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Title: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: barbiegirl on 11 January 2019, 05:53:44 am
does anyone else get annoyed by this question? I don't cum from sex ever, unless someone is giving me mind blowing oral for a solid 45 minutes  ;D

when I tell them erm no I haven't cum they look so offended! I can't bring myself to fake orgasm either
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: VoluptuousCurves on 11 January 2019, 09:34:43 am
"would you like an honest answer or do you just want me to feed your fantasy?"

sadly 100% of the guys who have asked this have then gone soft.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: ladyofthemansion on 11 January 2019, 11:26:37 am
If I was turned on before I would be turned off after that question.

The other turn off is when they ask what do I like or what turns me on.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Justine on 11 January 2019, 12:33:01 pm
The other day I had a new client who thought I needed my clit to be rubbed with his fingertip, very hard and very fast. I hated it so gently asked could he please go softer and slower. He did for about 20 seconds then revved up again so I thought what the hell and let him think it was ok (only a half hour booking) and he thought he made me cum.

My assumption is that some men have had a success with their method and think that works for every woman. ok I know I was not helping dispel that myth with my fakery but he was obviously not interested in doing what I really needed so what the hell.

I constantly read of sps who have cum multiple times with next to no stimulation and think they are either a walking miracle or big fibbers.

Also men who ask how can they make me cum often ignore what I tell them anyway so they get what they deserve and that could be a fake O or that I tell them they were not successful!  ::)

I get a few genuine orgasms and that is nice so am a happy (ish) whore.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: saltysweet on 11 January 2019, 12:40:08 pm
Think they copy porn...with no idea. Very easy to just buck around for 5 seconds and say, 'I've cum' and they're happy. I think just hearing the words make them content which is ok in a way-easily pleased.
If I say truthfully it takes me 2 hours and they go '2 HOURS!!!' like I'm gonna skin their gran with a spoon.
If they're being pushy and objectionable I say I cum with people I find sexually attractive like my boyfriend. By that time I just want them to leave.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: laceygracie on 12 January 2019, 09:15:02 am
I'm the same as you OP, I know I'm not going to come from sex so just fake it and tell them that I did.
It doesn't even have to be theatrical. I'm under the impression that a lot of guys have not experienced or seen a real female orgasm so don't know any better. In all these years I've only been called out once lol.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Curvymamma on 12 January 2019, 01:06:58 pm
I quite often manage to cum with clients (As long as I use my vibrator), however the second they start saying "I want to make you cum" etc etc......any chance of that happening disappears.  Also the ones that somehow manage to rub you right on the end of your clit and make your legs twitch (not in a nice way either) really annoy me.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Grace D on 12 January 2019, 04:48:32 pm
I quite often manage to cum with clients (As long as I use my vibrator), however the second they start saying "I want to make you cum" etc etc......any chance of that happening disappears.  Also the ones that somehow manage to rub you right on the end of your clit and make your legs twitch (not in a nice way either) really annoy me.

Yes and when they get your urethra that's horrible. 

when they ask that dreaded question I always make a poit of showing them exactly how I like it but quite often they'll only manage it for 20 seconds as Justine said. So in that case I do the same thing, fake it and buck around for a bit to make them stop!
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Philippa Joyce on 12 January 2019, 08:29:33 pm
im 54 years old and the orgasms I do occasionally have are with younger guys. men of my age and older seem to be more selfish and do it the way they thinks best. with a younger man I can tell him how I like it and they;re like puppies, keen and eager to please...Marvellous!!
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Ellie B on 12 January 2019, 09:21:16 pm
im 54 years old and the orgasms I do occasionally have are with younger guys. men of my age and older seem to be more selfish and do it the way they thinks best. with a younger man I can tell him how I like it and they;re like puppies, keen and eager to please...Marvellous!!
I am quite the opposite. Younger guys do not or cannot please as they seem to want all the pleasure and the older guys usually know what to do and are just grateful!!!!
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: VoluptuousCurves on 13 January 2019, 05:03:59 am
I am quite the opposite. Younger guys do not or cannot please as they seem to want all the pleasure and the older guys usually know what to do and are just grateful!!!!
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Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: samcas on 13 January 2019, 11:08:43 am
When they ask this question it guarantees that they will be crap at sex. Those that ask are 2 types - young guys who I avoid and older clients who have no relationship or sex skills and are single for that very reason and desperate for sex ... these are difficult to screen out until you meet them. As soon as they ask or demand that I cum, I know they will be clumsy and awkward.

