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China_Grl

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #30 on: 20 July 2020, 04:27:45 pm »
 :) never felt any guilt in the 20 odd years I've been in this profession.

Nelly

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #31 on: 28 July 2020, 04:13:08 pm »
As someone that has been an escort their whole adult life (on and off!) I can wholeheartedly say I do not have any feelings of guilt. However, I do have some remorseful feelings, as a 40 year old who first got into this in my teens. These are the reasons why:

- Your 20s and 30s are normally the years in which you climb the career ladder and in time, achieve financial security through legitimate/ official means. As an escort, it is unlikely you will be able to do this (I know there are exceptions.) This means that in my case I do not have a secure career/financial foothold in life and m unlikely to create one now.

- Children. I've never wanted them but escorting has meant that I would never have been able to meet a traditionally-minded partner with whom to have children within a monogamous relationship, even if I had been that way inclined.

- In my experience over 20+ years, in escorting your life stays still. I am what I was 25 years ago- an escort. I still see some of the clients I saw over a decade ago and they have all advanced in life - better careers, marriage, personal progression. I am still the same as when they first met me. Which in a way is quite nice - I like my life- but does reinforce my feeling that being an escort has kept my life in stasis.

And like you OP it was not like that at the start - it was just for fun! And still is, really.

(Of course these are my personal opinions and I understand they don't apply to everyone.)

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #32 on: 29 July 2020, 11:10:56 am »
As someone that has been an escort their whole adult life (on and off!) I can wholeheartedly say I do not have any feelings of guilt. However, I do have some remorseful feelings, as a 40 year old who first got into this in my teens. These are the reasons why:

- Your 20s and 30s are normally the years in which you climb the career ladder and in time, achieve financial security through legitimate/ official means. As an escort, it is unlikely you will be able to do this (I know there are exceptions.) This means that in my case I do not have a secure career/financial foothold in life and m unlikely to create one now.

- Children. I've never wanted them but escorting has meant that I would never have been able to meet a traditionally-minded partner with whom to have children within a monogamous relationship, even if I had been that way inclined.

- In my experience over 20+ years, in escorting your life stays still. I am what I was 25 years ago- an escort. I still see some of the clients I saw over a decade ago and they have all advanced in life - better careers, marriage, personal progression. I am still the same as when they first met me. Which in a way is quite nice - I like my life- but does reinforce my feeling that being an escort has kept my life in stasis.

And like you OP it was not like that at the start - it was just for fun! And still is, really.

(Of course these are my personal opinions and I understand they don't apply to everyone.)

1) it’s possible to find someone who both wants a family and accepts escorting (rare but exists)
2) you don’t have to be “just escort” and can use the money to develop another business and gain qualifications - planning a total u turn soon
3) never too late to train and gain a new skill to make career start or change

Also no feelings of guilt ;-) except that I have started so late! lol

LisaLeeds

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #33 on: 06 August 2020, 02:34:14 am »
Yes for reasons already mentioned by others.


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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #34 on: 03 September 2020, 04:49:37 pm »
My only feeling of guilt is surrounding my Mother and lying to her. Just because I know once I say it I can’t take it back and I don’t know what her reaction will be. I have just started my own business with my prostitution profits  :P which was always the goal. And at 24 I have achieved it. This does now mean that I have an excellent excuse for obscure working hours and having money but it does make me feel guilty when my Mum calls and I say my friends coming over to watch 90 Day Fiancé and I’m actually in a crotchless unitard waiting on a 50 year old man.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #35 on: 11 September 2020, 11:31:38 pm »
Like Ella unicorn, I felt guilty telling lies to my parents, but they recently found out.

When I first started I got a frill from telling people I am a prostitute and seeing how they react.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #36 on: 18 November 2020, 10:51:54 am »
My only regret is that during my marriage I worked less and let my ex control/dictate my work.

Other than that, nope no regrets. Nor should I have any.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #37 on: 22 November 2020, 02:46:36 pm »
No regrets or guilt here. Apart from wishing I had started a lot sooner!

I wanted to second this.

I've been escorting for 6 months so still super new. But if I could rewind time I'd save up all of my birthday money, rent out a 2 bed property, move out as soon as I'm 18 and set up my profile!