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barbiegirl

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Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« on: 11 January 2019, 05:53:44 am »
does anyone else get annoyed by this question? I don't cum from sex ever, unless someone is giving me mind blowing oral for a solid 45 minutes  ;D

when I tell them erm no I haven't cum they look so offended! I can't bring myself to fake orgasm either
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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #1 on: 11 January 2019, 09:34:43 am »
"would you like an honest answer or do you just want me to feed your fantasy?"

sadly 100% of the guys who have asked this have then gone soft.
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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #2 on: 11 January 2019, 11:26:37 am »
If I was turned on before I would be turned off after that question.

The other turn off is when they ask what do I like or what turns me on.
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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #3 on: 11 January 2019, 12:33:01 pm »
The other day I had a new client who thought I needed my clit to be rubbed with his fingertip, very hard and very fast. I hated it so gently asked could he please go softer and slower. He did for about 20 seconds then revved up again so I thought what the hell and let him think it was ok (only a half hour booking) and he thought he made me cum.

My assumption is that some men have had a success with their method and think that works for every woman. ok I know I was not helping dispel that myth with my fakery but he was obviously not interested in doing what I really needed so what the hell.

I constantly read of sps who have cum multiple times with next to no stimulation and think they are either a walking miracle or big fibbers.

Also men who ask how can they make me cum often ignore what I tell them anyway so they get what they deserve and that could be a fake O or that I tell them they were not successful!  ::)

I get a few genuine orgasms and that is nice so am a happy (ish) whore.

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #4 on: 11 January 2019, 12:40:08 pm »
Think they copy porn...with no idea. Very easy to just buck around for 5 seconds and say, 'I've cum' and they're happy. I think just hearing the words make them content which is ok in a way-easily pleased.
If I say truthfully it takes me 2 hours and they go '2 HOURS!!!' like I'm gonna skin their gran with a spoon.
If they're being pushy and objectionable I say I cum with people I find sexually attractive like my boyfriend. By that time I just want them to leave.
« Last Edit: 12 January 2019, 04:49:35 pm by saltysweet »

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #5 on: 12 January 2019, 09:15:02 am »
I'm the same as you OP, I know I'm not going to come from sex so just fake it and tell them that I did.
It doesn't even have to be theatrical. I'm under the impression that a lot of guys have not experienced or seen a real female orgasm so don't know any better. In all these years I've only been called out once lol.

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #6 on: 12 January 2019, 01:06:58 pm »
I quite often manage to cum with clients (As long as I use my vibrator), however the second they start saying "I want to make you cum" etc etc......any chance of that happening disappears.  Also the ones that somehow manage to rub you right on the end of your clit and make your legs twitch (not in a nice way either) really annoy me.

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #7 on: 12 January 2019, 04:48:32 pm »
I quite often manage to cum with clients (As long as I use my vibrator), however the second they start saying "I want to make you cum" etc etc......any chance of that happening disappears.  Also the ones that somehow manage to rub you right on the end of your clit and make your legs twitch (not in a nice way either) really annoy me.

Yes and when they get your urethra that's horrible. 

when they ask that dreaded question I always make a poit of showing them exactly how I like it but quite often they'll only manage it for 20 seconds as Justine said. So in that case I do the same thing, fake it and buck around for a bit to make them stop!

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #8 on: 12 January 2019, 08:29:33 pm »
im 54 years old and the orgasms I do occasionally have are with younger guys. men of my age and older seem to be more selfish and do it the way they thinks best. with a younger man I can tell him how I like it and they;re like puppies, keen and eager to please...Marvellous!!

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #9 on: 12 January 2019, 09:21:16 pm »
im 54 years old and the orgasms I do occasionally have are with younger guys. men of my age and older seem to be more selfish and do it the way they thinks best. with a younger man I can tell him how I like it and they;re like puppies, keen and eager to please...Marvellous!!
I am quite the opposite. Younger guys do not or cannot please as they seem to want all the pleasure and the older guys usually know what to do and are just grateful!!!!

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #10 on: 13 January 2019, 05:03:59 am »
I am quite the opposite. Younger guys do not or cannot please as they seem to want all the pleasure and the older guys usually know what to do and are just grateful!!!!
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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #11 on: 13 January 2019, 11:08:43 am »
When they ask this question it guarantees that they will be crap at sex. Those that ask are 2 types - young guys who I avoid and older clients who have no relationship or sex skills and are single for that very reason and desperate for sex ... these are difficult to screen out until you meet them. As soon as they ask or demand that I cum, I know they will be clumsy and awkward.

I actually cum quite easily through intercourse and g spot rubbing with a cock and do cum with clients. The best clients for this are the married ones who just want a proper shag in addition to what they get off their mrs and don't cum after 30 seconds. A bit of gentle foreplay to get the juice going and 2 or 3 minutes of missionary thrusting at the right angle (which generally means a not overweight client) with a mid sized cock and I will generally climax. Not many clients notice or comment if i cum but I have a couple of regulars who know when it happens.

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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #12 on: 13 January 2019, 12:21:10 pm »
That phrase or question from client turns me cold too. It’s when I know this is not going to be an effortless booking. The types that like to get down there like it’s some sort of science experiment.
I fake orgasms because I want regulars who are easily pleased, feel good about themselves and I also don’t want to have someone “trying” down there for an hour or two straight leaving me sore. I’ll happily give gentle direction also. But sometimes it’s best to just play the part.
I have a friend who in her brief working career didn’t. And I just found it dragged things out and left for very disapponted guys. On duo’s I’d be behind the guy motioning ‘time to cum’ for the love of god LOL

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« Reply #13 on: 13 January 2019, 11:55:48 pm »
That phrase or question from client turns me cold too. It’s when I know this is not going to be an effortless booking. The types that like to get down there like it’s some sort of science experiment.
I fake orgasms because I want regulars who are easily pleased, feel good about themselves and I also don’t want to have someone “trying” down there for an hour or two straight leaving me sore. I’ll happily give gentle direction also. But sometimes it’s best to just play the part.
I have a friend who in her brief working career didn’t. And I just found it dragged things out and left for very disapponted guys. On duo’s I’d be behind the guy motioning ‘time to cum’ for the love of god LOL

Im exactly the same! I actually do not want to mess around with me down there as most men scratch around and pull your vulva everywhere like they're looking something they've dropped down their car seat! I also don't offer fingers a service for this reason, I was shocked that so many men had no idea how to use their fingers , leaving me uncomfortable and sore!

It's just a very awkward question, they know how much sex we're having and that it's a job for us, do they think we have an orgasm on every booking????
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Re: Have you cum/How can I make you cum?
« Reply #14 on: 14 January 2019, 01:58:33 am »
Just fake it lol