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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: strawberryjam on 09 May 2016, 06:47:59 pm
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It annoys me so much when clients ask me if I have another job, where do I study, what degree etc.
It also annoys me when they talk about other escort girls and their personal life...
Never be honest with them!
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I don't mind, I'm fairly open about it, some clients do also bump into me in my other guises so trying to hide could be a waste of effort.
What I don't like is someone shooting questions and not listening to the answers, then telling me what I should be doing with my life.
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I love those questions "why do you do this job?" or "can't you get a normal job and a husband?" :FF
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It drives me nuts!
I know some are just making conversation but some are just being nosy good for nothing so and so's.
I especially hate them asking, what university do you go to? Where do you live? Can I come round when your friends aren't home? What way are you going home? I had one client who went to repeat everything and I mean everything! He gleaned about me from our 1 hour meeting (it was all wrong by the way.) on a forum. He then had the cheek to say on the forum I wasn't forthcoming with any details about myself/wouldn't answer his questions. ??? That's why I hate personal questions. They just want to gossip. ::)
my entire backstory is fake. Where I live/study/siblings/ family/ my "real name" etc.
I don't tell them personal information because I don't want it to bite me in the bum one day because I upset them and then they out me or something similar.
I once banned a guy from seeing me for telling me stuff about another escort! Really personal stuff. I told him to fuck off and stop discussing other peoples personal information to every Tom dick and Harry. He told me that he didn't have "much else to talk about and Seeing escorts was the only exciting thing in his life" I wanted to tell him to get a life!
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A regular of mine found out which college I went to and then I would meet him on my way to college...
Stalky
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What I don't like..punters tell me about their life, sometimes, it's okay if it is only during the meet (just what they do and stuff) but there were times when not so okay...."divorced, you? Will you date me?" Etc! Asking me personal questions as if they seem to feel entitled to it! I also find their boring details unnecessary when talking to escorts. Why do we need to know? I'm not interested. Also, please stop texting "are you Okay?" Type "social" texts. I'm a hooker. I don't need a friend. Punters aren't friends. It's work. I blocked someone recently. If he does not respect my privacy, I will get rid of you, essentially. >:(
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I don't mind, I'm fairly open about it, some clients do also bump into me in my other guises so trying to hide could be a waste of effort.
What I don't like is someone shooting questions and not listening to the answers, then telling me what I should be doing with my life.
Pretty much the same for me. I do not mind the banter and I am happy to answer most of the questions, but dismissive or patronizing attitudes get my back up (thankfully, I hardly ever get them). Likewise, I have no issues with them telling me their tidbits, and if they are a recurring client I am generally gonna remember what they told me, same as they remember what I told them. It just seems like normal human interaction to me TBH.
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Yes I do not like them asking if I am married, do I have another job, how long have I been doing this etc. Nosey isn't it.
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Yes & no. Most don't seem to have any respect for anonymity & discretion.
Gonna start telling them my husband is in the wardrobe secretly filming & my other job is a police officer ;D
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I don't mind a few questions, but the one question I hate and seem to get a lot is "What does your boyfriend do for a living?" I mean, why do you care?!
If someone asks too much, I ask them the same questions and they usually get the message (e.g. Does your wife know that you see escorts? Do you pay tax?) although a few don't realise and grab the opportunity to tell me everything I don't want to know about their lives.
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I don't mind a few questions, but the one question I hate and seem to get a lot is "What does your boyfriend do for a living?" I mean, why do you care?!
If someone asks too much, I ask them the same questions and they usually get the message (e.g. Does your wife know that you see escorts? Do you pay tax?) although a few don't realise and grab the opportunity to tell me everything I don't want to know about their lives.
Not everyone gets a message though :FF
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Questions are fine if it's just small talk. If they get too personal I usually start diverting the conversation but there are always some who push and push to the point it's like "sling your hook mate!" For a lot of questions and conversation I have a cover anyway around my work name and it seems to throw them off from sniffing around the real me but some guys do try to go through your stuff though so you need to avoid anything with your real I.D. Some people are just nosey idiots trying to figure you out and get an angle on you.
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I don't mind at all, it's just small talk and if they ask where I'm from originally it's not to stalk me just a chat with a new person. If they ask about kids i say I haven't got any, end of conversation. I guess if I had kids I might feel differently about this one. If they ask about other work I keep it unidentifiable and vague.
I don't care if they ask if I have a partner and I understand why some men would find it surprising he is cool with it. I don't mind if they ask why I do this. I feel like I am educating them about sex workers being like everyone else and I think having a rounded character and being able to chat is a good thing in an escort.
