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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Kescort on 01 September 2021, 03:55:32 pm
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I bizarrely find it a big turn on if the client reveals he is attached. Does anyone else feel the same? Or is it a don't care or the opposite, it turns you off?
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I don’t care either way . ???
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I don’t care either way . ???
Neither do I aslong as he pays, it does add a bit of naughty excitement to the booking though. I probably won't feel like this once the next round of burnout due kicks in ;D
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No I don’t find it a turn on knowing that he is cheating on his partner, imo that’s quite horrible to feel like that, men cheat on all sorts of women and I’ve been cheated on, as we all have and it’s not nice, we aren’t special because men pay us, most men would shag any woman that was allowing them too, I feel sorry for the women in all honesty, it doesn’t make us better than their women.
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I don't know I get off more, but one nice perk of this job is being able to shag very attractive men without guilt or caring about their relationship status. I have a few favorite regulars who I've known longer than they've known their wives.
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What turns me on is big spenders especially if they give me more than my asking price. Those guys are in for a good time with me 😆
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Hmm I don't get off regardless, am I doing something wrong ;D
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Makes no difference to me, and most of the time I don't even know – I certainly never ask.
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No I don’t find it a turn on knowing that he is cheating on his partner, imo that’s quite horrible to feel like that, men cheat on all sorts of women and I’ve been cheated on, as we all have and it’s not nice, we aren’t special because men pay us, most men would shag any woman that was allowing them too, I feel sorry for the women in all honesty, it doesn’t make us better than their women.
Sounds like it's the opposite for you and you actually find it off putting especially if your feelings extend to feeling sorry for their wives.
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I don't know I get off more, but one nice perk of this job is being able to shag very attractive men without guilt or caring about their relationship status. I have a few favorite regulars who I've known longer than they've known their wives.
So these dudes have been seeing you even throughout the courtship and engagement? ::) ;D
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Sounds like it's the opposite for you and you actually find it off putting especially if your feelings extend to feeling sorry for their wives.
Don’t get me wrong, obviously I don’t feel that bad or I wouldn’t be an escort but I certainly don’t get off on men cheating with me, I just think that’s a little off, I get why you feel this way but I actually feel sorry for some of the women, don’t get me wrong you never really know what goes on in people’s marriages but I had a client with a pregnant partner a few weeks ago and he told me about it, and I was cheated on when pregnant and it’s the worst thing in the world, what a selfish cunt I thought, and with some of the techniques that the men use then I do feel sorry for their partners that have to put up with such bad sex.
Men seem to take sex more serious than women but let’s face it, the majority of men are crap in bed, I actually thank clients for making me orgasm, how bad is that that I thank them, good male shags are hard to come by. No wonder some of these women won’t sleep with their men!🤣
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I have the exact same opinion as Tantric tease, I won't say anymore ???.
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Hmm I don't get off regardless, am I doing something wrong ;D
What, never? Obviously there's days and clients where you just arnt going to get off no matter what, but I get off in work quite often especially if the client is like the hot nice young black guy I had the other week. I regularly orgasm with clients aswell. I can't imagine doing the job and never getting off or enjoying it..I wouldn't like it at all
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I do get satisfaction (not sexually), but that is because of experiences in my personal life (and escorting) that have now made me a massive cynic when it comes to marriage and relationships. Although I would never get off if it was someone from my personal life, unless it was someone I hated.
I just do not give a shit and thankfully I'm not likely to ever be on the receiving end. Also as I have said in a previous post, I don't think anyone can pass comment nor judgement too much when we make a living off these men.
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Don’t get me wrong, obviously I don’t feel that bad or I wouldn’t be an escort but I certainly don’t get off on men cheating with me, I just think that’s a little off, I get why you feel this way but I actually feel sorry for some of the women, don’t get me wrong you never really know what goes on in people’s marriages but I had a client with a pregnant partner a few weeks ago and he told me about it, and I was cheated on when pregnant and it’s the worst thing in the world, what a selfish cunt I thought, and with some of the techniques that the men use then I do feel sorry for their partners that have to put up with such bad sex.
