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Gypsy

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Expected to be on Call 24/7
« on: 17 January 2024, 08:33:29 am »
How many people do you get calling/texting you at any hour of the day and then get annoyed when you don't respond?

I find it extremely rude. It's like they don't think you have a life outside of this job and are just available whenever they feel like contacting you.

It's one thing I hate the most about this job. Just very disrespectful in my opinion.

I have someone who I've seen a couple of times do this and yet he thought it was perfectly acceptable to cancel with 1 hours notice  ::)

I do say I am flexible with my working hours but that doesn't translate to being on call 24/7  ::)
He has multiple phones and different numbers too which I find unnerving and he can never get off the phone when he's here either. Just something else which is disrespectful.
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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #1 on: 17 January 2024, 09:37:00 am »
How many people do you get calling/texting you at any hour of the day and then get annoyed when you don't respond?

I find it extremely rude. It's like they don't think you have a life outside of this job and are just available whenever they feel like contacting you.

It's one thing I hate the most about this job. Just very disrespectful in my opinion.

I have someone who I've seen a couple of times do this and yet he thought it was perfectly acceptable to cancel with 1 hours notice  ::)

I do say I am flexible with my working hours but that doesn't translate to being on call 24/7  ::)
He has multiple phones and different numbers too which I find unnerving and he can never get off the phone when he's here either. Just something else which is disrespectful.

If he's on his phone during booked time that's his choice, he's using up his own time.

I do recognise and experience the above, did have a few regulars used to think I was ignoring or telling them I didn't want to see them if I didn't respond quickly, or that there was something wrong, Some of this was because I respond very quickly, so when I cannot it's strange. Some of it is their insecurity. I even had a regular get upset I didn't reply when away on holiday, he had gotten the dates I gave him for my no contact holiday (I do have breaks, holidays, time off during which I am contactable) mixed up. Eventually went to my website saw actual dates but not after asking am I ignoring him.

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #2 on: 17 January 2024, 11:12:08 am »
To add to the above although I know I do not have to, I find saying something like "I did not respond because I sleep between the hours of xpm-xam" or "I do not work through the night" helps. Also "my private time important to me" works far better than bollocking (I've tried many tactics).

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #3 on: 17 January 2024, 12:15:12 pm »
I leave my phone on 24 hours a day mainly so I see the times people call and test and the stupid o'clock callers and texters and ignore them as they already showing entitled behaviour.
My working hours are advertised and I refuse to answer my phone at all when advertised as closed.

I also ignore regulars who text outside of working hours.

If I don't set my boundaries clearly then the clients will get confused easily and we all get passed off.  It's like puppy training. They'll get there in the end.

Gypsy

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #4 on: 17 January 2024, 02:16:38 pm »
This man booked today and then cancelled  ::) It would seem he can mess me around but expects immediate responses from me.

90% of everyone else knows I have a life beyond this.

It's common sense surely not to think someone is available 24/7.
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Gypsy

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #5 on: 17 January 2024, 02:22:06 pm »
I leave my phone on 24 hours a day mainly so I see the times people call and test and the stupid o'clock callers and texters and ignore them as they already showing entitled behaviour.
My working hours are advertised and I refuse to answer my phone at all when advertised as closed.

I also ignore regulars who text outside of working hours.

If I don't set my boundaries clearly then the clients will get confused easily and we all get passed off.  It's like puppy training. They'll get there in the end.

I do the same as you for the same reasons. I will get back to my regulars though outside of working hours, people I know I like etc.

I just find it baffling that people have this level of entitlement when they don't even know me. Anything could be going on in my life!
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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #6 on: 24 February 2024, 07:29:36 pm »
I ignore the clients who text outside of hours unless they are regular visitors, the client message outside of hours might me messaging loads of us at the same time.

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #7 on: 25 February 2024, 10:03:24 am »
They simply do not respect that we need days off like normal people! They must think this is just a hobby to us.

A new client wanted to call to discuss meeting up as he was a first timer. I explained I do not take calls on my day off. It is enough to deal with the admin 7 days a week though I did not say this.

If we took calls 7 days a week we would most likely burn out super fast and not even earn more owing to the high number of timewasters.


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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #8 on: 25 February 2024, 07:22:52 pm »
I think the urge over takes over some clients, the become entitled which similar to some clients who are well off. They expect theirs demands to be met which is totally unrealistic, everyone needs is entitled to rest from work life. Some clients need to have a bit more consideration for us workers. I keep my phone on but I only reply to the regulars I know.

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #9 on: 27 February 2024, 12:55:49 pm »
Just turn your phone off when you’re not working or ignore it if you don’t want to be disturbed. No one is beholden to clients or there phone

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #10 on: 29 February 2024, 11:27:45 pm »
I turn off my phone and state on my profile that outside of escorting I have a busy life. Also I take my contact number off AW and ask for AW emails.

I don't send messages to guy's because I repect their privacy and I expect the same but still get regulars try and do this. I ignore and tell them days later that I've been busy and I put my work ozone hidden away.

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #11 on: 05 March 2024, 09:24:53 pm »
Yep, between the 4am "u free" messages and the 11am "u up?" messages it just seems like some men expect we're creatures of the night, not people with a sleep pattern that keeps us in line with our friends and families...

I clearly state my working hours on my ads and also a line that if I don't contact people out of the blue so if I'm unable to answer a call or text immediately I won't reply at all unless they give me a timeframe in which it won't get them in trouble. I'd say I get about 10% of messages with a window of time to reply and twice as many who send "???"

Another pet peeve is the multiple calls or texts within minutes... like my guy, I'm clearly busy! At least give me 15mins to finish up an appointment or something. Once as I was seeing a client out I saw someone was ringing me so I answered as soon as I'd closed the door and the caller gave me a lecture on how I'd not get any business at all if I didn't answer the phone. I had 17 missed calls from him in the last couple of minutes! He was a pompous arse and didn't know what to say when I told him I'd had a cock in my mouth for the last 10mins and was raised not to talk with my mouth full!

They wouldn't like it if I answered the phone to line up my next booking while they're paying for my time, so why on earth are they so disrespectful to not only us but our other clients too?

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Re: Expected to be on Call 24/7
« Reply #12 on: 05 March 2024, 09:44:03 pm »
Yep, between the 4am "u free" messages and the 11am "u up?" messages it just seems like some men expect we're creatures of the night, not people with a sleep pattern that keeps us in line with our friends and families...

Another pet peeve is the multiple calls or texts within minutes... like my guy, I'm clearly busy! At least give me 15mins to finish up an appointment or something. Once as I was seeing a client out I saw someone was ringing me so I answered as soon as I'd closed the door and the caller gave me a lecture on how I'd not get any business at all if I didn't answer the phone. I had 17 missed calls from him in the last couple of minutes! He was a pompous arse and didn't know what to say when I told him I'd had a cock in my mouth for the last 10mins and was raised not to talk with my mouth full!

They wouldn't like it if I answered the phone to line up my next booking while they're paying for my time, so why on earth are they so disrespectful to not only us but our other clients too?

Haha loved your reply to him.
It's so weird that they are calling in the hope of making a booking ( well the few genuine ones anyway) but never assume that we might actually be with a client when they call?? 
I really think that when they are horny they can only think with their little brain.