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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: northernstar on 13 March 2021, 04:41:58 pm
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As above...
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Why don't you go first, NS? :)
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It’s what pays my rent and bills. So no. Very much interested in sex please and thanks. Hahahaha.
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Not really but most days I work I'm too tired to want any extra sex. Unless it's like a quicky lol. But I'm single so doesn't matter.
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I must admit it'd made me feel somewhat more transactional about sex?
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It's made me lose interest in bad sex, but I'm still quite fond of the good stuff.
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I must admit I have slowly started to lose the interest in penetration because I don’t get any sensation from condoms and all of my pleasure is from the exterior of my vagina. I used to love actual sex with my bfs but I haven’t had a boyfriend for 3 years now. When they do doggy I almost do a finger nail check and look around the room to see if Iv left anything undusted from cleaning or calculate how much money Iv made so far in the week and think what bills need paying whilst making fake moans and the casual PSE face over my shoulder every couple of minutes lol
But I do love all other parts of my services minus the grand finale haha
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I meant sex in my personal life for work I fake it but occasionally don't mind. I come more from my clit than penetration
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I have no interest in sex other than for work and have been like that for a long, long time.
I'm only in my mid 30's too.
I think my hormones have bought a one way ticket overseas. Maybe another reason is all the bad sex I've had over my life. The only good bits were in my teens and very early 20's.
More times than not I think I'll only have intimate encounters again if I'm getting paid. Otherwise, what's the point?
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I'm not as interested in sex as much as I used to be since doing this job.
I can still enjoy it and want it with a lover but they're few and far between for me these days
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I know what you mean Gypsy, I have no thoughts of needing sex outside of work. I had mind blowing sex in my 20’s and some with clients too but I almost feel a hormonal change has risen.
I also feel like I choose to make myself climax too with some clients like they are a sex toy and I take myself to a fantasy in my head of my choosing so in hind sight it’s never fully them that get me to that point and it’s always my choice if I cum or not, maybe I see it as taking my own control?!
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I must admit it'd made me feel somewhat more transactional about sex?
Have to say it's had the same effect on me.
I have had a handful of 'friends with benefits' for some years, but I'm increasingly reluctant to be giving it away for free now and not prepared to lose out on bookings to see them.
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Not the job, no. I'm coming out of a painless menopause and my libido is beginning to pick up again, but that may also be due to not having had sex for months!
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I don't think about sex or dating since I get paid to give this service to guys and then my free time is busy with catching up on my home life or for myself and if horny I can see to that myself better than any guys ever managed
for me transactional sex is all I'm interested in or have time for these days.
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This job hasnt made me lose interest in sex at all. I've never enjoyed sex with random people. I've always had to have feelings to be able to orgasm and feel like I'm being sexually close to someone. So if I'm in a relationship then it doesnt effect my want for sex with my partner in the slightest. If anything, it makes me want them more and makes my sex life better because having regular sex for money raises my libido for enjoyable sex with my partner. I can separate so much that it doesnt even feel like I'm doing the same thing. Sex work makes me feel confident and strong and that reflects in my sex life with my partner of the time.
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If anything, it makes me want them more and makes my sex life better because having regular sex for money raises my libido for enjoyable sex with my partner. I can separate so much that it doesnt even feel like I'm doing the same thing. Sex work makes me feel confident and strong and that reflects in my sex life with my partner of the time.
I feel the same way, GoneGirl. I usually have partner sex each morning because that's when I have free time, but my busy weeks working mean a healthy libido at home too.
My sex work, confidence, health, and mood go together and my work keeps me balanced and normally I don't really think about it. On the other hand, if I need to go more than a 2-3 days without working enough (thank you, coronavirus), I feel it. I'm less happy, don't sleep as well, and can get moody. My partner knows it and has joked when I miss work.
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I have some great sex with a lot of my clients and love the fact i get paid well for it too. I find an orgasm or two really sets me up for the day and even when I've had the off day it would cheer me up.
I'm in my twentiies so maybe might not feel the same if im still doing this a few years down the line and settled down.
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I am open about my job with potential partners and sometimes I get asked the question
'How are you still interested in wanting sex outside of your work?' ::)
I've got a personal shopper who asked this and I said to them that when they buy trainers for a client you still enjoy buying these shoes but you don't take them home with you, it might not be the kind of style you would pick out for yourself but you know about what kinds of shoes suit certain clients, you can be totally open minded, its interesting and varied and you probably pick up a few styles you may not have considered. When you buy shoes for yourself its something solely based on what you want at that given time and they are yours to take home with you. In other words, just because you buy shoes for clients doesn't mean you stop buying them for yourself.
It was the only analogy I could think to tell him! I know sex work isn't a tangible item but I think the point still rings true in regards to the work element.