Men seem to take sex more serious than women but let’s face it, the majority of men are crap in bed, I actually thank clients for making me orgasm, how bad is that that I thank them, good male shags are hard to come by. No wonder some of these women won’t sleep with their men!🤣
I have to agree that good male shags are quite hard to come by which is why some clients you are never going to enjoy the booking lol. Also on 'off days' where you just can't be bothered lol.
Yes I once had a guy on the phone ask me if I was clean because his fiance was pregnant, I didn't see the guy but that was mostly because he sounded cold and detached on top of it all.
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I do get satisfaction (not sexually), but that is because of experiences in my personal life (and escorting) that have now made me a massive cynic when it comes to marriage and relationships. Although I would never get off if it was someone from my personal life, unless it was someone I hated.
I just do not give a shit and thankfully I'm not likely to ever be on the receiving end. Also as I have said in a previous post, I don't think anyone can pass comment nor judgement too much when we make a living off these men.
Yes I am another massive cynic with regards to marriage and relationships, Ive resigned myself to living on the fringes and off the grid for the rest of my days, and having already done the LTR and kids thing I'm perfectly happy with that.
I had a civvie encounter the other week with a younger local guy who also turned out to be cheating on his girlfriend and that just added to my cynicism, was fun though ;D
Yes to I wouldn't get off if it was someone I knew unless I hated them. I think In that situation id actually feel really guilty.
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I bizarrely find it a big turn on if the client reveals he is attached. Does anyone else feel the same? Or is it a don't care or the opposite, it turns you off?
I love it seeing a wedding ring!
Especially the ones who walk in and immediately anoounce "I'm married and Straight!"
......................."Oh! I know honey!"
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There was an AMA (ask me anything) on another website and there was a sex worker and the amount of women that asked her “do you ever think of the clients women when you take their cash and have sex with them”, and she answered that yes she had but at the end of the day, if a man wants to cheat and he can’t cheat with an escort then he is going to do it regardless, why do women always get the blame for men cheating, if there wasn’t such a demand for sex work then we couldn’t supply it, I think lots of civvy women are threatened by escorts but it’s their man they have the issue with, not the women, we just get blamed.
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I love it seeing a wedding ring!
Especially the ones who walk in and immediately anoounce "I'm married and Straight!"
......................."Oh! I know honey!"
Haha I love this! Why would they announce they're straight? How bizarre ::) ;D
Also the shiftiness of a married client can also be a major turn on. Something to laugh to yourself about aswell. Haha
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I have some married clients. A few see me as their wives won't do certain sexual acts such as oral sex. Or they hardly have sex. One says he's lucky to get a blow job if it's his birthday.
It doesn't bother me at all if they are married. I'm lucky that I do get a lot of great sex with clients of all ages and some are pretty hot too.
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So these dudes have been seeing you even throughout the courtship and engagement? ::) ;D
Some of them, yes. When I have a good long time client, I like to keep him. If a client says they won't be able to see me any longer because they are getting married soon (or some other change that doesn't include moving away), I ask for the dates. Then I always offer a discounted session at some future point after the big day to celebrate. I've never been refused, and once the habit is there, they rarely stop coming back.
I also focus on building their confidence to impress their partner, or whatever is helpful to their situation, whether time away, stress reduction for an executive, and so on. I did do well at marketing in university and still love it. :) Money is my aphrodisiac, but I do take pleasure in clients that need to see and pay me, regardless of relationship status changes.
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Some of them, yes. When I have a good long time client, I like to keep him. If a client says they won't be able to see me any longer because they are getting married soon (or some other change that doesn't include moving away), I ask for the dates. Then I always offer a discounted session at some future point after the big day to celebrate. I've never been refused, and once the habit is there, they rarely stop coming back.
I also focus on building their confidence to impress their partner, or whatever is helpful to their situation, whether time away, stress reduction for an executive, and so on. I did do well at marketing in university and still love it. :) Money is my aphrodisiac, but I do take pleasure in clients that need to see and pay me, regardless of relationship status changes.
so you actively encourage them continue to see you? a bit odd in my opinion but I guess no one is holding a gun to their head.