Of course of you don't like the questions or want to give the answers just make something up and use it for all of them so you don't trip up and forget who you have told what!
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Nahhh human nature isn't it, you meet a human, how else do you connect probabley just habit
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i get annoyed when they seem suprised that i have a full time job.. do they think were all robots chained to a bed all day or something.. do they not realise we are humans and actually have our own families and a life away from this.. for me this is just a paid hobby not a career.
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Thing is that though, once we let punters fuck us, they suddenly start to behave as if they kind of "own" us just because they paid, like he paid for a knife or paid for a kitchen sink. He owns it. He texts you to fuck again in exchange of money. They start to believe they own us like owning mowers. So they need to know more about us :-(
They don't seem to get that when our paid time runs out, that's it. They never owned us. They don't need to know our private life and stalking us is not "attractive" to escorts. They don't seem to self-moderate their behaviour. Clearly, blood goes to their little brain and not enough to his larger brain long enough. They don't get social cues or unspoken rules as to how escorts want them to behave or say or not say. Some men do - they are probably married / relationship and have a life! After all they mastered interpersonal skills to hold healthy relationships. Men who do not have might have a lower level of social skills, reading how we are feeling, thinking etc. they got no clues! :( :-X
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I do get that sometimes it's just to make conversation but yes past a certain point I find it very annoying, also hate when clients try to "advise" me on what I should be doing with my life :FF My best clients don't over fish & I certainly don't about them.
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Yeah. Sometimes more than others, I do think a lot of the time it's a nervous thing, if they are nervous and don't know how to connect or engage in a conversation, the normal thing to do is ask the other person about themselves, and a lot of the time I don't think they realise they are being inappropriate.
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Always with the "do you have a boyfriend?" "Oh why not?" "Why do you do this job?" If I answered any of those questions honestly they'd just lead to more questions and disappointment. Fair enough they like to know I'm a real person and have a connection but why not just talk to me about whatever they saw on tv that day or something.
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It genuinely surprises me how many guys think it's totally acceptable to ask how much money I earn as an escort. Furthermore, when I reply "enough" half of them don't take the hint and go on to ask "yeah, but how much exactly?!" None of your sodding business!!
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While I understand that some men may be simply curious and without motive for asking, it is the manner in which they ask or in some cases confront you and almost demand an answer. One older guy I met recently came into my bedroom and sat himself down and the first question he asked was Do you pay tax then? I was quite taken aback and replied Do you!?
He got very little info from me as my back was up if you know what I mean. He later "told" me I must be married and put it more of a statement than a question. (I have been happily unmarried for 14 years.) Politely put queries are fine from the men but when said gruffly or while I am in the middle of "things" it annoys me a lot.
Would they like it if we started asking personal questions while they are down there? Probably not ::)
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Yeh it annoys me. Its not always the manner more the sense of entitlement ie. they've paid for your time so they assume they are entitled to ask intrusive personal questions just because you sell sex! Whereas they'd never dream of doing the same with anyone else they'd just met.
Yet of course if you did the same to them....I tend to have different approaches to this depending on my mood but I do try to remain polite.
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I had a client ask how many children I have. When I told him I'm child free, he basically called me a liar. No point denying it, he said, I can always tell by the colour of a woman's nipples. I think I "processed" him in a pretty perfunctory way, certainly not looking to meet that presumptuous, rude old loon again. ???
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I had a client ask how many children I have. When I told him I'm child free, he basically called me a liar. No point denying it, he said, I can always tell by the colour of a woman's nipples. I think I "processed" him in a pretty perfunctory way, certainly not looking to meet that presumptuous, rude old loon again. ???
;D Oh my god that is a first!!!! Love it!
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Always with the "do you have a boyfriend?" "Oh why not?" "Why do you do this job?" If I answered any of those questions honestly they'd just lead to more questions and disappointment. Fair enough they like to know I'm a real person and have a connection but why not just talk to me about whatever they saw on tv that day or something.
The one that really gets me is "And does your boyfriend know WHAT YOU DO?!!" and what does he think about "WHAT YOU DO!" As if its shameful or something ::) I reply with "Yes he knows that I have sex with people for money."
The other annoying question often asked by nosey clients: "Ooh its good money isn't it?!" Or worse when they start totting up your income in their tiny little minds and coming out with a ridiculous figure, ignoring any outgoings or the fact of not being available for various reasons, assuming that because somebody sells sex that they must work flat out 365 days a year ???