I actually cum quite easily through intercourse and g spot rubbing with a cock and do cum with clients. The best clients for this are the married ones who just want a proper shag in addition to what they get off their mrs and don't cum after 30 seconds. A bit of gentle foreplay to get the juice going and 2 or 3 minutes of missionary thrusting at the right angle (which generally means a not overweight client) with a mid sized cock and I will generally climax. Not many clients notice or comment if i cum but I have a couple of regulars who know when it happens.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: K212 on 13 January 2019, 12:21:10 pm
That phrase or question from client turns me cold too. It’s when I know this is not going to be an effortless booking. The types that like to get down there like it’s some sort of science experiment.
I fake orgasms because I want regulars who are easily pleased, feel good about themselves and I also don’t want to have someone “trying” down there for an hour or two straight leaving me sore. I’ll happily give gentle direction also. But sometimes it’s best to just play the part.
I have a friend who in her brief working career didn’t. And I just found it dragged things out and left for very disapponted guys. On duo’s I’d be behind the guy motioning ‘time to cum’ for the love of god LOL
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: barbiegirl on 13 January 2019, 11:55:48 pm
That phrase or question from client turns me cold too. It’s when I know this is not going to be an effortless booking. The types that like to get down there like it’s some sort of science experiment.
I fake orgasms because I want regulars who are easily pleased, feel good about themselves and I also don’t want to have someone “trying” down there for an hour or two straight leaving me sore. I’ll happily give gentle direction also. But sometimes it’s best to just play the part.
I have a friend who in her brief working career didn’t. And I just found it dragged things out and left for very disapponted guys. On duo’s I’d be behind the guy motioning ‘time to cum’ for the love of god LOL

Im exactly the same! I actually do not want to mess around with me down there as most men scratch around and pull your vulva everywhere like they're looking something they've dropped down their car seat! I also don't offer fingers a service for this reason, I was shocked that so many men had no idea how to use their fingers , leaving me uncomfortable and sore!

It's just a very awkward question, they know how much sex we're having and that it's a job for us, do they think we have an orgasm on every booking????
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: GothGirl on 14 January 2019, 01:58:33 am
Just fake it lol
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: BibiofLeeds on 14 January 2019, 03:25:45 pm
I think some guys do take the GFE fantasy a little too far and delude themselves into thinking that it is a mutually fun sex session like it would be if they had actually pulled.I think they forget that mostly we are not turned on at all and mostly do not find them attractive and are unlikely to climax.That said I have had a few unexpected orgasms where the guy got lucky with me as it were and happened to do something just right but mostly I faked it for their benefit as it made them happy or sometimes for my benefit if I wanted to move the session on from what they were doing.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Ellie B on 14 January 2019, 11:10:16 pm
When they ask this question it guarantees that they will be crap at sex. Those that ask are 2 types - young guys who I avoid and older clients who have no relationship or sex skills and are single for that very reason and desperate for sex ... these are difficult to screen out until you meet them. As soon as they ask or demand that I cum, I know they will be clumsy and awkward.

I actually cum quite easily through intercourse and g spot rubbing with a cock and do cum with clients. The best clients for this are the married ones who just want a proper shag in addition to what they get off their mrs and don't cum after 30 seconds. A bit of gentle foreplay to get the juice going and 2 or 3 minutes of missionary thrusting at the right angle (which generally means a not overweight client) with a mid sized cock and I will generally climax. Not many clients notice or comment if i cum but I have a couple of regulars who know when it happens.

Agree with first paragraph
There are some lovely guys that surprise me and know exactly what they are doing!













 


Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Rosesugar on 16 January 2019, 05:00:10 pm
I can't seem to Cum with these clients  but I'm not wet so I just say it's a mind thing I get a head trip orgasm they do tend to believe it but sadly others are licking or rubbing in the hope of some majestic squirting which I don't do.
With Sex I make the sounds tell them doggy position always makes me Cum. They can't tell then as I've deliberately put lube on condom so it's wet anyway
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Dynamite Doll on 16 January 2019, 05:33:05 pm
I can't fake it nor lie about it. I tell them straight you can't make me cum as I am not in love with you. Only one that can make me cum is  my boyfriend. They then say let me try I then say you will be wasting your time and turn what is a nice time into a horrible booking.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: barbiegirl on 16 January 2019, 11:59:28 pm
I can't fake it nor lie about it. I tell them straight you can't make me cum as I am not in love with you. Only one that can make me cum is  my boyfriend. They then say let me try I then say you will be wasting your time and turn what is a nice time into a horrible booking.

I am exactly the same! I cannot really cum with anyone other than someone I am in love with and actually have sex with for free  ;D
And when they ask if they can try it goes from bad to worse...so awkward! I don’t like to see these clients again as I see them as being overly personal and pushy
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: BangerRacing on 22 January 2019, 08:44:20 am
Have you cum? No It's not physically possible for a woman to climax with every client. Unless she has that spontaneous orgasm dysfunctional thing. You know the one where they sneeze & climax.