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I definitely get off on being in locations we are not supposed to be in (school staff room/Doctor's/Dentist's couch/board room, restaurant etc )
I imagine that many of the clients that book me to their place of work do so because they are married or attached 8)
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I definitely get off on being in locations we are not supposed to be in (school staff room/Doctor's/Dentist's couch/board room, restaurant etc )
I imagine that many of the clients that book me to their place of work do so because they are married or attached 8)
Phoenix, I'm impressed by the school staff room! I'd be too nervous that a door would open at an inconvenient moment. I do enjoy the doctor's location, but in practice the exam tables are too thin. The most common for me has been executive offices (with a locked door!). I'm sure at least one secretary knows what goes on with her boss and me, but when I visit for "consulting meetings" but she's always treated me like the most important guest in the world.
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I don’t care about their relationship status. All I care about is the money and if they are clean and polite
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I try not to think about their status otherwise I'll feel bad :( they're all single in my mind 8)
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I don’t care and l don’t feel bad. They pay and l service then and as long as they are pleasant l really don’t care what their marital status is.
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What does everyone think the obvious signs are a client is married, if he doesn't mention he is? One I can think of is they can only visit during the working day, or if its after work they need to be quick (and can sometimes seem flustered and In a rush afterwards)..aside from the ring..anymore? :D
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Some of them, yes. When I have a good long time client, I like to keep him. If a client says they won't be able to see me any longer because they are getting married soon (or some other change that doesn't include moving away), I ask for the dates. Then I always offer a discounted session at some future point after the big day to celebrate. I've never been refused, and once the habit is there, they rarely stop coming back.
I also focus on building their confidence to impress their partner, or whatever is helpful to their situation, whether time away, stress reduction for an executive, and so on. I did do well at marketing in university and still love it. :) Money is my aphrodisiac, but I do take pleasure in clients that need to see and pay me, regardless of relationship status changes.
I love this! I'm not sure I've been working long enough for this to happen...have you been working for decades?
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There was an AMA (ask me anything) on another website and there was a sex worker and the amount of women that asked her “do you ever think of the clients women when you take their cash and have sex with them”, and she answered that yes she had but at the end of the day, if a man wants to cheat and he can’t cheat with an escort then he is going to do it regardless, why do women always get the blame for men cheating, if there wasn’t such a demand for sex work then we couldn’t supply it, I think lots of civvy women are threatened by escorts but it’s their man they have the issue with, not the women, we just get blamed.
Yes agree to this, I was blamed in civvie for someone else's man groping my ass!lots of women will do anything to justify their man in their eyes. That's why I always loved single escortdom lmao
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Married clients don’t turn me on more but I prefer them as, in my experience, they’re more likely to respect boundaries.
The dreamers who’ve requested switching to a FWB arrangement and/or suggested we’d make a ‘great couple’, have been single. :FF
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I love this! I'm not sure I've been working long enough for this to happen...have you been working for decades?
Yes, I started when I was 17, became high volume at 19-20, and am in my 30s today. The most important relationship status is between my client's wallet and my bank account, but a girl deserves some fun too.
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so you actively encourage them continue to see you? a bit odd in my opinion but I guess no one is holding a gun to their head.
Doesn't seem odd to me at all, it's just business.
As for the OPs question, it does nothing for me at all knowing they are married, I really couldn't care less either way as long as they are clean and polite and keep on handing over the cash.
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All that matters is how they are with me, and I've not noticed a correlation between boundaries and whether a punter is married or not. Some of the most indiscrete, disrespectful, rude, trying for things I don't do, refusing to leave or let me leave afterwards have been married/are married. Quite a few very nervous someone will find out, yet committed some of the worst indiscretions. At least as much as those who are single.
To me discretion, boundaries, thought put in is very individual.
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I don’t care if they are or aren't. As long as they have the cash.
But if they message me bitching about their wives or partners or how it’s a huge turn on to cheat etc, then that’s a huge turnoff for me and I won’t see them.
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It doesn't turn me on at all if a client is married but i find the married ones will not bother me inbetween bookings or ask me to go on a date outside of a paid session or send flirty messages. Also sex is not the most intimate thing in a marriage, Many married men I see love their wives and there's many reasons why some women go off the sexual part of a relationship. What I find a turn off is when a married man talks disrespectful about his partner during a booking. I don't feel bad about the wives because it's not a intimate affair it's sex and a bit of chat and I'm not looking to break up a relationship . Actually recently on a night out I had 3 different married men chatting me up and I put them straight that I was not interested especially when one started to touch me up. My civvy friend took one of the married guys home with her knowing he was married. Everyone is different, In my personal life I'd never get involved with a married guy. They can pay me but that's about as close as I get, I'd prefer not to know if honest. Some women and men get a kick out of having someone else's partner, Turning their head. The married guys I see just want to feel good and wanted for that booking.