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I dislike the assumption that I've no life and I sit staring at my phone all day. If I can't take a booking because I have other plans, "just cancel your plans then" :FF :FF :FF Cool, I'll just cancel my plans so you can get your hole.
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I dislike the assumption that I've no life and I sit staring at my phone all day. If I can't take a booking because I have other plans, "just cancel your plans then" :FF :FF :FF Cool, I'll just cancel my plans so you can get your hole.
Oh yes when you turn them down and they text things like "that's a shame" I sometimes reply "No its not a shame for me as I'm doing xyz, shame for you that you can't plan and make a proper booking!" ::)
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Always with the "do you have a boyfriend?" "Oh why not?" "Why do you do this job?" If I answered any of those questions honestly they'd just lead to more questions and disappointment. Fair enough they like to know I'm a real person and have a connection but why not just talk to me about whatever they saw on tv that day or something.
I learned and in fact, realised that they do it (asking these stupid personal questions) to annoy you / us. They know escorting is NOT something someone can be openly proud of and they are trying so hard to reiterate to us. One punter was offended by my comment when I said, "I haven't got any hangup about escorting at all". He was like.."well, escorting is not normal, you know.." type response. But when he purchases sex, it's nothing to be "ashamed of" therefore, nothing to raise this comment after the deed, yeah? These questions are coming from their double standard. As soon as the deed is over, they start acting as if they didn't know you, looking at someone you just fucked to unload himself almost 20-30 seconds ago. They start thinking about their wife, their sons and daughters, grandchildren, family holidays, their second home abroad, etc. And "shit, what did I do to come to this horrible little place to fuck this prostitute?" They get uncomfortable. They start asking questions. "Do you have a man / BF?" I hesitate to answer that personal question and he goes, "I doubt you do for what you bl*** do for a living" etc! Oh yeah? I bet your wife loves you and it would be interesting if she finds out what you do behind her back all these years.
They just fucked their chosen escort to unload themselves ("OK, we understand that you have needs, mate".) So, stop pulling your stupid punch after the deed is over!! Stop pretending you are so innocent. If there were no men who purchase sex, there won't be escorting. You, men, created us. You are well part of this! Boyfriend? Just as if women had a boyfriend, our life would be "complete"! I know women "could" have the worst life if she was married. You don't know what a life of women is like so stop going on about how things should be and you feel you could go on about it !! ::) :-X 8) ::)
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It just makes you think how sad they must be thinking that having a bf is a fulfilment of woman's life. The most annoying are older guys, and I mean OLDER, three of my worst punters were over 60.
One of them said "girl, you are so pretty, why don't you get married?" Lol thanks but no thanks for the suggestion. He also said its my fault he got a parking ticket because I told him to park nearby my house, but this idiot parked on double yellows lines near my house :FF
He said he parked on double yellows cos I told him to :FF
Is he really that stupid?
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Depends what sort of questions.
i don't mind being asked things like
where did you grow up?
where do you live now?
general crap like that.
what i hate, hate, hate is
"so do you have a boyfriend then?"
they normally ask this at a really disgusting moment,
like when they have come once, and they are lying down playing with them selves :-\
or mid blow job.
The last thing i want to be thinking about is my long term partner!
the patronising, disapproving tone
"what else do you do then?"
"actually i am a mother" throws them off their tracks.
then they feel sorry for me asking the fathers involvement, just assuming i must be a single mum.
None of their business!!
Some guys ask these sorts of things because they are being genuine, and want to know more about you,
some guys get off on it. which is what i don't like.
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I learned and in fact, realised that they do it (asking these stupid personal questions) to annoy you / us.
That's a sweeping generalization, tbh. It's not very productive to lump everyone into the same bag.
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To be fair I suppose its not always what they say, its the way its said and the motive behind it. A lot of guys I meet with are just very friendly, and as we get talking the conversation is natural, but then there are the odd few others who come across as rude and you start to feel as if you're being quizzed by the gestapo, it becomes apparent that they're just asking loads of shit to try and make me feel uncomfortable with the disapproving looks and sly comments. As soon as I realise this is whats happening I just turn all the questions back on them.
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Thank you, Katrina. You said it beautifully!! :D :D :-*
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I have never got the impression they are asking nosey questions to annoy us.
They don't realise they are being nosey that is all.
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It doesn't annoy me when they ask personal questions because I think mostly, they might just be trying to break the ice in the same way that I'm certain I've asked personal questions without even thinking because my only motive is to try and get to know my client and make it more comfortable for the both of us but I guess for some clients, it might have the opposite affect.
