I totally, totally get what you're saying.

I haven't had the best experience with men either, but this was with civvy men, not clients. Part of the reason why I do this job if I'm honest. I find civvy men to be much worse!

You're not alone at all. This job is empowering because of that 

The name calling, timewasting, berating, fragile egos and more I’m sure most girls can relate.

I get this with toxic men on dating/hook-up sites. I find clients a lot more straightforward and genuinely lovely. Plus I get paid: win win.

 

Dealing with mainly one-gender can be easy to make sweeping generalisations, good reminder for example to look across life when thinking about behaviour.

I also agree one of the big realisations even before I ventured into sex work, was that it seemed to be at least the same if not better regards how I would be treated AND I would get paid for it. At the time I had had some pretty poor experiences, but to be fair I had been as bad myself.

I can truthfully say I have met some great people during sex work, clients/punters included in that and continue to do so. So long as I am treated respectfully I am fine - more than fine in fact.

Total agreement with this. I was just about to ask the question now on the forum - are you still interested in men and sex in your “normal” life?

Yes, have just answered, but could have in this thread too. In a word, I agree with the others that civvy dating has had more of a (negative) impact than escorting.

The problem for me is I’m no longer able to separate the men in my life from the cunts I’ve met on my way as an escort.

Allowing negative work emotions to seep into private relationships can be poisonous and handicapping I agree.

No I don't resent men civvy or clients.
When I meet girls who start saying this and a few other red flag key phrases they usually retire a few months later. I can set my watch by it. It's like a big yellow post-it note stuck on their forehead. It's one of those predictable patterns...caused by burnout. Seen it so many times. Maybe re-think how you handle this emotional load?

I relate to this so hard OP.

The thought of marriage and kids repulses me, I’m far too cynical now. I find dating very difficult too, not because of the work life balance but because I simply can’t trust a word a man says to me. I was actually thinking about this yesterday and for a 21 year old I really do not put myself out there at all. If someone asks for my number I always decline.

I’m not all that bothered though. It’s something I’ve come to accept. Making money, buying properties and paying for my education is so much more important to me. I think I will end up the rich auntie with no husband and loads of cats 

Let me start off by saying I don’t want to paint all men poorly in this post but unfortunately there’s a lot of pricks out there and this becomes more apparent to you when you start escorting. The name calling, timewasting, berating, fragile egos and more I’m sure most girls can relate.

The problem for me is I’m no longer able to separate the men in my life from the cunts I’ve met on my way as an escort. I’ve met a bunch of lovely clients don’t get me wrong who just want to make the experience as easy as possible for both of us. What escorting has made me realise though is a lot of men are pure and utter trash and I can’t seem to shy away from this idea. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even want to date men in my personal life or have sex with them as they all just repulse and annoy me now. I find most men annoying and I know I shouldn’t but I do. Has anyone else experienced this as an escort. Or is it just a me thing.

I can relate to what you are saying, but I have a different experience. There are a lot of bad men out there, and maybe the population of men who are willing to purchase our services are a worse group than the rest, I don't know. If I get another degree, I may study that to find the answers    Men will also say that there are some real women cunts too, so figuring out who is worse at the moment is probably not productive.

What I've learned is that to succeed at escorting you need to be able to keep the jerks far away from you, your work, and your life. I've seen so many good women get burned out if they don't or can't do that. Screening in the beginning is super important, and sometimes you have to use instinct with your techniques. I've also focused on attracting good clients and retaining the regular clients I have. I find it rewarding to make someone into a long term client who depends on me long term and knows he can rely on me, and also realises what my expectations of his behaviour are.

Who are your best clients? What is different about them and what makes your interactions better than others?

Part of this job is doing more than just focusing on sex, but a little small talk, getting to know clients, and being a complete person with clients beyond just another SW goes a long way in this business.  My memory isn't always the best so I keep notes to remind me of things we talked about. I learned some of my personal skills from my clients who are very successful in their fields and sometimes are willing to share what made them do well. That's not something you can do if the focus is only on how closely you can space 30 minute bookings together all day.

Of course any of us can get tired of men from time to time, even though we've learned to keep going anyway. I think that is why I have so many escort friends who prefer women in their civvy lives even though they like sex with men. But think positive, where else can you have as much sex and variety as you like, get paid for it, have self growth, and learn skills you don't even realize you have?