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I'm not in the buisness to care about the clients private lives.
It's about giving a great service getting paid and satisfying clients
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I really dont care if they are in a relationship or not. The only time it bothers me is if they are looking for an outcall to their home and go on about their partner being out as that just stresses me out about them potentially coming home early
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I don't get off on it but they tend to be my favourite clients, they are swift, polite and clean.
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Nope. Their status doesn’t bother me in the slightest and more often that not, I’d never know anyway. So long as they pay and behave with me, that’s all that matters.
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Nope. Their status doesn’t bother me in the slightest and more often that not, I’d never know anyway. So long as they pay and behave with me, that’s all that matters.
Thats my view also. The only buzz i get outta this job is counting my money at end of the day i couldnt care less if the punter is married, single or in an open relationship
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I have mixed feelings, but only in as much as, I do feel a bit sorry for the 'in theory wife', but I also am very critical about the institution of marriage and all the social baggage that comes with it, so of course - and not that this is the question - I'm not going to stop doing something that offends a phenomenon that I don't care for.
I don't get turned on by married guys, but when I have sexual fantasies privately, I sometimes fantasise about the idea of having sex with taken men. Taboos get people off. I don't think the thought has ever come to my head when I'm actually doing the dirty though. I don't suppose it does you any harm if it gives you a bit of a frisson during the booking, but I'd be careful maybe to not let it 'get to your head' too much, you know, after you've finished/ start suffering from Mistress syndrome (needing to have these fantasies to feel more attractive than other women/ sexual competitiveness) and all that.
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I definitely get more turned on seeing married men, there is just something about seeing that wedding ring on his hand that makes me tingle...... I also have the same reaction when my husband wears his wedding ring as well (He usually only wears it on nights out/holidays, he nearly degloved himself at a pool night when he first started wearing it)
I don't tend to think about the wife at home because I am there to do a job, doesn't mean I can't enjoy it!
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When I know a client is married I usually feel safer :)
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When I know a client is married I usually feel safer :)
Yea, my favourite clients are the three Ms, middle class, middle aged, married. For no other reason than they usually have the most to lose from getting into trouble and so usually behave in an organised and discreet fashion and don't start stalking or acting up etc They don't turn me on though. Slutty ladies' men turn me on, unfortunately.
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When I know a client is married I usually feel safer :)
Just to blow this up, the armed robber had partner and small child. Even wrote a letter in prison telling me he was missing his son growing up. I agreed to see the letter it wasn't sent externally. I still remember a very long term regular, older client, very afraid lest anyone see him, constantly paranoid physically hurt me on his last booking. Then realising he'd done so spent a lot of time apologising (into over run), then was very indiscrete in the street after leaving.
Had a similar but different incident with another older, married, afraid people would find out.... In public totally indiscrete. Lots of younger single clients have been absolutely brilliant re discretion, as have many married of any age.
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Just to blow this up, the armed robber had partner and small child. Even wrote a letter in prison telling me he was missing his son growing up. I agreed to see the letter it wasn't sent externally. I still remember a very long term regular, older client, very afraid lest anyone see him, constantly paranoid physically hurt me on his last booking. Then realising he'd done so spent a lot of time apologising (into over run), then was very indiscrete in the street after leaving.
Had a similar but different incident with another older, married, afraid people would find out.... In public totally indiscrete. Lots of younger single clients have been absolutely brilliant re discretion, as have many married of any age.
Wow indeed that sounds quite bad, thanks, I will change my view of "married = safer" from now on :-\
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Makes no difference to me. All I'm interested in is them turning up on time, leaving on time and respecting my privacy.
I had a younger married guy 'fall' for me. I had to sack him. He wouldn't leave me alone. Had another 'attached' guy who got obsessed that I had to threaten with police, fucking needy and jealous when I was with others. I was home schooling my kids when the schools were shut early last year and he was all 'guess you don't want to see me anymore'. All I want is for them to leave me alone in between bookings and not treat me like their mistress. Just fuck me and fuck off.