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Summer123

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #15 on: 30 June 2020, 02:51:55 pm »
The only thing that makes me feel horrible being an escort is the people's opinion about escorts and also sometimes miss having a real relationship with someone I love

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #16 on: 30 June 2020, 04:54:40 pm »
I’ve been working for 5 years now and have no guilt with the whoring part of it, but massive guilt about how much money I’ve saved in that time! Could have a few hundred thousand in the bank but only a little of that due to my spending habits  :-[ :-[ so you’ve just started so maybe make some kind of rule about what you save per month. I so wish I had done this from the beginning and would be totally 100% guilt free if so :)

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #17 on: 30 June 2020, 08:42:22 pm »
I’ve been working for 5 years now and have no guilt with the whoring part of it, but massive guilt about how much money I’ve saved in that time! Could have a few hundred thousand in the bank but only a little of that due to my spending habits  :-[ :-[ so you’ve just started so maybe make some kind of rule about what you save per month. I so wish I had done this from the beginning and would be totally 100% guilt free if so :)

This is a problem. I was the same, but I had to take a long time out a few years back, and that really woke me up because I ended up in debt which should never have happened. Now I keep to a tight budget and it's a good feeling when you know you can do it. It's self discipline and very similar to keeping to a healthy diet. Just the occasional extravagance but not too often.


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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #18 on: 01 July 2020, 12:10:22 am »
[removed]. The guilt I feel is just peoples opinions on us.  Being  a whore and knowing I'm a whore gets me down.  My mother and father would be totally ashamed of me and who can blame them but I need the money.

I also hate some of clients.  They can be rude and disrespectful.
« Last Edit: 01 July 2020, 05:03:50 pm by SAAFE »

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #19 on: 01 July 2020, 09:33:33 am »
Just want to say thank you for all the responses. I feel loads better about not feeling guilty! And not conforming to societys 'accepted' standards. And you're right about the extravagant spending, I've cut down but until now I'm just buying absolute crap. The amount of lingerie I have now is insane! And they all look the bloody same!

TheVixen

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #20 on: 02 July 2020, 12:36:13 pm »
No guilt or regrets from me.
It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done, although I’ve never been full time and have always had my work on the side, it gives me independence it allows me to achieve things I probably wouldn’t have.
It’s also taught me to save, and invest.

A couple of my friends know, a close family member who is the same age as me knows but nobody else. I’m not ashamed, I’d love to tell the world, but not everyone is a liberated as me and if you’re not in the industry your view of escorting etc is going to be the trashy stuff  you see on the TV basically, which isn’t reality.

I have mostly great clients, mostly regular who I enjoy, might not always enjoy the sex, but many of them are decent company who you can have a laugh with!

Anyone else feel like it’s given you confidence and self worth? Before escorting I would probably believe a lot of what guys say even the cliche things, I’d probably tolerate a lot of negativity aswell, but doing this job I feel I’ve heard every line in the book, and I don’t put up with bullshit, which carries over into dating. Win win really!

Hannaah

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #21 on: 02 July 2020, 06:53:10 pm »
I have zero guilt or regret about doing this. I started about 6-8 years ago when I desperately needed the money to resolve some personal shit and have continued ever since, even though that is long resolved. My partner of 5 years knows I do this and supports me 100% as does my mum and another family member.  I guess I'm lucky that I knew there would be no judgement from any of them and able to have a support system in place, I'm not sure if I would feel the same if I had no one to confide in.

For strangers and the general public view on this job, I have never and will never give a flying fuck what they think about me.  :D
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lipsandlashes

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #22 on: 14 July 2020, 11:56:03 pm »
Guilt ?

nope - did a few jobs years ago that were back breaking, filling shelves, and in a hotel, hard work for a week and paid a couple of hundred quid. now i can get a couple of hundred quid in an hour and I can actually enjoy it.

No guilt what so ever, I just wish i had woke up and started this a lot sooner.

TantricTease

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #23 on: 15 July 2020, 02:14:54 pm »
At first I used to feel guilty on all the wives and girlfriends of the men that were my clients but now I look back and cannot believe that I took the responsibility of that on, it’s not my place and I’m not cheating on the wife or partner, I am a business woman and it’s really none of my business about whether the men are single or not, and I stopped asking if they were attached long ago..yes I honestly used to ask!! :FF

When I first started working then I would take £1000 uptown and just buy utter crap that I didn’t need and I felt very guilty back then but I’m not sure why, I was single and wasn’t hurting anyone but there was an immense feeling of guilt that I can’t describe but now I have zero trace of guilt, though I now feel sorry for people that work the NMW in shitty jobs, I almost feel superior towards them money wise and that’s not right either but I can’t help it, or maybe I’m mixing up feeling superior to feeling sorry for them..they may feel sorry for me too and I can’t stand being pitied!

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #24 on: 15 July 2020, 03:09:43 pm »
When I first started working then I would take £1000 uptown and just buy utter crap that I didn’t need and I felt very guilty back then but I’m not sure why, I was single and wasn’t hurting anyone but there was an immense feeling of guilt that I can’t describe but now I have zero trace of guilt, though I now feel sorry for people that work the NMW in shitty jobs, I almost feel superior towards them money wise and that’s not right either but I can’t help it, or maybe I’m mixing up feeling superior to feeling sorry for them..they may feel sorry for me too and I can’t stand being pitied!

Agree with this 100%. It can be a very confusing mix of feelings sometimes!
Sometimes I think like I know better because I can put myself in their shoes (since I was previously content earning far less money, and thought escorting was something I would never do) - but they can't put themselves in mine, where now I am selling sex and very happy about it too.

This is bullshit though of course. We are all on our own journey.
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #25 on: 17 July 2020, 05:20:17 pm »
I think I'm missing something, guilt about what? Paying my bills and having a decent quality of life? I'm only responsible for me, no one else so..

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #26 on: 17 July 2020, 11:20:11 pm »
I don't think we should feel guilty about offering a service to keep food in our mouths and roofs over our heads, whilst making our clients feel happy about themselves. We sell an experience that isn't hurting anyone. If a client wants to be irresponsible in his private life, then it's between him and his family. If it wasn't you or me he's paying, then it would be Jenny with the tits, down the road.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #27 on: 18 July 2020, 06:18:05 am »
Most of my business is regulars who I enjoy taking care of. Sometimes I feel guilty if I can't schedule them when they need, especially if they are relying on me long term. But I always do my best to reasonably accommodate their needs. What else could I feel guilty about? 

This job is as good as your clients are. Good clients, good life.  I've always believed take care of them and everyone is happy.

foxylady

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #28 on: 19 July 2020, 02:42:27 pm »
No guilt whatsoever.   It really is other people that have a problem with it.  I told people as I feel unashamed of what i do  (and think if we all stood up and declared it, society would have to become more accepting, but i understand lots of people can't.)  The reaction of certain people who no longer speak to me was a bit hurtful, others however were fine about it as were my close friends.

As far as the job is concerned I only see a handful of people a week and enjoy it.  5 years in and I've only ever had one 'entitled' client, every other person I've met has been fine.


roseanna

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #29 on: 20 July 2020, 10:31:48 am »
Most of my business is regulars who I enjoy taking care of. Sometimes I feel guilty if I can't schedule them when they need, especially if they are relying on me long term. But I always do my best to reasonably accommodate their needs. What else could I feel guilty about? 

This job is as good as your clients are. Good clients, good life.  I've always believed take care of them and everyone is happy.

I could have written this, but you beat me to it - lol. 100% agree