The only thing I don't like is when a new client or someone I bearly know asks my real name.
xx
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I once had a client that wanted to know which area of Edinburgh I lived in (this was when I worked in a sauna) & I replied "North" & he said "Well whereabout" in a rude manner & very nicely & jokey I said "North Edinburgh hun" and he replied "Aww am no wantin' yer fuckin' postcode hen"!! I was fuming so I said I lived in the opposite direction of where I really lived but what I really wanted to do was end the booking but in this particular sauna the desk staff treated the clients like royalty & the girls like scum!! Jeez the guy should have got the hint that I really didn't want to tell him where I lived...Nosey Clients really annoy me.😠😠
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The one that really gets me is "And does your boyfriend know WHAT YOU DO?!!" and what does he think about "WHAT YOU DO!" As if its shameful or something ::) I reply with "Yes he knows that I have sex with people for money."
The other annoying question often asked by nosey clients: "Ooh its good money isn't it?!" Or worse when they start totting up your income in their tiny little minds and coming out with a ridiculous figure, ignoring any outgoings or the fact of not being available for various reasons, assuming that because somebody sells sex that they must work flat out 365 days a year ???
I once told a client that yes I do have a boyfriend (after he asked me if I did & what he thought of me being an escort) & that he is absolutely fine with this job because he knows its JUST a job & infact he actually gets turned on that other men pay me for sex & he gets me for free!!! This soon shut his mouth. lol
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The one that really gets me is "And does your boyfriend know WHAT YOU DO?!!" and what does he think about "WHAT YOU DO!" As if its shameful or something ::) I reply with "Yes he knows that I have sex with people for money."
I always answer with the same thing: So does your wife know what you do? And what doesshe think about it? I usually shuts their mouths for a while.
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I have found that question is either a) I am a really ethical punter and I will totally set you up with an apartment until my hardon fades, or b) TELL ME ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND I WANT TO SUCK HIS COCK
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A client once told me that clients (he was generalising) hate finding out that us WG's have other halves as they get offended because they then know for a fact that we do this job for the cash; well in that case they shouldn't ask, simple.
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So...what "Should / ought to" be the real reasons to Clients? Apart from...the most obvious? E.g. C.
Because we love sex. (?) we are 'lonely' (?)
Because ? ? ?
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A client once told me that clients (he was generalising) hate finding out that us WG's have other halves as they get offended because they then know for a fact that we do this job for the cash; well in that case they shouldn't ask, simple.
Maybe it's because in their warped fantasy world we get into this line of work not so much for cash but because we're looking for a "Knight in armour to save us" and once punter finds out we already have one it destroyes their own fantasy of being THAT man. Or seen from another perspective: Since cavemen days, men want to hunt. In many ways, that's what they're born to do. It's ingrained in their DNA. There are actually two parts to any hunt. There's the "tracking and hunting" part, and then, there's the kill. The problem with a married WG is they can't do the "kill" as the WG has already been hunted down.
Apologies I'm feeling deeply philosophical today, must be the x-mas ;D
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So...what "Should / ought to" be the real reasons to Clients? Apart from...the most obvious? E.g. C.
Because we love sex. (?) we are 'lonely' (?)
Because ? ? ?
The sex obviously lol
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Maybe it's because in their warped fantasy world we get into this line of work not so much for cash but because we're looking for a "Knight in armour to save us" and once punter finds out we already have one it destroyes their own fantasy of being THAT man. Or seen from another perspective: Since cavemen days, men want to hunt. In many ways, that's what they're born to do. It's ingrained in their DNA. There are actually two parts to any hunt. There's the "tracking and hunting" part, and then, there's the kill. The problem with a married WG is they can't do the "kill" as the WG has already been hunted down.
Apologies I'm feeling deeply philosophical today, must be the x-mas ;D
I don't think you are the only one!! Winter time can and does mess with one's emotions, feelings, moods etc xx
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Maybe it's because in their warped fantasy world we get into this line of work not so much for cash but because we're looking for a "Knight in armour to save us" and once punter finds out we already have one it destroyes their own fantasy of being THAT man. Or seen from another perspective: Since cavemen days, men want to hunt. In many ways, that's what they're born to do. It's ingrained in their DNA. There are actually two parts to any hunt. There's the "tracking and hunting" part, and then, there's the kill. The problem with a married WG is they can't do the "kill" as the WG has already been hunted down.
