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UrbaneAspects

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OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« on: 01 January 2010, 08:06:00 am »
Ok I know everyone has been quiet lately with Holidays and all...come back to life now lol.

Anyway...when you meet an extremely overweight client, how hard is it for you to provide a good session? Now...lest anyone thinks Im being a picky bitch about anyone who doesn't have a 6 pack or is only 10 pounds overweight...thats not what Im getting at.

I'm talking about a client who is over 100 pounds overweight...maybe even 2 or 300 pounds. Believe it or not, its very rare I come across them (even in America, the fattest country!). I usually attract athletic to semi-athletic types or just average guys. But recently I came across someone who was so overweight, they were like a blob. I wanted to start off with a massage but my hands could not even get proper form to do it. We couldn't even have proper sex if we wanted to because he basically just laid there on the bed.

I tried very hard and gave the best possible session, but all the while I came close to vomiting all over. It was so disgusting. I feel bad talking about it, but being that everything is so anonymous here, I cant help. Plus I cant get it out of mind! Its very rare I'll leave a booking feeling that disgusted, this was one of them! And he seemed like a fairly attractive guy...nice teeth and smile, hair on his head. It just seems like some people let themselves go so much to the point where there's nothing that can be done sexually.

I'm thinking of getting to the point of not seeing OVERweight clients. I don't mind a few extra pounds, or even a 'bigboned' kinda chubby guy (they are usually great in bed!) but someone who is a blob...I cant do anything with them. Even oral is hard to do. I also feel like I leave these bookings, and they know Im a bit disgusted...and never book me again. Some even seem to have a chip on their shoulders when we meet.

Would you ever consider a weight limit for clients?

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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #1 on: 01 January 2010, 05:39:47 pm »
hello,
  Happy new year!
  No i wouldnt have a wight limit for clients.We all have difficult jobs & being overweight isnt the worse thing! (think poor personal hygiene,aggressive/ rough men & those that dont understand the word condomn!)
   In the end u were a pro & finished it :),its not like he was unclean....just think you prop only get a few obese men anyway,theres ways of working around it u jut have to work abit harder  at faking/smiling,just dont let him get on top,he he
lol gemma x

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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #2 on: 01 January 2010, 05:44:13 pm »
No, and if my clients thought that way I'd be out of a job, lol.
As Gemma said there is a lot worse than overweight guys, if we are talking physical stuff brown, rotten teeth or a dirty willy are the two put offs for me - poor hygiene basically.
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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #3 on: 01 January 2010, 06:31:22 pm »
I have to second Gemma and Cassie, as I'm not even being touty when I say that obesity is really not a problem with potential clients for me! Half the time, the only reason the bigger guy is a difficult client is because he'll keep apologising about his weight (when he really shouldn't be) instead of getting on with having fun. :) Usually, they overcompensate with their hygiene, too, due to being badly affected in various areas of their lives by the ridiculous stereotypes about large people being unclean/unattractive. It's nonsense and annoys me in general how so many really great clients are ashamed of their age or size or whatever, when actually it's the guys with terrible attitudes  that owe women as a whole a huge apology!

Joey, I think you get too many hot clients. :P You must attract them with your hot body! I am rather normal in appearance and perfectly happy being so and getting 'average' clients, and I think escorting has helped me overcome some of my typical young-person arrogance that can encourage a dismissive attitude towards anyone older or of different-from-mainstream appearance. Not that I was that up my own arse to begin with, but everyone needs a bit of help when they're young! :P
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UrbaneAspects

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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #4 on: 01 January 2010, 07:20:13 pm »
In the end u were a pro & finished it :),its not like he was unclean....just think you prop only get a few obese men anyway,theres ways of working around it u jut have to work abit harder  at faking/smiling

I have 2nd thoughts about overweight guys being cleaner. I find the OVERweight guys aren't so clean...as some cant manage to clean all the nooks and crannies  :-X  and yesterday, this guy was no different. I could go on, but then I'd be writting a tell-all book and I'm not about to do that!

Overweight guys also tend to have skin issues...like weird bumps and bruises; Ugh I feel like such a mean priss right now! I know everyone is not going to be perfect, but I believe some things can be prevented. Being 400 pounds is not natural. One can only expect so much at that level.

