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Red_rosie

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Having a partner and the job
« on: 05 November 2023, 02:40:26 pm »
Hi girls just wanted to get everyones experience with how it was for you when having a new partner with the job.. me and a long time friend started seeing each other a few months ago, he's always known what I do for work, I've toned it back a little at his request, I now only work 3 days a week and then have 4 off, which I'm pretty much with him on those 4 days, we're trying to find a place where we are both comfortable, he wouldn't ask me to stop or anything, we're just trying to find a place where the job doesn't interfere too much.

What have your guys experiences been like?

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #1 on: 05 November 2023, 04:41:39 pm »
My partner accepts my job and in fact he would prefer that I work in any other way, he respects my decision to practice prostitution and during all our years of relationship he has never interfered.

We know each other through mutual friends.

Under no circumstances would I accept a partner asking me to reduce my work. Today he is asking you to work 3 or 4 days a week, tomorrow he will ask you to work 2, and another day he will ask you to quit permanently. My biggest advice is to never stop working for a man or put your work in second place because they would never do that for you.

If he doesn't like your job and is causing problems, I would recommend that you end the relationship and move on, there are many men in the world and there are many men who will be willing to accept your job.

I know colleagues who are happily married or have been in relationships for years and their partners accept this job.

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #2 on: 05 November 2023, 05:18:13 pm »
Hi girls just wanted to get everyones experience with how it was for you when having a new partner with the job.. me and a long time friend started seeing each other a few months ago, he's always known what I do for work, I've toned it back a little at his request, I now only work 3 days a week and then have 4 off, which I'm pretty much with him on those 4 days, we're trying to find a place where we are both comfortable, he wouldn't ask me to stop or anything, we're just trying to find a place where the job doesn't interfere too much.

What have your guys experiences been like?

Would you do the same with a non-sex work job?

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #3 on: 05 November 2023, 09:39:35 pm »
Would you do the same with a non-sex work job?

Good question. If this guy has issues with your job he... has issues with your job. This is only going to get worse as someone said above. Plus your income is going to be considerably reduced. Is he reducing his work hours and considerably reducing his income to be with you too? I hope so.If his income and working hours will not affected by this relationship I believe you're making a bad decision (unless of course he's wealthy and willing to pay you for those days off for accommodating your schedule in order to be with him, that would be the fair thing).
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Red_rosie

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #4 on: 06 November 2023, 05:38:35 pm »
Sorry I didn’t give too much detail. I slowed down the working so we could spend more time together, on my on days, I’m pretty much unavailable those whole days and with his job he can get quite busy too, so it was a compromise that was needed to be made to spend more time together. He’s quite well off, so money wise he can support me knowing that I’ve dropped hours, not that I need him to. But things are going so well, I see hopefully a great future and the ideal is to not have to do this so much in the future.
This is just the first time I’ve been in a relationship whilst being on the job, so I’m probably just more overthinking it and nervous about different situations more than he is.

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #5 on: 06 November 2023, 06:30:06 pm »
I would just be careful and protect yourself and never put him before yourself. If it all fails then you dont want to look back and resent the sacrifice you made when you could have worked for your future.


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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #6 on: 07 November 2023, 01:57:32 am »
My partner accepts my job and in fact he would prefer that I work in any other way, he respects my decision to practice prostitution and during all our years of relationship he has never interfered.

We know each other through mutual friends.

Under no circumstances would I accept a partner asking me to reduce my work. Today he is asking you to work 3 or 4 days a week, tomorrow he will ask you to work 2, and another day he will ask you to quit permanently. My biggest advice is to never stop working for a man or put your work in second place because they would never do that for you.

If he doesn't like your job and is causing problems, I would recommend that you end the relationship and move on, there are many men in the world and there are many men who will be willing to accept your job.

I know colleagues who are happily married or have been in relationships for years and their partners accept this job.

Don't settle for less.

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #7 on: 07 November 2023, 10:18:54 am »
Fuck him off.

My ex also had issues with it that he couldn’t even properly articulate beyond “because I don’t want other men to have access”, he begrudgingly tolerated it for as long as nobody knew and dropped me like shit when a punter mate of his pointed a finger at me one day. I was a verbal punchbag over something I was always upfront about and for a situation I had no control over. He also refused to help me identify this bloke so I could block him from seeing me again, he refused that saying he “won’t snitch on his mate”.

Just fuck him off. Those have a breaking point and you pay the price. Don’t waste time on small little man who can’t he this head out of his arse to see that’s a job and means nothing, and who’s more concerned about his own ego and public image.
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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #8 on: 07 November 2023, 12:36:51 pm »
I told my partner on our second date

He thought it was cool hahaa
To be fair he did mention he did date a porn star for 2 years as well

4 years later we are still strong .

I’m really lucky as he gets I don’t work a 9to 5 and have to re arrange our plans sometimes cause of work . He’s self employed as well so he just gets it that you work when it’s busy .


He’s never once asked me to stop but  we Both agree to not do marriage until I stop which is probably 2 years away

Some men just understand but my ex didn’t and that’s why he is an ex ‘

barbiegirl

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Re: Having a partner and the job
« Reply #9 on: 14 November 2023, 04:17:30 pm »
I've toned it back a little at his request

…why? Is he supplementing you financially to cover those days you’re not working? Is he helping you with bills etc in return?

If the answer is no, then this will end in tears I’m afraid. What if a lucrative reg texts you on a day that you’ve dropped for him? He wouldn’t give you that money would he? If he’s not helping you financially then he is entitled and selfish. It will only get worse and he will push you to your absolute limit over time.

If he has an issue then he has an issue. Unless he’s willing to look past himself then it won’t work. Pandering to him won’t stop him from having an issue.

You want to work and make money right? Then go to work and make money at your own free will? He has a problem? Give him the choice of looking after you, to shut up and deal with it or, leave. You will find out how much you mean to him.  ;)
« Last Edit: 14 November 2023, 04:23:03 pm by barbiegirl »
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