Author Topic: Does anyone else agree with this regarding regulars? (Read 5666 times)

Ellie B · « **on:** 19 December 2018, 12:35:21 am »

Does anyone else think that the regulars you meet are un dateable?

I have had quite a few regular clients that go onto dating sites and say to you that they have found "the One" after many months/years/decades of searching for a "relationship".

And because you know them so well, with all their hang ups, you know for sure that it will end in disaster for them and they will return to seeing escorts, mainly because as soon as it comes to "bedroom action" the women they have wooed will run a mile because the guy is expecting the same service in the bedroom department that we provide? To summarise - action without the emotion and demanding/expecting this and that in the boudoir!

I have had so many of these, and they eventually return to escorts except for the odd one or two who look at us as filling a gap for their physical needs and then eventually find true love!

Hope that makes sense!

HankyPanky · « **Reply #1 on:** 19 December 2018, 12:44:57 am »

When taking a break from SW I finished with a boyfriend because he told me he had a long history of using prostitutes. As soon as he said the words "but I would never see one when I am in a relarionship" I was out the door before you could say No way Jose!
It was the easiest break up ever. Agreeing with what you said too, he exoected me to be a porn star for him every time we had sex and I really just can't be arsed with that. It was almost like he had no idea how to having loving sex anymore and was treating the event like a kid in a sweet shop, or should I say a punter getting a freebie!

Working lady · « **Reply #2 on:** 19 December 2018, 07:16:57 am »

Well I’m probably going to be shot down in flames here but I can’t honestly believe I’ve just read that. Talk about categorising all guys the same, don’t know about you girls but it gets my back up when “joe public” do the same with us ie were all drug addled, were untrustable, we only see guys as a walking wallet etc etc etc. For gods sake surely it depends on the guy. I personally treat each guy on their own merit the same as I’d like to be treated as I’m found. Yes some guys may be like that and yes some girls may be as I’ve described but hell not all of us. And yes I’m speaking from experience, I don’t trust easily due to a past relationship (long story and that past relationship was not a client but 100% untrustable in so many ways) but I certainly do trust my man now and guess what he was a client many years ago

amy · « **Reply #3 on:** 19 December 2018, 07:24:27 am »

Quote from: Working lady on 19 December 2018, 07:16:57 am

Well I’m probably going to be shot down in flames here but I can’t honestly believe I’ve just read that. Talk about categorising all guys the same, don’t know about you girls but it gets my back up when “joe public” do the same with us ie were all drug addled, were untrustable, we only see guys as a walking wallet etc etc etc. For gods sake surely it depends on the guy. I personally treat each guy on their own merit the same as I’d like to be treated as I’m found. Yes some guys may be like that and yes some girls may be as I’ve described but hell not all of us. And yes I’m speaking from experience, I don’t trust easily due to a past relationship (long story and that past relationship was not a client but 100% untrustable in so many ways) but I certainly do trust my man now and guess what he was a client many years ago

Not by me you won't. I have work to do and won't be back until later, but I doubt I'm the only one who also spotted at some point around primary school age that people are individuals and all different as a result

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Mirror · « **Reply #4 on:** 19 December 2018, 08:10:29 am »

Not at all, every person is different and many are very pleasant.

Those who are a pain in the neck, are a pain in the neck.

Nora batty · « **Reply #5 on:** 19 December 2018, 12:20:55 pm »

In my experience once a punter always a punter. It's so easy to pick up the phone and fire off a text/email/call and quicker than a takeaway delivery, sex on legs arrives. But I feel that maybe these types have a sexual addiction/very high sex drive.

Yes I am sure there are some that quit/dont do it when they have a partner. Look there's one here on a pink unicorn.

chocoholicgirl · « **Reply #6 on:** 19 December 2018, 12:40:02 pm »

I think we see sides of men that most women never do, add to that the fact that clients tell us all sorts that they might never tell a partner in case they were judged. It's easy therefore to judge all men like the 'bad' ones we see, yet many of our clients are lovely, many are single and we can only judge our clients and not the much larger percentage of guys that have never booked an escort.

I do have an experience that fits the OP's question perfectly. I had a long term regular, great guy, really enjoyed seeing him and we got on great although I would call us friends too, there was never mention of a relationship which was a great relief. He started a relationship with another escort who lived further away. I didn't see him for a while and when he booked me again, he was still in the relationship with her! All kinds of things you could say about that I guess. Was he booking me because he was 'addicted' to the thrill? Was he cheating on her because he couldn't help himself, or because he didn't class it as cheating as she was an escort? Who knows.

