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ana30

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A guy at work was talking about escorts saying they had a really easy time for so much money and enjoy the sex...I told him to go on believing that if it helps. It flummoxed him.

He most probably pays prossies and doesn't know that part of the job is acting like you're having a great time. In his mind "prossies always have a great time" with him. Another deluded man.
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Alex6705

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Any of my friends who know what I do wouldn’t speak badly of sex workers in front of me. I’d hope not at all or they shouldn’t be my friend

As for strangers I would tell them maybe to not speak of things they don’t know anything about because they sound like a stupid cunt🙃

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Arguing with people is generally pointless, people rarely change their views. Either ignore it or get new friends.

Snow Whitest

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Honestly, I couldn't give a shiny shit what ppl say or think. I have an aquaintance who I see periodically who always asks what I'm doing work wise, when I say same old, she's like oh I thought you'd be doing something better by now. You sell blinds love, piss off!
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Lushblossom

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I don't find the people I know spend their time discussing sexworkers.

northernstar

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Why are most people so ignorant about us?
« Reply #20 on: 18 February 2023, 03:54:28 pm »
 :FF

More a rant than a question

VoluptuousCurves

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Re: Why are most people so ignorant about us?
« Reply #21 on: 18 February 2023, 04:24:30 pm »
:FF

More a rant than a question

Because so few of us are open about what we do. So the narrative about sex workers is controlled by people who aren't sex workers.
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amy

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Re: How do you act around civvy friends talking judgmentally about sex work?
« Reply #22 on: 18 February 2023, 05:27:05 pm »
I've merged this with one of your existing threads on the subject, NS.

The answer is as VC says; most people are ignorant about things they know nothing about, or at least think they know nothing about. I don't find this at all, because the people around me see me going about my day to day business like every other person, and so as far as they're concerned that's what sex workers do.

northernstar

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Re: How do you act around civvy friends talking judgmentally about sex work?
« Reply #23 on: 18 February 2023, 05:40:44 pm »
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« Last Edit: 19 February 2023, 03:19:52 pm by northernstar »

amy

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Re: How do you act around civvy friends talking judgmentally about sex work?
« Reply #24 on: 18 February 2023, 05:51:29 pm »
Yeah, he sounds like a cunt, and there are plenty of them. But there are also of plenty of people who are not, and at least you've wasted a relatively small amount of your life finding him out rather than having it take years to do so :)

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I usually respond with the academic arguments against their points of view, but without pushing it too much.

roseanna

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Arguing with people is generally pointless, people rarely change their views. Either ignore it or get new friends.

The classic Mark Twain quote comes to mind - Never argue with stupid people, because they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.

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I think the best way is to pretend to be totally indifferent. The best opinion is no opinion.