner they'd soon be screaming and moaning... and not in pleasure!

You see I don't necessarily agree with that - having seen some of them wank so hard it looks like they're going to rip it off! I think the rough handling is possibly a bit of a projection because that's how they like being touched.

Another point is that when people are very horny they often enjoy much rougher handling/shagging than when they're not/being paid to join in and look interested but are just trying to remember what time the washer is going to be finished so they can get the next lot on. When you have one of each in the same room then there's going to be a disconnect, and I suspect part of the problem is that they either forget or don't want to remember that the only person in the room for the sex is them.

unfortunately most of them dislike being told to stop and are offended when u show them how to use their fingers.

Provided they're being told calmly and politely, offending the sensibilities of somebody who thinks it's OK to cause pain, discomfort and potentially injury is not something I can get worked up about - if their ego is so fragile that it can't cope with being told their technique is hurting me then it, and they, can fuck off.

Thankfully the vast majority in my experience don't want to do this and actually listen. The ones who don't don't get to come back.

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« Reply #7 on: 04 May 2023, 02:27:57 pm »
Totally agree! I hate it when they’re too rough, one wrote on a review site that I “moaned” about being hurt so basically if u tell some of them they’re being a bit too heavy handed it’s a negative. Sometimes we can’t win but yes they have to be told.

Yep the one's that are offended and moan about us not wanting to be hurt are exactly the types most of us are pleased to avoid and not have back. Nice men will understand when told it's hurting and would not want to hurt us.

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #8 on: 04 May 2023, 03:43:57 pm »
Yep the one's that are offended and moan about us not wanting to be hurt are exactly the types most of us are pleased to avoid and not have back. Nice men will understand when told it's hurting and would not want to hurt us.

Spot on! I’m always very polite too and try to downplay it but some still get offended. It’s being inexperienced on their part plus watching porn has a lot to do with it. The hard pressure kissing is horrible as well there’s no need, lost count of the times my nose has nearly been broken with them suddenly from nowhere pushing their face into mine without warning banging my nose lol feels like they’re fighting us lol
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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #9 on: 04 May 2023, 05:02:23 pm »
I’ve solved that problem by banning fingers. It hasn’t affected business and I have toys I can use instead.
My main reason was that their fingers were causing thrush.

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« Reply #10 on: 04 May 2023, 11:07:24 pm »
You see I don't necessarily agree with that - having seen some of them wank so hard it looks like they're going to rip it off! I think the rough handling is possibly a bit of a projection because that's how they like being touched.

Again that tends to be from watching too much porn, they wank so much that their cock becomes desensitised so only rough fast handling or fucking will get them over the finishing line.

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« Reply #11 on: 05 May 2023, 09:49:01 am »
Again that tends to be from watching too much porn, they wank so much that their cock becomes desensitised so only rough fast handling or fucking will get them over the finishing line.

Well the death grip has existed for as long as I can remember (and certainly pre internet) so yes up to a point, but my point about people who are horny enjoying rougher contact than people who are not still stands. I honestly think they forget that they're dealing with the equivalent of a stone cold engine on a winters morning so they have to start slow. Even the thought is making me want to sit on a ice pack :D

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #12 on: 05 May 2023, 01:46:18 pm »
Just refuse the fingering altogether. If they try still then joke it off how it’s not made of rubber.

If only mine was…  ;D

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #13 on: 05 May 2023, 03:46:36 pm »
I stopped a guy from finger banging (the jackhammer) approach recently… he just looked at me confused and said he thought I was about to cum! Absolutely clueless some of them.

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Re: My vagina is not a scratchcard!
« Reply #14 on: 08 May 2023, 09:53:15 am »
I’ve solved that problem by banning fingers. It hasn’t affected business and I have toys I can use instead.
My main reason was that their fingers were causing thrush.
Yes it's very uncomfortable b4 a dose of thrush  when they try ramming their dirty fingers in you. I refused and told them it does nothing for me and hurts