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roseanna

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #45 on: 01 April 2023, 02:18:02 pm »
Quote from: MissWolf on 03 March 2023, 11:07:36 pm
Absolutely beautifully said and very refreshing,  I 100% agree with all of this, I feel exactly the same about men and escorting,  I love doing this and find men fascinating,  I have more close male friends than women actually


It's helped me understand them for sure.

I think you can tell a lot about a man from the way they behave and respond sexually, in ways that you would never discover otherwise even if you knew them for a lifetime.
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Vintage Miss

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #46 on: 12 April 2023, 06:54:44 pm »
I don't resent men as individual people, but I do resent a sexist society that gives men a greater sense of self worth and entitlement and women a greater degree of scrutiny, criticism and consequently poor self-regard, encouraging men to take and women to give etc. I saw this not only from  reading in sociology etc, but from my own experiences of giving time and energy to boyfriends, male friends etc that was not fully reciprocated.

 But I got into the industry because I had that resentment, and as such I wanted to have very clear boundaries in my interactions with men and sex; if I'm giving you X, I need to know I'll be getting Y, so I don't feel like I have been short changed. So for me it was kind of the other way around.

(But it did not stop me from pursuing more pointless relationships with entitled low effort men men who have learnt to treat women as resources for their egos, oh dear...  ::))
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #47 on: 04 May 2023, 10:37:54 am »
Quote from: Sophine88 on 11 August 2020, 03:36:58 pm
Let me start off by saying I don’t want to paint all men poorly in this post but unfortunately there’s a lot of pricks out there and this becomes more apparent to you when you start escorting. The name calling, timewasting, berating, fragile egos and more I’m sure most girls can relate.

The problem for me is I’m no longer able to separate the men in my life from the cunts I’ve met on my way as an escort. I’ve met a bunch of lovely clients don’t get me wrong who just want to make the experience as easy as possible for both of us. What escorting has made me realise though is a lot of men are pure and utter trash and I can’t seem to shy away from this idea. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even want to date men in my personal life or have sex with them as they all just repulse and annoy me now. I find most men annoying and I know I shouldn’t but I do. Has anyone else experienced this as an escort. Or is it just a me thing.

 I won’t ever get into another relationship I’m single for life, this is because of bad experiences with civvy men in my personal life.
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FoxxyClara

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #48 on: 05 May 2023, 03:50:49 pm »
Quote from: Anonandon on 04 May 2023, 10:37:54 am
I won’t ever get into another relationship I’m single for life, this is because of bad experiences with civvy men in my personal life.

I would get into a relationship still … but my ‘type’ has radically changed.

I wouldn’t touch the ego driven misogynistic ‘alpha’ male wannabes with a barge pole nowadays. Give me a nice dad bod with a kind, loving personality and a willingness for an equal partnership.
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #49 on: 21 May 2023, 10:05:28 am »
Hi

Not so much resent men. a domestic violence incident made me resent men. And remember we only see clients who use escorts so we biased. I'm sure there's lots of men who don't use escorts and we never see them!

But I don't engage in casual sex anymore. I think to myself why should I have a one night stand when I can get paid £150 an hour for meaningless  sex!

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BigBooty_EvexXx

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #50 on: 12 July 2023, 09:38:57 am »
100%!!
I am bisexual; but lean more towards women in relationships- I've tried dating men again and I just can't. I do resent them a little. Their attitudes, the red flags, the amount of married men who see us! X
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Curvymamma

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #51 on: 12 July 2023, 11:39:28 am »
It has made me realise what an amazing partner of over 30 years I have!  If I were suddenly single I wouldn't seek out a relationship with another man, not when I've seen how other men behave.  I would be happily single.
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #52 on: 14 July 2023, 12:45:17 pm »
Yes. I was in a relationship for 4 years whilst escorting. I started to hate having sex with my partner. I was so tired and didn’t want him to touch me. Having sex in my relationship was like a chore. I loved my partner but I just didn’t want to have sex, all other aspects of our relationship were normal. I put it down to being used to having sex for money and I guess cutting off my emotions when having sex. I started to just do massage bookings and I felt that I slowly actually wanted to have sex with my partner again. I don’t resent men but I definitely noticed I hated having sex unless someone was paying me.
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #53 on: 23 July 2023, 05:30:36 pm »
The amount of married men who visit certainly makes me think I’ll never trust a man again...I was in a previous relationship for 5 years and yes he cheated on me and broke my heart.....it’s his loss.
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #54 on: 27 July 2023, 03:37:37 am »
Quote from: Curvymamma on 12 July 2023, 11:39:28 am
It has made me realise what an amazing partner of over 30 years I have!  If I were suddenly single I wouldn't seek out a relationship with another man, not when I've seen how other men behave.  I would be happily single.

I'm exactly the same as you I did this 10 years ago because we were desperate for money .We still love and trust each other and he gets off on my job (at least he is honest and tells me he is a perv)

It is easy not to trust men but remember one thing Most men dont see escorts as a rule . We only see men that cheat on their wives because that is the the type of people we look for
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Peggy

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #55 on: 27 July 2023, 12:53:44 pm »
Not at all, I find there are idiots or aggressive clients but I politely ask them to leave. I have a rigorous screening process and only escort part time. In my other life, I find that women can demonstrate much worse behaviour both personally (relationships) and work (professional environments). So let's have courtesy and respect for everyone. Unacceptable behaviour is not gender specific.
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #56 on: 24 October 2023, 06:29:50 pm »
I had very little experience with guys before escorting, and to be honest, I started to feel resentful lately. With the exception of some day ones, the others have been bastards! and I'm sorry to say that everyone has been a narcistastic, pompous idiot throughout the previous several months of travel. Northern and southern Ireland, in particular.
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Gypsy

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #57 on: 24 October 2023, 11:02:14 pm »
Experience with civvy men has gotten a hell of a lot worse since I first posted in this thread over 3 years ago  :FF
Nice and respectful clients still come though, thank God  :)

I find men with one particular name in general mess me about in my personal life and work life. So much so if they mention that name I want to stay well clear.

I've been doing this job nearly 8 years. And this name never brings me anything but hassle  ???
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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #58 on: 25 October 2023, 07:12:01 am »
Does the name begin with M I wonder?
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Sue69

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Re: Has escorting made you resent men?
« Reply #59 on: 25 October 2023, 08:13:41 am »
Clients is how I see them, most are frightened of getting caught and so respectful, the idiots I block.

I am perhaps lucky as this is spare time and I could easily stop if a relationship was on offer.  It’s the dating sites that get me, wind-up merchants, those lost in their own sadness of the divorce and those who just want a fuck, I will not have anything to do with those sites again.
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