Apologies I'm feeling deeply philosophical today, must be the x-mas ;D
I think its because they don't mind giving us money for a service for us to fritter away on shiny things, shoes and lippy etc but they don't like to think of their cash going into another mans pocket especially someone who gets to fuck us for free.
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I think its because they don't mind giving us money for a service for us to fritter away on shiny things, shoes and lippy etc but they don't like to think of their cash going into another mans pocket especially someone who gets to fuck us for free.
Mmmn I never really thought of this. They shouldn't really assume that our boyfriends are living off of us because its not always the case.
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A client once told me that clients (he was generalising) hate finding out that us WG's have other halves as they get offended because they then know for a fact that we do this job for the cash; well in that case they shouldn't ask, simple.
Bollocks. Most of my clients who ask then go on to start fantasising about having a threesome with me and my BF.
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My attitude to what clients do and do not like to hear is tough titty don't be nosy then.There is no right answer if you say you are single they sometimes start nattering you for a date,if you say you are with someone they either ask if they know etc or ask if they can have an mmf.
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My attitude to what clients do and do not like to hear is tough titty don't be nosy then.There is no right answer if you say you are single they sometimes start nattering you for a date,if you say you are with someone they either ask if they know etc or ask if they can have an mmf.
What I've learned to say over time is that I don't answer personal questions. If they don't like it tough. I hate it when they think they have the right to know stuff like...are you married, how much do you pay in rent (I mean really!), how much do you earn (none of your business)...
I used to make stuff up or be honest just to vary it but then they would inevitably follow on with further intrusive questions, so no more.
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Bollocks. Most of my clients who ask then go on to start fantasising about having a threesome with me and my BF.
Oh I've never once had anyone ask me that, I've just had "and what does he think about you doing this" type questions & a client told a girl in the sauna I worked in that he stopped going with me because he heard me talking about my boyfriend to another girl & he felt like HE was contributing to my cheating on my man!! Oh lord 😂😂😂
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Bollocks. Most of my clients who ask then go on to start fantasising about having a threesome with me and my BF.
Yes that's very common or 'do you have a male/female friend...
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It doesn't annoy me when clients ask personal questions. I can't blame them if they are curious and understand why they might find me fascinating. I often answer as honest as I can as most are genuine questions.
It only bothers me if they or their attitudes are rude or condescending.
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it is so very annoying and rude I find asking the same awkward question back at them shuts them right up :P
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it is so very annoying and rude I find asking the same awkward question back at them shuts them right up :P
I like doing this too :D
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I like doing this too :D
Me too, if they ask if I'm married I ask if they are, just answer their question with the same question, it soon shuts them up.
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I can't blame them if they are curious and understand why they might find me fascinating.
Me too, after all I am fabulous <tosses hair>
In all honesty I don't mind if they ask questions. I won't answer any questions about my family, but i'll happily chat (shite) about where I live, civvy jobs I've had, how I got into escorting, what I do for fun, etc. It's just chit chat and half the time I think they're only asking to make conversation anyway.
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What I've learned to say over time is that I don't answer personal questions. If they don't like it tough. I hate it when they think they have the right to know stuff like...are you married, how much do you pay in rent (I mean really!), how much do you earn (none of your business)...
I used to make stuff up or be honest just to vary it but then they would inevitably follow on with further intrusive questions, so no more.
I agree. Recently a seriously irritating client who's always asking me out for a drink despite me always telling him i don't see clients outside of work asked me how much i earn. I just said 'how much do you earn?'. Basically my point was taken. It's so rude!
I hate clients knowing anything about my personal life. I like to keep the 2 seperate. When I'm working, i'm not me, I'm putting on an act. So essentially an actress and with that comes me lying when they ask personal questions. Just living up to my fake persona as i don't want them knowing anything about me. The amount of times I've had clients ask what my real name is and what area of my city do i live in. Like hell do I want people knowing my real name. A couple of clients "think" they know my real name. They asked and as i don't like confrontation i just always give them a fake name i.e 'Sophie' and then they have the nerve to text me saying 'Hi Sophie, are you available today'. That's why I'm so glad i have a fake back up name. I don't want clients texting me thinking they're something special referring to me by my real name. If i wanted clients knowing my real name then my AW profile would refer to my real name! :FF
Occasionally i have found myself saying things about my private life after they've asked and I've completely regretted it straight after. I like them to know as little as possible about my life.
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I agree. Recently a seriously irritating client who's always asking me out for a drink despite me always telling him i don't see clients outside of work asked me how much i earn. I just said 'how much do you earn?'. Basically my point was taken. It's so rude!
