Hi,

I recently met a client who'd been pushy over the phone and (I know!) I made the mistake of agreeing to see him as I was totally skint.  He turned up with a really weird look on his face and fear swept right through me, he was a big guy and I immediately thought one punch would split my skull in two.  I asked him what was wrong twice and he just said "I'm gonna go".  I have never felt such relief as I was about to ask him to leave and I was physically shaking as I locked the door behind him.

I know we've really only got our gut feeling on meeting clients but I wondered who else has had a close call like that, judging by gut alone.

Thanks x

Always good to listen to your gut instinct, it's usually right.
Hard in these times but I have found that on the rare occasion when I have given the benefit of the doubt over my gut instinct I have wished I hadn't.

I will never ignore that again, every time I have that intuition has been proven absolutely correct.

A while ago I read about this being called "pattern recognition". Quite similar to what VoluptuousCurves is saying, it's not some magic or superpower but rather an actual normal brain function. It recognizes subtle patterns that point to future behaviours and it warns you. At first you may ignore them because of that social conditioning but with years and experience you end up understanding that it is indeed a pattern recognition and you got it right.

For example when you read a full enquiry and there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with it but you still get a weird vibe. If you look closely it's maybe the choice of a specific wording, the way in they referred to something, a very small action like not paying attention to one of your seemingly simple rules, etc. I recently went through a series of emails from a prospective client that was giving me a weird vibe but since I couldn't find where it exactly was and thus argue that he was not a good guy, I felt lost. Later he ended up showing his true colours and when I went back to re-read the first emails I started finding little very subtle red flags everywhere that I hadn't seen before. My brain was warning me about it but it was not conscious.

Always believe your brain and gut feeling. Although you may occasionally lose a genuine client here and there, the vast majority of times it will save you from an abuser.

Glad you handled that and it turned out well Foxy, scary shyte. Yeah that's an adrenalin rush. The shaking was a side effect of adrenalin pumping through your body giving you extra energy to fight or flight. I've had it too and knew that was the right time to ring the police and leave the room. Say hello to your lizard brain taking care of you.

Foxy, gut instinct is usually right in my view. I had this guy years ago come to see me a few times but after he'd finished he'd have a weird look in his eyes. Nothing happened but I blocked him. I just know he could have turned funny. I don't know about anyone else but when I look at mugshots of guys who've raped and killed etc, their eyes look psycho to me.

Good call Amy, you got the bad feels and knocked it on the head.
I imagined that freaky look was cause their ass is sat in the station staring into a police camera! I bet I'd look the same

I always get clients to text rather than call, I know it’s probably weird but I can tell what a person is like by their grammar. If they take the time out to write a decent text then I know there’ll be less likely to be psychos, timewasters or drug/drink fuelled.
I’ve seen one aggressive guy and I could tell by his text, if it was late at night I wouldn’t have even considered it.... but it was 8am on a weekday and the outcall was to a huge posh house so I thought he was just probably wanting a bit of fun before work... I was sooo wrong. He was huge, he looked and was built like a Viking and he was on coke... so probably the most uncomfortable early morning booking I’ve ever had, if only I had gone with my instinct.
I think you’re right about the sixth sense.

I've had this recently with a client. He booked through the phone, he seemed a little dim but nothing too alarming. On the lead up to the session day, my gut was going nuts so I cancelled. He said he was happy to reschedule and I thought, perhaps I'm overreacting. I starred feeling guilty about cancelling - the poor guy only wanted fucked in the ass. So I rescheduled. However, as the day approached again, my gut was going beserk. So I cancelled again and I won't feel guilty for it this time. Something was definitely off and I am not going to ignore my gut!!