What would you like?  I'd like a guy to come in, pay me, rub my feet then piss off. 

I had one who'd booked for 30 mins, the other week, ask me if I would squirt. I replied, not unless you book for 2 hours & know your way around female anatomy. He was 25.

As for the clueless finger thrusters, I just push them away & say "I'm here to pleasure you". Or if I'm in a really bad mood I'll prod the end of their cock or similar & ask them if they are enjoying it.
 
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: kayley on 28 January 2019, 10:05:39 pm


As for the clueless finger thrusters, I just push them away & say "I'm here to pleasure you". Or if I'm in a really bad mood I'll prod the end of their cock or similar & ask them if they are enjoying it.
 


I needed this +100
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Clarabella on 29 January 2019, 09:42:41 am
I can't fake it nor lie about it. I tell them straight you can't make me cum as I am not in love with you. Only one that can make me cum is  my boyfriend. They then say let me try I then say you will be wasting your time and turn what is a nice time into a horrible booking.

Same!  I tell them straight that I don't cum with clients and I'm here to give YOU a service.  I don't like the thought of cumming with a client.  It's too strange for me personally.  I don't see these guys when I've had bookings like these.  They annoy me too much.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: CelesteManchester on 03 March 2019, 02:40:44 am
They kill me with that damn question, smh. I deserve so many Oscars & Academy  Awards it's ridiculous  *snorts*. The faster I fake that orgasm (within reason), the faster we're  getting it on & I'm  getting them out of my hotel room. There  are days I think I should be Meryl Streep, sheesh.

Not 1 has ever made me orgasm & not 1 ever will. Why? Bc I'm not interested  in you, that's why. I have absolutely  no connection  with you , so therefore  it won't  happ
en  & I'm  ok with that. The client  however, probably  goes back to the office  & brags how he made the escort cum buckets (eyeroll ).
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: DailyGrind on 03 March 2019, 07:00:34 pm
Same!  I tell them straight that I don't cum with clients and I'm here to give YOU a service.  I don't like the thought of cumming with a client.  It's too strange for me personally.  I don't see these guys when I've had bookings like these.  They annoy me too much.
I very rarely orgasm with a client and if I do I hate myself afterwards. Very strange feeling. I do everything I can to make sure they don't realise I have , as I dont want to give them the satisfaction of knowing they've done it.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Pretty Pink on 03 March 2019, 09:16:48 pm
I just fake it and quick if they’re annoying me. If they’re annoying me too much to fake it with them near me I tell them doggy, fast and hard then brace myself
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Justine on 03 March 2019, 09:43:33 pm
I very rarely orgasm with a client and if I do I hate myself afterwards. Very strange feeling. I do everything I can to make sure they don't realise I have , as I dont want to give them the satisfaction of knowing they've done it.

Oh my god that is hilarious. A kind of reverse faking it. I love it.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: DailyGrind on 03 March 2019, 09:56:59 pm
Oh my god that is hilarious. A kind of reverse faking it. I love it.
Haha didnt think of it like that! I should have been an actress...
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: PissedOffPrincess on 04 March 2019, 03:35:25 pm
I cum too easily no faking
I am the sneezer that cums

If they do not make me cum they are beyond bad

I tell them what they are doing wrong and insist they do it right
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: dabiggadahoop on 05 March 2019, 07:15:33 pm
If I'm horny I take what I need from them by ordering them around and make them do what I need to cum. This depends time of month and how horny I am. It makes no difference what they look like or how old they are. I find myself using men as a sort of human dildo.The less attractive the better, I let go, I let my imagination run riot. I have good sex with a guy who sees me regularly, but I don't cum with him as I'm more self conscious as there's chemistry and I thinks he's hot AF and I don't want to get involved.

The only problem is that the unattractive ones expect a repeat hot sweaty real orgasm session, Then I simply can't find it in myself to do it. They just where there at the right moment. Lightning in a bottle, sadly. For them and me. I do think a good majority of men are keen for you to enjoy it and it ends a session quicker if they think you've cum.
Title: Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
Post by: Ladybug on 22 March 2019, 02:14:52 am
That phrase or question from client turns me cold too. It’s when I know this is not going to be an effortless booking. The types that like to get down there like it’s some sort of science experiment.
I fake orgasms because I want regulars who are easily pleased, feel good about themselves and I also don’t want to have someone “trying” down there for an hour or two straight leaving me sore. I’ll happily give gentle direction also. But sometimes it’s best to just play the part.
I have a friend who in her brief working career didn’t. And I just found it dragged things out and left for very disapponted guys. On duo’s I’d be behind the guy motioning ‘time to cum’ for the love of god LOL
this is the funniest thing I’ve read on here. How hilarious. When they’re this shit I’d rather make them cum quick and then I can chill.  8)