I hate clients knowing anything about my personal life. I like to keep the 2 seperate. When I'm working, i'm not me, I'm putting on an act. So essentially an actress and with that comes me lying when they ask personal questions. Just living up to my fake persona as i don't want them knowing anything about me. The amount of times I've had clients ask what my real name is and what area of my city do i live in. Like hell do I want people knowing my real name. A couple of clients "think" they know my real name. They asked and as i don't like confrontation i just always give them a fake name i.e 'Sophie' and then they have the nerve to text me saying 'Hi Sophie, are you available today'. That's why I'm so glad i have a fake back up name. I don't want clients texting me thinking they're something special referring to me by my real name. If i wanted clients knowing my real name then my AW profile would refer to my real name! :FF
Occasionally i have found myself saying things about my private life after they've asked and I've completely regretted it straight after. I like them to know as little as possible about my life.
You are so right, I've had 3 clients from AW ask me what my rent was and 1 of them actually texted me this question when he was making a booking and I said 'this is a personal question and totally irrelevant to making a booking' and he replied that yes I was right & he was sorry and guess what I never seen or heard from him again and prior to this he had been booking me every week for about 3 months! I don't know if he was embarrased or put out that I burst his bubble in the sense that its just a business transaction.
I had another client whom I told I had a very demanding day job (I don't but this is my 'back story' and lo & behold he wrote what my day job was in a review on the punting forum thats the same layout as this one!!! My god why mention that & after reading it I thought to myself thank god I don't really do that job!!
Also when a client knows your real name or at least think they do then they just LOVE to say it and I think they know they are being annoying; well some anyway obviously not all. 1 guy kept asking me what my real name was and I said there's no point having a working name if I'm going to tell you my real name & he said "why is it something really old like Mary or something"?!!! Wtf?!! 😯😯
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Bollocks. Most of my clients who ask then go on to start fantasising about having a threesome with me and my BF.
And I get the "Mmm, can I see you after you've had sex with him so I can lick his spunk out of you/lick you clean?" requests. I don't bareback ANYONE and that includes my husband, so sampling any 'cream pie' is definitely off the menu! (and yeah, I *could* fake it, but to be honest, the thought of someone snaffling about down there trying to get every last drop, like a pig snorting for truffles in the undergrowth, actually turns my stomach. Just...no.)
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Deleted, it was an old post.
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l. 1 guy kept asking me what my real name was and I said there's no point having a working name if I'm going to tell you my real name & he said "why is it something really old like Mary or something"?!!! Wtf?!! 😯😯
. Some wgs give out a name, any. I often wondered why they want to know the real name. A whole new thread coming on? :)
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They want to know your real name so they can edge closer to gaining control over you to the point you will have sex with them for free ;D
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They want to know your real name so they can edge closer to gaining control over you to the point you will have sex with them for free !!
They can dream 😁😁😁
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They want to know your real name so they can edge closer to gaining control over you to the point you will have sex with them for free ;D
There's so much truth in that. :)
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They want to know your real name so they can edge closer to gaining control over you to the point you will have sex with them for free ;D
I've not found a particular correlation between wanting to know my real name, and trying for freebies. I have noticed it's often men who will try 'share' their life, or try to manipulate whether wanting my real name or not.
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There are men who want an LTR and use escorts when they are single (whether this is really true or not). They suddenly "met" an escort and he thinks "oh well, she seems ok..let's see what her real name is?" Not sure that's how it works inside their hard male skull.
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Most of the single men I meet in escorting seem shut down and off the boil in terms of finding a LTR I have not found many who would be seeking a girlfriend. Plenty of people these days simply do not want relationships it would seem. Me included.
It does annoy me when they ask intrusive questions however. I don't ask them too much e.g. do you have a wife, how many children do you have etc. Nothing to do with me unless they wish to bring it up. I sometimes ask them what sector they are in if they seem particularly interesting and intelligent however.
My pet hate question is when they ask 'Why are you doing this'. I detest being asked that! Don't they realise it is totally inappropraite to ask somebody this when you have only just met them! We don't ask them why are they visiting after all ......!
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I've not found a particular correlation between wanting to know my real name, and trying for freebies. I have noticed it's often men who will try 'share' their life, or try to manipulate whether wanting my real name or not.
Mirror you talk sense...
Yep I have a few that genuinely want a confident of sorts and happily talk about their families, exciting things etc .
As far as I'm concerned I'm a 'virtual' girlfriend with no strings, threats etc it's a cathartic release from mundane life for some.
