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fallen angel

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #15 on: 28 November 2021, 09:48:47 pm »


These days if I go out on dates with anyone I just feel like I'm working for free.

Haha I feel exactly the same!

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #16 on: 29 November 2021, 01:13:39 am »
I've been thinking about this thread and I agree with those who say they don't enjoy civvie sex anymore, or they feel used. I had a very rare one night stand a few years ago and immediately went into tigeress mode nearly eating the poor guy alive. I kicked him out in the morning which I think he wasn't used to. Then I went to work and saw some clients!  It felt good to me at the time. It was slight revenge on the civvie men who had treated me in the same disposable way.  So maybe escorting *has* changed the way I relate to men - at least those who want to have free sex and then disappear the next day - in that I feel more confident and detached from the emotional side. I feel I should be paid. ;D In a way I relate to these guys more than I realise. I can compartmentalize things. Wow, this thread has really got me thinking
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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #17 on: 29 November 2021, 07:22:16 am »
I prefer clients to civvy men!

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #18 on: 29 November 2021, 08:36:37 am »
The twat who I had the misfortune of meeting 3 weeks ago who said he wanted to get to know people before taking things any further etc etc was just a complete bullshitter who only wanted sex and spat his dummy out when denied it.

I've never met a player who is so utterly toxic and misogynistic.

Can you imagine how I would feel if I did sleep with him ... the guy who I thought genuinely cared would just vanish. Needless to say he tried to turn it all on me and yeah he's completely innocent  ::)
« Last Edit: 29 November 2021, 09:24:52 pm by Gypsy »
These days there are no Prince Charmings. A girl just has to be her own hero

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #19 on: 29 November 2021, 09:57:44 am »
The twat who I had the misfortune of meeting 3 weeks ago who said he said to get to know people before taking things any further etc etc was just a complete bullshitter who only wanted sex and spat his dummy out when denied it.

I've never met a player who is so utterly toxic and misogynistic.

Can you imagine how I would feel if I did sleep with him ... the guy who I thought genuinely cared would just vanish. Needless to say he tried to turn it all on me and yeah he's completely innocent  ::)

Civvy men, especially players and narcissists know exactly what to say to get in yer knickers. I've wised up to it. I did think I met the perfect man a few months back, I was so attracted to him mentally and physically, we had the most amazing sex, but, he didn't want a relationship. There is no way I'm  fucking him for free. Story of my life and the whole reason I turned to escorting. Just can't take wading through the frogs anymore. I'm highly sexed and get grumpy without sex, but I also really detest men using me unless they're paying.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #20 on: 29 November 2021, 10:21:24 am »
Gypsy, I'm sorry to hear that. But it's better that you find out now than in a few months how you would be emotionally involved.

I think escorting changes everyone's perception of men and sex. Each affects a bit differently, but we have a different perspective. I am not sure if I like this perspective, because  it gives a sadder picture of human relationships.

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« Reply #21 on: 29 November 2021, 07:12:43 pm »
Civvy men, especially players and narcissists know exactly what to say to get in yer knickers. I've wised up to it. I did think I met the perfect man a few months back, I was so attracted to him mentally and physically, we had the most amazing sex, but, he didn't want a relationship. There is no way I'm  fucking him for free. Story of my life and the whole reason I turned to escorting. Just can't take wading through the frogs anymore. I'm highly sexed and get grumpy without sex, but I also really detest men using me unless they're paying.

Four years ago I was stupid enough to get off with a guy I knew was married and a player. I was crazy about him and still not over it. I completely lost all reason and made a show of myself.

As a result,  I won't entertain civvy men. The only time a man gets sex and affection off me now is when they pay for it. Becoming an escort has made me even worse and makes me wonder what the point is when seeing so many married punters.
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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #22 on: 29 November 2021, 07:17:58 pm »
Escorting does definitely harden you.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #23 on: 30 November 2021, 01:45:04 am »
I prefer to be paid for my time, civvy dating is hard work to sift through trash... I only want him if it’s going to benefit me..:

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #24 on: 30 November 2021, 03:10:43 pm »
I never thought it was possible! But deleted an ex flings number from my phone the other day. Low and behold he trys to ring. They always come creeping back when u move on! To think I used to cry over these trash! If anything, escorting has made me colder and realise my worth. Focusing on myself is the best! Unless the guy can add something to my life, then he can get in line and pay me like the rest 🙅‍♀️

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #25 on: 01 December 2021, 02:14:31 pm »
Its the other way around for me. I saw that overall relationships between men and women tended to benefit men more than they benefited women (women do majority of emotional labour, housekeeping, the orgasm gap, serious sexual and domestic abuse and violence, men more likely to commit repeated infidelities etc) and I wanted no part of it. Prostitution wasn't exactly wholesale emancipation from the bollocks, but it was preferable to other options on the table because I get a direct and clear benefit for my engagement without any one trying to convince me that they care about me so that they can get stuff out of me/take advantage of me. It hasn't made my view of men worse as such (or rather masculine society than men themselves, as some of them are OK as individuals) but it has crystallised it.




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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #26 on: 15 December 2021, 11:47:20 am »
I have always been bisexual, and I slept with a LOT A of men before I started escorting. I was always a pretty hyper sexual person. Since escorting my attraction to men has reduced by a lot.
More and more each day I work I think about whenever I quit in the future that I never want to go near a man again.

I do enjoy escorting and of course not everyone I see is disgusting - but I was wondering if I’m alone In this.
yes very much, even the ones with stunning girlfriends need more, the things peoples husbands ask you to do Roland the husbands sleeping with other men etc bet there wives don't have a clue..

im happy with my dogs lol,theyre loyal and all I need xx

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #27 on: 15 December 2021, 04:43:14 pm »
A relationship was never really for me, I enjoy my own company. But if there was any hope left escorting has definitely gotten rid of it.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #28 on: 15 December 2021, 06:41:07 pm »
Only confirmed the pre-whoring observation and experiences that they’re disloyal scumbags for the most part and the risks associated with any deeper involvement outweigh the potential benefits.

May I add that due to the volume of sex had, I am no longer phased by physical attraction or compliments. Those “tricks” vanilla men use to try get sex  simply no longer work with me. Whenever I hear the vanilla friends thrilled about cheap casual sex they’ve had last weekend, I feel absolutely nothing. Just think that there isn’t any good logical or economic reason to let a random to fuck for free.
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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #29 on: 15 December 2021, 08:02:43 pm »
May I add that due to the volume of sex had, I am no longer phased by physical attraction or compliments. Those “tricks” vanilla men use to try get sex simply no longer work with me... just think that there isn’t any good logical or economic reason to let a random fuck for free.

I am exactly the same. In the back of my mind, I'm always thinking I could have been paid for the thrusting in me and no orgasm on my side that comes with dating cis men