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Rosesugar

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Re: What to say
« Reply #15 on: 22 November 2018, 08:53:19 am »
I had told him via text I was booked up and doing phone chat.

Lucie268

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« Reply #16 on: 22 November 2018, 01:42:22 pm »
I think it depends. I have told guys who ask too many pre booking questions that I prefer not to ping pong txt because many guys who do this don’t show up to bookings for example because this could be done out of genuine ignorance. But if it’s things like being smelly I think ‘we’ll im not a social worker for adult men’ and if it’s rudeness or sleaziness or bad attitude I don’t think any attempts to educate would land as people generally act like this because they have entitled attitudes or self importance and have convinced themselves that they have the right to be that way.
Agreed, if men have got to the adult stage of their lives and are still acting like toddlers they deserve nothing from us, and no 'right' to an explanation.

Mirror

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« Reply #17 on: 22 November 2018, 03:31:51 pm »
I think it depends. I have told guys who ask too many pre booking questions that I prefer not to ping pong txt because many guys who do this don’t show up to bookings for example because this could be done out of genuine ignorance. But if it’s things like being smelly I think ‘we’ll im not a social worker for adult men’ and if it’s rudeness or sleaziness or bad attitude I don’t think any attempts to educate would land as people generally act like this because they have entitled attitudes or self importance and have convinced themselves that they have the right to be that way.

I also find those who ping pong tend to be hard work, push boundaries, require a lot of contact between bookings or to arrange repeat bookings. All of which is time and energy sapping - give me a straightforward client who books, turns up, leave, gets back in touch to arrange another in approximately 3 or 4 texts maximum.

Talking of boundaries is asking for a reduced rate boundary pushing?

mlmcardiff

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« Reply #18 on: 22 November 2018, 06:58:09 pm »
Yes I think asking for a discount is boundary pushing. And whenever in the past I’ve agreed those guys always seem to be the ones with a bad attitude who try and over stay. They have no shame and see trying to get away with as much as possible as a kind of sport. I always tell them I have absolutely no need to haggle in my firmest voice.

Mirror

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« Reply #19 on: 22 November 2018, 07:08:34 pm »
Yes I think asking for a discount is boundary pushing. And whenever in the past I’ve agreed those guys always seem to be the ones with a bad attitude who try and over stay. They have no shame and see trying to get away with as much as possible as a kind of sport. I always tell them I have absolutely no need to haggle in my firmest voice.

Thank you I did think this was the case, when I do offer discount I'm very careful who I offer it to - I've had very similar experiences in the past.

mlmcardiff

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« Reply #20 on: 22 November 2018, 08:07:12 pm »
Yea I’ve occasionally given a discount of my own volition to a regular usually on longer bookings. Keep sweet the ones I like to have return :D

Mirror

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« Reply #21 on: 22 November 2018, 08:41:57 pm »
Yea I’ve occasionally given a discount of my own volition to a regular usually on longer bookings. Keep sweet the ones I like to have return :D

If I'm going to discount it will usually be on my minimum 1 hour because that is heavily weighted, whereas subsequent hour rates are already very much less than the first.

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« Reply #22 on: 22 November 2018, 10:18:01 pm »
Actions speak louder than words, give him a shit service & that will guarantee he wont return.

I could not do this. Too many opportunities for repercussions. I never block numbers, always log them with a note in my phone so I can be booked up when they want to re-book (if it is a text) as they do not get a chance to speak to me again from that number if I have decided not to see them again.

Ellie B

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« Reply #23 on: 23 November 2018, 12:12:34 am »
Actions speak louder than words, give him a shit service & that will guarantee he wont return.

Actually this does work.
I always ensure I give a great service, but when you don't want to meet them again, shit service works a treat - but would add this is rare as I meet mostly lovely guys! But there is always one!

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« Reply #24 on: 23 November 2018, 06:56:41 am »
Actually this does work.
I always ensure I give a great service, but when you don't want to meet them again, shit service works a treat - but would add this is rare as I meet mostly lovely guys! But there is always one!

I did have someone who told me he didn't rebook because I appeared to turn cold. Yes I did because when I engaged in his chat he'd over stay significantly, even turning back at the door to ask my advice on his business well after time. He also 'left' his money in the car on one booking, extended on promise he had the cash on him then at the end told me he hadn't and would have to go get it. Which he did but next time I knew I had to be firm, and avoid being dragged in.

He later asked me advice about another Escort who had ripped him off, as a result of his over staying. At that point  he told me he'd not booked me because of the perceived change.

So yes I'll instil boundaries but I don't believe in offering a poor service, clients are still customers and it's unprofessional not to mention stealing to purposely give them a rubbish time. As above I'll always tell someone if or when there's a problem, explaining it's affecting how relaxed I can be with them.

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« Reply #25 on: 04 December 2018, 08:30:46 am »
I did have someone who told me he didn't rebook because I appeared to turn cold. Yes I did because when I engaged in his chat he'd over stay significantly, even turning back at the door to ask my advice on his business well after time. He also 'left' his money in the car on one booking, extended on promise he had the cash on him then at the end told me he hadn't and would have to go get it. Which he did but next time I knew I had to be firm, and avoid being dragged in.

He later asked me advice about another Escort who had ripped him off, as a result of his over staying. At that point  he told me he'd not booked me because of the perceived change.

So yes I'll instil boundaries but I don't believe in offering a poor service, clients are still customers and it's unprofessional not to mention stealing to purposely give them a rubbish time. As above I'll always tell someone if or when there's a problem, explaining it's affecting how relaxed I can be with them.

This is where a card reader comes in handy. Try Sum up.

If someone is trying to steal your time consistently, then why should you not "steal" back from them, as you put it. You can see this twat has entitlement issues from the way he mentions being ripped off by another escort whilst leeching off you. Teach these leeches a lesson.



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« Reply #26 on: 04 December 2018, 02:53:24 pm »
Personally, I never block anyone, I want to know what they are up to or if they are making threats etc.
If I don't want to see someone again I save them as DNS (Do not see) and just never respond to them again. Most get the message after a while. If they decide to get insistent then I might say something like I'm sorry but I currently have all the clients I need and am not taking bookings. If they get angry or creepy then I know I have made the right choice and if they persist or make threats then I would tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and please do not contact me again.

I don't owe them an explanation, and I believe engaging with them if they start begging etc will feed them and they won't stop. Silence is a strong weapon!

I avoid being rude or threatening or acting out some kind of revenge because this may trigger something in them and I can do without that crap!

Ellie B

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« Reply #27 on: 04 December 2018, 11:53:09 pm »
Best not to get into playing games. Blocking and ignoring is the best advice. They eventually go away.
Toxic people will only drag you down if you let them.