I keep my business by remembering their brothers sisters names etc , or a holiday they've been on ....sometimes however I can't remember even their names while they're there phew http://
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My pet hate question is when they ask 'Why are you doing this'. I detest being asked that! Don't they realise it is totally inappropraite to ask somebody this when you have only just met them! We don't ask them why are they visiting after all ......!
Answer them: 'because I have a strong stomach'.
That'll shut them up ;D
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Answer them: 'because I have a strong stomach'.
That'll shut them up ;D
Excellent ! I'll remember that lmao
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My pet hate question is when they ask 'Why are you doing this'. I detest being asked that! Don't they realise it is totally inappropraite to ask somebody this when you have only just met them! We don't ask them why are they visiting after all ......!
Maybe you should LB, just throw it back at them ;)
Normally them trying to gauge if you are enjoying it I find. If I lose enthusiasm for a few minutes or don't like them & they pick up on it. So I just reply with a question back at them. "Why do you think I'm doing it?" Usually shuts them up. This is contingent on my mood of course lol I'll sometimes do the sales orientated thing & say in a facetious tone how much I love sex & can't get enough cock.
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It doesn't annoy me in the slightest. I am a person, they are a person. If I was chatting or getting to know a stranger (especially if they are a repeat I am seeing), I would ask them personal questions. It's like being stuck on a broken down train or bus next to someone and needing to fill in time - what are you going to do inbetween having sex?
I hate small talk with a passion. I would much rather have a real conversation, if it involves personal details about myself, so be it. I have nothing to hide, I don't see why I should. Neither do they, most people don't have the slightest negative intention - they are there to get their rocks off and there because they like you; they are married and want to go home and keep you as a positive thought and fantasy at most. I can manage creepy weirdos. The job carries a risk, I knew that before going into it. I'm not going to tell them my mothers maiden name, the first street I grew up on, where my sister works, my boyfriends surname and what gym I go to. Clients generally are happy to reveal as much about themselves, people like to talk, I don't see the issue. I go with the flow.
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Let's see now, questions and replies in brackets lol
Are you married? (I don't talk about my personal life to clients)
Does your husband/bf know what you do? (I don't talk about my personal life to clients)
Does your family know what you do? (That's my business)
Aren't you worried about you're family/local priest/jesus christ finding out what you do? NO
Bet you earn loads!! (That's my business)
Do you own this house? (That's my business)
Betcha you have never seen a cock this big before, all the while slapping his hard on in my direction (he was useless in bed he was too, fucked like a jackhammer, all the while trying to ask about 3 sums, orgies, if I had been to any, how would he get invited to some parties, could he go with me lol - NO)
My reply to this tosser was actually, it's not the biggest around love, see far bigger ones every day
Can I make you cum? (You can try)
You must really love sex to do this job? (I do yes)
Have you kids? (That's my business)
Do they know? (That's my business)
What do your neighbours think of all the strange cars parked outside your house? (They mind their business, just as I mind mine) and why do all clients ask that question after they have shot their loads?? You don't seem to care when you're arriving at my house..
Have you ever been hurt doing this job? (That's my business)
Robbed? (That's my business)
Had many creepy men ring you? (That's my business)
Had any creepy men rob you? (That's my business)
How many dogs have you got? ( 5)
Are they vicious? (YES)
What made you get into this job? ( I fancied a change of career)
What do you like about it? ( seeing fucking idiots who ask stupid questions)
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Definitely does. It's funny cuz they are always the ones who try to dodge your questions too. Want to ask me where I live, where I study,where my parents are from, how many clients I see but when I ask you if you live in so and so place and if you work there too you they don't want to answer. meanwhile not knowing I have your real full name ::)they"re just walking jokes :FF make me fucking sick :-X always have your fake story ready. ::) sigh
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Eh, I just take it as an invitation to make up crazy shit.
If I trip up and tell the same person two different stories, I just say, "Yeah... I lie a lot." and crack up.
It's annoying, but might as well make a game of it.
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Pretty much going with curvywench's theme...
Are you married? (are you?)
Does your husband/bf know what you do? (or wife? or spouses? Maybe I'm into that. Who knows?)
Does your family know what you do? (do yours?)
Aren't you worried about you're family/local priest/jesus christ finding out what you do? nope
Bet you earn loads!! (subjective)
Do you own this house? (no, I just broke in, watch your feet when you go for a shower because there might still be broken glass)
Can I make you cum? ::) ::) ::) I hate being asked this. I would rather someone just went with the flow. But no, you won't, although even I'm not this blunt.
