Hello everyone!

Just a quick one to see if anyone else has had this situation and how you felt because I feel a bit weird about it- I think one of my elderly clients has died. He booked appointments like clockwork for about 3 years, and whilst organising our last one, he suddenly went quiet. Since then, I've sent a couple of jovial messages to a safe email address just asking if he was alright (and not pressurising him for an appointment obv).

I have been suddenly dropped by regular clients before and fully accept that this is a possibily (not that up myself to assume the only reason he went quiet is because of death!) but this was just so abrupt and unexpected, coupled with the fact I know he was rather old and not in the best of health, that it has shocked me a bit.

I don't particularly love the job, but I do feel a bit sad which is strange because I am quite blank-minded and unemotional when it comes to working. In all honesty I am a bit shocked that I feel sad at the thought he might have died.

Very weird situation, just wondered if anyone else has experienced this. Trying to understand my thoughts I guess.

Thanks,

Carla xxx

Hi Carla , most of my clients are elderly as I state on my website that I have a thing for older men ( so some must read the blurb eh)

This has happened to me a few times over the years and I think it's natural to think this way as we see them so regularly (and they do like their routines Don't they) they consider us ' dear friends' .

Truth is you will probably never know, and I wouldn't send anymore emails etc just incase you get a nasty reply when his family find this.

One of my missing elderly guys had a picture of me fully clothed with his beloved cows (he used to show me round his farm every time I went) and I often wondered after he disappeared what his family would think when they found it, assume I was the local vet 

One guy even said to me that he'd given a lot of thought  into how he could let me know when he died, he thought of telling a friend to tell me but then wondered how I would explain who I was at the funeral! 

So really best not knowing eh.
And like Amanda said think of the pleasure you gave him and revel in the feeling of job satisfaction

X

That is quite sad, especially because you saw him for such a long time, and now because of your 'role' in his life you may never know what happened. 

I had a young (21) disabled client pass away a month after I saw him.  His carer emailed to let me know which was so nice of him to do.  And whilst it was very sad I was the only girl he ever had been with, and that it makes me really glad to know that I was able to help him with that experience before he died. 

Ho hum. Well if it is the case that he died, then I sincerely hope he found some sexy silk-pantaloon clad angels in heaven to chase around lustfully, and I suppose I should be glad to have provided such an enjoyable distraction in his twilight years 

C xx

Hi Carla - poor him and poor you - but 'silk-pantaloon clan angels' is such a wonderful image and I hope he did too!
Do you remember I was supposed to go to Italy?  Well it never happened and I found out recently that he had had a massive heart attack!  He booked me again and I was scared witless but we took it slowly and he was breathing when I left!  But now I've not heard from him again and I'm panicking!