Oh my God, I am fuming! 

I have a regular who verges on being mildly to moderately annoying. There's a huge age difference but I am nice to him as he's loyal. But over the year I've had to decline telling him my real name when he asked and there have been other times where I feel he's tried to take advantage.

But he seems to take my boundaries with good will. He also excessively texts me too, sometimes about ridiculous things. This week the latest text from him was to tell me that he'd got a text from his mobile phone provider telling me that his free texts have run out and did I think it was to do with lockdown? 

How am I supposed to know? I think he thinks I'm a friend despite the huge age gap, even though I've told him nicely about my boundaries. I was careful of offending him though in case he spits his dummy out and I suppose because of the global situation I have put up with more than usual.

But when I answered his latest text I said my phone is a PAYG so texts cost me anyway, that's another reason why I like to keep them at a minimal. I didn't think there was anything offensive about that as I wouldn't have said anything if I did, but he's taken the huff and spat his dummy out and told me he's longer seeing me.

I know what you're all going to say and normally I wouldn't bother as there is always someone else, but with the current climate I don't know whether that will be the case.

He was a man who despite me telling him otherwise thought this job is my hobby, I give out my personal number to everyone and tell them my life story  I also respond to every text day or night no matter what the time is as I have nothing better to do.

God, I hate men like this! 

This is too involved, you don't need it and I would just leave him to go on his merry way.

I know, you're right, I will. I actually still can't believe he turned this round onto me!

He's the one in the wrong, not me. I have remained professional at all times. I'm half expecting an apologetic text later on but these men never learn as this situation has proven. If he does get in contact at a later date, I shall either ignore or tell him that he is no longer welcome depending what mood I'm in.

There are ALOT of these kinda guys around. It's really frustrating...

Tell me about it! It's infuriating! It's one of my main pet hates with this job. That and safety 

Seriously thinking of re-evaulating this job and if I can get another income from another self employed idea then I'm only going to see people I actually like 

The other thing to do is detect this earlier, stop it sooner - client either 'gets it' (some do), or doesn't book again. Saves a lot of energy drain and frustration.

I thought I had after making my boundaries clear several times. He's a piece of work and (another) creep anyway 

I had one like this and it affected our bookings cause he’d already drained the life out of me all week. I used to take hours to txt him back, I even made up that I had got a civvy job so I could ‘disappear’ for a few days a week, told him I’d lost my phone, you name it I had said it. Looking back now though I should have told him to leg it years before I did but he was worth a lot of money. You might be better letting him go Gypsy cause I blew my top in the end and it didn’t work out well but the peace afterwards was great!

This issue is something I believe to be one of the worst aspects of this work and  to be honest, I find them all the long term regs to become this way....

I get this so much with regulars and they want more attention than my friends do. I prefer married guys because they seem less likely to message unless it's to arrange booking. Single younger guys get clingy. I wish I could tour. I have a client next week and I have a feeling from just our first booking that he is one of those that wants to build a relationship outside of bookings. He was one of those nervous guys who wants a regular he feels comfortable with and like a friend he can spend time with .

The worst experience I’ve had in this regard is with young guys. They don’t seem to have it drilled into their tiny brains that just because their mother told them they’re gods gift doesn’t make it so. It’s why I stop accepting the type of clients that say things like “I’m quite attractive and young you might want something with me etc..” they’re always the worst fuckers for pushing your boundaries and becoming overbearing quickly and don’t seem to realise that what I’m doing is providing a service. I’m not listed on a dating app I’m listed in an escort directory but obviously some of these idiots can’t understand that the two are mutually exclusive. I don’t want a boyfriend and I enjoy what I do, I don’t need you to take care of me. Go download Tinder you knobs and stop bothering me.

I never, ever get this with younger guys. It's always significantly older men. This one who my post is about has to be in his 80's. And I'm 35     

He has always been on the sleazy side and had a career with a position of trust over young people which I'm sure he will have abused. He has the personality type and isn't used to being told no