Have you kids? (I have cats, yes)
Do they know? (my cats? I don't think they care)
What do your neighbours think of all the strange cars parked outside your house? (people pay attention to what they want to pay attention to.)
Have you ever been hurt doing this job? (oh, sure! I fell off a bed once and rattled my skull off the wall. Oh, another time I slid on wet laminate clean over on my heels right in front of a client.)
Robbed? (Aw, why would you ask?)
Had many creepy men ring you? (Pretty much like when I tried dating, yeah)
What made you get into this job? (I was at uni and I didn't see the problem with casual sex, nor did I see anything wrong with the industry)
What do you like about it? (I do what I want)
What made you come back to it? (doing whatever I wanted)
You pay tax on this? (aww, do you think I'm like Amazon or Starbucks and shy away from declaring my income?)
Most of the clients I see don't ask me personal/invasive questions. If I see someone regularly and they aren't clingy, I don't mind chatting away about hobbies etc. I do have my own business outside of this, and I quite happily talk about things to do with that field, hobbies relating to it, hell I've sat discussing politics with clients. I'll talk about aspects of my life in a glossed over way, but I'm not going to sit and ask him about his wife and kids, if I went to an outcall at his home I might comment that he has a beautiful house but I'm not going to ask him if he owns it etc. I don't ask clients who work in other industries which pick up cash-based jobs (i.e. painters, joiners, plumbers etc) if they pay tax. If you ask me personal questions, I do tend to either laugh it off or throw it back at you to shut it down quickly. When I finish for the day, I want to go back to my own world so to speak and switch off. I would never talk to clients about relationships - to have them sitting fantasising about it? Nah, that's getting into my personal life.
I don't know if there's some kind of thing that trips in some of their brains afterward where they need to ask 'why?' though. As if you can't make a perfectly comfortable choice about doing something with your body that involves the sex industry - there must be a trigger.
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Are you married? (No, why? are you going to propose me?)
Does your husband/bf know what you do? (does your wife know you see prostitutes?)
Does your family know what you do? (does your family know you pay for sex?)
Aren't you worried about you're family/local priest/jesus christ finding out what you do? (I'm a budhist and my local spiritual advisor doesn't have a problem as long as I practice my karma).
Bet you earn loads!! (if i did you would be the last one to know)
Do you own this house? (if i did you would be the last one to know)
Can I make you cum? (Please sir)
You must really love sex to do this job? (I do yes, it must be a nightmare to do this job and not love sex)
Have you kids? (does a goldfish count?)
Do they know? (as long as i feed him and change his water he doesn't look like he has a problem with it)
Have you ever been hurt doing this job? (No, but i've had a couple of scares)
Robbed? (no -touch wood)
Had many creepy men ring you? (I don't remember, I have a terrible memory)
What made you get into this job? ( it looked appealing from the outside)
What do you like about it? (too many things, mainly the attention, like the one you're giving me now, I'm an attention whore)
So you're doing this job because you didn't get attention as a child? (probably, yes).
But that's unhealthy! (I'm making money from my personal issues while having fun, Its not unhealthy, it's actually bloody wise).
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I didn't mind answering questions so much when I was married. When I was working from home I didn't even bother to take my rings off. I found that clients didn't pry into my personal life so much if they knew I had a husband. The first question was usually "doesn't your husband mind?" to which I responded "does your wife / girlfriend?" That usually shut them up without offending ;) I still don't mind so much, but these days I'm more guarded and will often make things up rather than give away too many details about my private life. It's only small talk after all.
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I dont mind them asking questions, I actually enjoy talking about myself, I ask them loads of questions too, I really dont do well with quiet clients, I suppose we are all made differently
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I am quite a chatty person so don't mind the questions. I enjoy decent conversation. If it gets too personal I just steer away from it although with some clients I probably babble too much.
It's a two way thing so I ask them questions too. Sometimes some of the things they tell me have me in hysterics. These moments make the job more pleasurable too.
If it's a new client I find it a good ice breaker helping them relax as some guys may feel a bit nervous seeing someone the first time around.
Some guys like to chat so I see it as part of the service.
If they asked me exactly where I lived I would find that a bit creepy and unacceptable.
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I hate it when they ask if I have an actual job. What the hell do they think this one is then?
It is usually the quite unintelligent clients who ask if I work.
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Lol, tell them your a cleaner in your real job, it will leave them completely baffled
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I have another site I run so I often say I work on that which is true in a way although it isn't sex related.
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I do have another job and don't mind telling them about it if they are interested.