A couple of posters appear to have a slightly ambiguous attitude to their customers and it saddened me a little. I have been working on and off as an escort for quite a few years so am not saying it is all happy perfect. I just get a little concerned when I spot some escorts get snappy about clients. Sometimes that is a time to take stock and maybe allow a little time off to not burn out.
To be honest, Bella, although I know you're coming from a place of concern and sympathy, it's not any of our places to tell anyone else (unless specifically asked) that she needs to take time off work. Your concern does come across here as a weak disguise for being patronising.
Maybe writing in this thread allowed someone to let off enough steam that they went into their next appointment 100% sunshine and smiles - isn't that more important than their "ambiguous" attitude towards having their hair pulled or makeup wiped off? Or should we all, even in the "privacy" of a discussion between equal sex workers, pretend that we love everything a man might do to us and only post to tout our willing obedience?
I was going to post here that I don't mind touching of hair or face, but that it does aggravate me when my makeup is all licked off, and it would only have been because I think it's vaguely amusing to share our stories like this,
not because I hate men and am a huge feminazi who shouldn't be a prossie.
Our job isn't about politely requesting that clients sit in the corner and wank quietly while we ignore them (unless they request it for some sort of fetish!), it's about allowing them to do (within our boundaries) whatever intimate acts they wish and, on our part, participating fully. None of that means I'm not still a little bemused when I look in the mirror after an appointment and my face is no longer covered in lovely mineral foundation but in dried saliva from forehead to chin and ear to ear. Eek!
I really don't think I need to be 'signed off work' by someone who knows nothing about me because of this. It's normal and healthy for workers in any field to share their highs and lows with each other - when I worked in a shop during my teens, we all used to be absolutely foul about the customers behind the closed doors of the break room! I would never speak that way about my clients now - probably because they're much more valuable to me - but I've worked in plenty of different minimum wage jobs while studying and there's always been a confessional camaraderie between the employees when complaining about the crappiness of it all - and it didn't mean any of us needed to stop working for our mental health! It actually helped us be more patient and hard-working when out on the floor.
I also don't think we should need to add a disclaimer to our posts every time we let out a secretive admission of "Oh, this one thing was quite annoying, actually". As Amy said, we're the only profession where, should we mention any of the less-good things about our job, the Concern Police immediately jump in and tell us we're abused, trafficked and mentally scarred and must be rescued immediately. I don't mean to be flippant here but honestly, my shop job was literally the worst job ever, it was so hideously boring that I would never work in retail again - where's my therapy for that, eh?
Topic: Don't touch my face! (Read 5613 times)