I actually knew this guy was 400 pounds before we met because he described himself, but I didn't realize what 400 pounds looks like with no clothes on! what if you were to meet someone, and they turned out to be over the limit weight-wise...and you just turned around and left?

Joey, I think you get too many hot clients. :P You must attract them with your hot body!

LOL, Sometimes I'll be on a streak and then plop; someone else comes along..



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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #5 on: 02 January 2010, 09:39:51 am »
I hear ya Joey.

Big men not a problem but 300/400 lb men with huge stomachs which turn missionary into missionary impossible, not great. Fortunately that size is quite rare over here but I have seen a few. Those who realise that their size and shape make activities limited are fine but some dont want to accept their limitaions. I felt like I was going to split my kipper when doing cow girl on a very wide man so avoid that now. The worse problem though is the big men whose groin area is so abnormally fat that the first couple of inches of manhood disappears into it. That makes HR hard work as you either have to squash down the fat with one hand so you can properly get hold with the other or you end up doing half a job bashing down onto the groin fat throughout. Also if you do manage to climb on board, the condom never quite stays as it cant fit snuggly at the base so most of the time you are having to hold it on which combined with the thighs of steel cow girl on feet workout, is not the most comfortable or enjoyable position to be in.

So yes, I try very hard to give them a good time but personally I find its not the easiest or most enjoyable of jobs.   

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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #6 on: 02 January 2010, 03:23:30 pm »
I hear ya Joey.

Big men not a problem but 300/400 lb men with huge stomachs which turn missionary into missionary impossible, not great. Fortunately that size is quite rare over here but I have seen a few. Those who realise that their size and shape make activities limited are fine but some dont want to accept their limitaions. I felt like I was going to split my kipper when doing cow girl on a very wide man so avoid that now. The worse problem though is the big men whose groin area is so abnormally fat that the first couple of inches of manhood disappears into it. That makes HR hard work as you either have to squash down the fat with one hand so you can properly get hold with the other or you end up doing half a job bashing down onto the groin fat throughout. Also if you do manage to climb on board, the condom never quite stays as it cant fit snuggly at the base so most of the time you are having to hold it on which combined with the thighs of steel cow girl on feet workout, is not the most comfortable or enjoyable position to be in.

So yes, I try very hard to give them a good time but personally I find its not the easiest or most enjoyable of jobs.   

God, I could have written that myself. I have terrible trouble with extremely large men as I am small with short legs and have real trouble keeping my balance (and the cowgirl-on-feet is sheer bloody murder for more than a few minutes). I do find that the Pasante 'Trim' condoms fit nice and snugly, and you can also do a sort of standing doggy at the edge of the bed provided you can actually get started.

All that said, I do agree with the other ladies - it's purely the physical logistics whch concern me and I would not judge a very large client as a person any more than I would if he was especially old, young, tall or short - one of my favourite regulars is a great big fella and I always look forward to seeing him because he is such good company! As Gemma said, there are far, far worse things we have to contend with.

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Re: OVERweight clients...how hard do you try?
« Reply #7 on: 02 January 2010, 07:18:40 pm »
I felt like I was going to split my kipper when doing cow girl on a very wide man so avoid that now.

LMAO! fortunently I have long legs so I am able to get into a 'straddling' position alot easier...although sometimes I feel as Im close to pulling a hamstring lol.

it's purely the physical logistics whch concern me and I would not judge a very large client as a person any more than I would if he was especially old, young, tall or short -

When push comes to shove, I find it easier to work with a much older client (55+) than someone who is very overweight. I think being 400 pounds is more than just 'cosmetic', I certainly believe its more 'mechanical'.

I think if someone allows themselves to get to that point by neglecting any type of exercise, then they should atleast realize what that involves. Of course, everyone falls short at some point in their exercise life...just yesterday I went to the gym after a 1 month hiatus due to moving, having the flu+ sininitus, not to  mention the very slow December in which I couldnt pay my bill  :P

But to go 10, 20, 30 years and never walking more than a few feet from house to car?....well thats just ridiculous