Hello everyone,

Well, this is a completely different subject and nothing to do with work, i just wanted some advice really.

Here goes, i have been friends with this woman for 2 years now, see each other everyday, txt each other everyday, i don't want to write too much in case someone realises who i am and exposes me, she hasn't a clue what i do and could probably NEVER find out. Well, she said i could borrow something of hers when i want and to use it as i please (i have 3 witnesses to this). So i went ahead and borrowed this item of hers, knowing that if anything happened to this item that it is my responsibility to look after it and replace it if need be, which is fine with me.

Anyway, i was borrowing this item, when she turned up and went completely skitz, saying i had to put it back now (considering the position i was in i really couldn't put it back right now, i am 8 stone and i was holding onto an animal that is very heavy with 4 legs going into a mad panic and he weighs about I'm not joking, a ton). I then pass this item to one of my friends, 1 of my witnesses, to take back to her, calm the 4 legged animal and walk both of us back to where this nutter is standing. Well this so called friend of mine (nutter of mine) went completely berserk, started hearling abuse at me (what a bad person i am, I'm a horrible person etc), now when i say shouting, i mean screaming like a banshee, i had to compose myself from smacking her as her child was there (yes did i meanton that her 4 year old child was there, listening to his mother going mad), her face was going so red i thought it was going to pop.

Anyway, after this complete nutcase had stopped embarrassing me in front of my other 2 pretty scared looking younger friends, she had the cheek to ask me for money, yes i kid you not, i was in my car ready to drive off, she comes up to the window, and starts shouting at me, i must give her money, blah blah, i wasn't scared, but i was starting to feel threatened so i locked us all in, her head was getting more and more in my window, so i threw money at her and did my window up and drove off, yes i did have to give her money that  day for something, but there are ways of asking for it, not threatening for it.

Then the nutter starts txting me all kinds of crazy shit, i stopped txting and she sent me a txt apologising but still saying i was a bad person, i dint txt back, the next day i received a txt saying she had thrown all my stuff out of a locked room and just left it. OMG!!! Is this woman mad or something, i had to go and pick it all up as its worth a lot of money.

I just don't know what to make of this, is she mentally ill? People don't just switch like that, i hadn't done anything to her, said anything to her, all i did was borrow something that she said i could, i have been really upset over this since it happened, i just cant understand why she has been like this, she even sent me a nice txt that afternoon!

Anyway, I'm sorry to bore you all and that it was so long, i just needed to get it off my chest.

Love N' Hugz.

Mak.
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Hello,

No she defo doesn't know what i do as we don't have the same friends, move in the same circles and we don't live in the same area. I defo know that none of her friends could have told her as i don't know any of them and they don't know me.

I have been so upset, i went to the docs on Friday and i have lost half a stone through stress (with the tiniest amount of stress the weight just falls of me). She really has put me in a predicament.

Love N' Hugz.

Mak.
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Hi Tiny, it could also be due to drugs or mental illness.  But either way, you need to start putting some serious distance, between you and her. Because either of those reasons, will only drag you down in the long run. And girl, EAT! Ben and Jerry's Cherry Garcia is my favorite comfort food. Hope it all gets better soon.
Kisses Violette

I agree with Violette - there is something really odd about this and I cannot imagine it is all about you. Your friend could be affected by drugs or alcohol or even just under a lot of pressure or stress - mental illness is another possibility but none of these should be leading you to compromise your health and happiness, especially when you have children.

If she approached you in a calm/normal you could try to talk to her about it, but I would be very wary - she sounds unstable to me. Do your other friends know anything about what it might be about? If you don't NEED to see her for anything, to be honest I would avoid her from now on - you have to protect yourself. And I would second the Ben and Jerrys and add on a decent fry with black pudding  .

Hello everyone,

Thanks for all of your replies, i know that this woman is very unstable and is under a lot of pressure at the moment, i suppose i was the person to bear the blunt of it. I am absolutely devastated as i have to see her everyday (If the truth be known we both keep our horses at the same yard).

I have been avoiding her as much as i can, Ive had to change my whole routine with my horse, who is, because of this, suffering. I have been on this land for a couple of years and now i feel i have to leave, i have made arrangements already, so the sooner the better. I just feel so sad that this has happened, i have come to the conclusion that its based on jealousy as well.

I have today felt better, as maybe the move and new surroundings maybe will do us both good (me & my horse not that spitefull bitch). So am looking on the bright side. I have eaten properly today, and have also stocked up on cream apple turnovers and New York Style vanilla cheese cake full of calories lol.

Thanks to you all.

Love N' Hugz.

Mak.

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