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Jadebear

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Guilty side of escorting
« on: 22 June 2020, 01:35:55 am »
Ok,

So, I'm a newbie. I've been escorting for the past 4 ish months and so far enjoyed it. I actually met my current partner through it, one of my first clients. He doesn't ask or care so I don't mention anything but I'm obsessed with reading all these forums online about escorts. I've always been fascinated and interested in this profession but seriously most things I read on reddit, news forums, articles etc speak about the regret behind it. Is this a common theme? I have no guilty conscience at all. I wouldn't tell my parents or friends due to how socially unacceptable the oldest profession is still viewed but I'm thinking maybe something is wrong with me?! Lol.

No guilt, just wholesome love for my fellow gals. I feel for the people who have no other option and I know some people in my area are forced into this job but I'm not talking about them just regular gals who make the choice to become escorts. I don't think I'll look back in 10 years time when I'm 30 with loads of regret and think it'll 'stain my soul forever'

So, does anyone else have the no guilt thing?

Rant over. Excuse my bad grammar, my phone is tiny and I can't read the screen properly!

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #1 on: 22 June 2020, 03:18:22 am »
No regrets or guilt here. Apart from wishing I had started a lot sooner!

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #2 on: 22 June 2020, 03:25:09 am »
I can only speak for myself but when I started as youngling, I had the same feeling of euphoria and a "I don't give a fxck" attitude about this profession.

The guilt did creep in after 6 months only because I had to constantly lie to mother and friends about where the money was coming from.

I plan to return in 2 weeks after a very long break where I've told those that need to know that I've left the profession. I won't be working myself to the bone like I did when I was younger so it'll be easier to not have to explain things

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #3 on: 22 June 2020, 06:39:08 am »
No guilt here felt whatsoever nor should there be.  It is just a service the same as a haircut or massage.  That is just the way I view it anyway.  How I wish I had started it much sooner though ....!  I just didn't know about adultwork or I would definitely have gone into it a few years prior when money was getting exceedingly tight.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #4 on: 22 June 2020, 08:06:30 am »
Although some people know it's the secrecy which I can feel guilt about, also a comment made by someone who should have know better working in a professional capacity supposed to be helping with a serious issue told me sex work would eat away at my soul. That person definitely had an issue, I have a good idea what that issue is but still hasn't removed that comment. Sits alongside a few other prejudiced judgemental words by professionals over the years. Many haven't been like this, many have had great respect but a shame to receive the judgement.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #5 on: 23 June 2020, 12:00:31 am »
I think the "guilt" only really sets in if you're influenced heavily by other people and their opinions, be it family or friends.

If you are strong within yourself and are genuinely happy within yourself, you won't experience that  :)

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #6 on: 23 June 2020, 05:06:49 am »
To be honest at the very beginning of escorting I did wonder if doing this job would eat away at my soul but it never happened so so much for society's hang ups and assumptions!

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #7 on: 23 June 2020, 06:07:32 pm »
No guilt. Sometimes I feel sad for the the state of matrimonial sexually repressed pseudo-monogamy and sometimes I've felt isolated because I spend a lot of time alone because its not always easy to maintain friendships and relationships for one reason or another. But then I like my own company anyway. But never guilty. I'm not breaking any of my own moral codes or any  promises I've made to anyone.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #8 on: 23 June 2020, 07:54:27 pm »
Absolutely no guilt whatsoever.. I'm not coercing someone into doing something they don't want .
Guilts a useless emotion

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #9 on: 23 June 2020, 11:13:58 pm »
Another guilt-free whore here. I had lots of flings with married/attached men as a singleton, and can't say I lost any sleep over that, either. I would never deliberately go after someone in an LTR, or attempt to disrupt it, but if the man is out looking it's on them as far as I'm concerned.
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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #10 on: 24 June 2020, 10:03:19 am »
Ok,

So, I'm a newbie. I've been escorting for the past 4 ish months and so far enjoyed it. I actually met my current partner through it, one of my first clients. He doesn't ask or care so I don't mention anything but I'm obsessed with reading all these forums online about escorts. I've always been fascinated and interested in this profession but seriously most things I read on reddit, news forums, articles etc speak about the regret behind it. Is this a common theme? I have no guilty conscience at all. I wouldn't tell my parents or friends due to how socially unacceptable the oldest profession is still viewed but I'm thinking maybe something is wrong with me?! Lol.

No guilt, just wholesome love for my fellow gals. I feel for the people who have no other option and I know some people in my area are forced into this job but I'm not talking about them just regular gals who make the choice to become escorts. I don't think I'll look back in 10 years time when I'm 30 with loads of regret and think it'll 'stain my soul forever'

So, does anyone else have the no guilt thing?

Rant over. Excuse my bad grammar, my phone is tiny and I can't read the screen properly!

I didn't feel guilty before and this time around I love fitting escorting around my personal life.

I don't read up in to the stigma against escorts anymore is such a relief.

I have got a supportive non client partner, I didn't see clients serious people is all.

There is nothing wrong others with clients though. Xx

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #11 on: 24 June 2020, 11:07:35 am »
No regrets or guilt here. Apart from wishing I had started a lot sooner!

+1

Why should you feel guilty? It’s THEIR decision to come see you.

DarcyLady

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #12 on: 25 June 2020, 03:50:47 pm »
You have absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Don't let society's norms make you feel like that.

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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #13 on: 26 June 2020, 03:07:33 pm »
No regrets or guilt here. Apart from wishing I had started a lot sooner!

I started a month after turning 18, I barely have sex for free anymore ;D don’t feel any guilt or regret whatsoever. My whole lifestyle and pretty much everything I own and have achieved has been funded by sex work for the past 3 years. I obviously don’t go around telling everyone about it, but I’m completely unapologetic about it with myself, I am a prostitute, and I live a very comfortable life for someone my age and I’m paying for my education; why feel guilty about that?


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Re: Guilty side of escorting
« Reply #14 on: 30 June 2020, 02:01:13 pm »

I started a month after turning 18, I barely have sex for free anymore ;D don’t feel any guilt or regret whatsoever. My whole lifestyle and pretty much everything I own and have achieved has been funded by sex work for the past 3 years. I obviously don’t go around telling everyone about it, but I’m completely unapologetic about it with myself, I am a prostitute, and I live a very comfortable life for someone my age and I’m paying for my education; why feel guilty about that?

I wish I woke up 8 years before I did!!!!!