HankyPanky · « **Reply #7 on:** 19 December 2018, 12:46:59 pm »

Quote from: Working lady on 19 December 2018, 07:16:57 am

Well I’m probably going to be shot down in flames here but I can’t honestly believe I’ve just read that. Talk about categorising all guys the same, don’t know about you girls but it gets my back up when “joe public” do the same with us ie were all drug addled, were untrustable, we only see guys as a walking wallet etc etc etc. For gods sake surely it depends on the guy. I personally treat each guy on their own merit the same as I’d like to be treated as I’m found. Yes some guys may be like that and yes some girls may be as I’ve described but hell not all of us. And yes I’m speaking from experience, I don’t trust easily due to a past relationship (long story and that past relationship was not a client but 100% untrustable in so many ways) but I certainly do trust my man now and guess what he was a client many years ago

My opinions are based on personal experience; 99% of men I've seen working are married or in relationships so if I am to meet a guy in my vanilla life which is only during periods of not working in SW who expresses long term punting it just wouldn't be for me. Not all men visit escorts, not all men cheat with escorts and yes maybe some might appreciate his honesty but based on his treatment of me during sex as it was and in light of what he said I walked away easily. Funnily enough my instincts were right because he then went on to get involved with a friend of mine and was busted having sex with not one but three girls behind her back, one 18, one 26 and the other 24.. he's 53.
SW had heightened my trust in my own instincts, something I had blinkers on to when younger which resulted in a lot of sadness. I am sure not all punters relentlessly cheat on their partners and never change their spots but all of us are entitled to our own boundaries as hyprocitcal as they may seem to others.

Mirror · « **Reply #8 on:** 19 December 2018, 01:22:57 pm »

Quote from: HankyPanky on 19 December 2018, 12:46:59 pm

My opinions are based on personal experience; 99% of men I've seen working are married or in relationships so if I am to meet a guy in my vanilla life which is only during periods of not working in SW who expresses long term punting it just wouldn't be for me. Not all men visit escorts, not all men cheat with escorts and yes maybe some might appreciate his honesty but based on his treatment of me during sex as it was and in light of what he said I walked away easily. Funnily enough my instincts were right because he then went on to get involved with a friend of mine and was busted having sex with not one but three girls behind her back, one 18, one 26 and the other 24.. he's 53.
SW had heightened my trust in my own instincts, something I had blinkers on to when younger which resulted in a lot of sadness. I am sure not all punters relentlessly cheat on their partners and never change their spots but all of us are entitled to our own boundaries as hyprocitcal as they may seem to others.

I used to think a high proportion of punters are in relationships, probably because I was focused on that in some way. When I really started looking I found it was more like 60%. Over 7 years ago I started a relationship with a regular client, we are still together and are now married. He had his reasons for punting which wasn't necessarily to cheat, also remember some women cheat too or decide they'll go their way and their husband can (believe it or not!) go another way.

I'm far from naiive, having had more issues and problematic relationships way before I engaged in paid-sex-relationships. Not much I haven't seen or experienced, also done quite a bit of cheating of my own, treated partners awfully and vice versa so cannot preach to anyone. All I can do is agree my boundaries and stick to them.

Kay · « **Reply #9 on:** 19 December 2018, 02:22:43 pm »

Honestly, no - partly because most of my regulars have been attached any way. Of those that weren't, they were perfectly nice men, with no weird or wonderful sexual tastes, but I think they just didn't have the time or inclination to seek out a relationship, so used escorts to fulfil their sexual needs. I can totally understand that!

storm · « **Reply #10 on:** 19 December 2018, 03:02:21 pm »

it wouldnt even occur to me to think into it
theres a big difference between no strings sex fun, with a wg than an actual relationship in the real world
good luck to them i say
even if they're regulars you don't really know them or their true personality
I have spent up to a week at a time with regulars and still honestly couldn't say I know the 'true' them if anything the mask has always slipped a bit and I start noticing a totally different side to them, sometimes positive, sometimes not
end of day punting is just a bit of fun for most guys, away from real life and for fantasy sex, and if it's obvious it is more than that to them, I would seriously reconsider if I wanted them as a long term client anyway

someonesomewhere · « **Reply #11 on:** 19 December 2018, 03:18:09 pm »

Not really.
One of my regs is in a relationship. He does things with me that his gf won't do.
For others, it's about the fantasy.
Others it's about getting some relief from a quick blow and go. I wouldn't say those would only ever want a bj in their relationships.
They are all different and have different reasons as to why they see us, and I wouldn't say how they treat us, or the things they do with us has a bearing on relationships. Just the same way I am different as an escort to how I am in relationships.

Ellie B · « **Reply #12 on:** 19 December 2018, 09:21:59 pm »

Quote from: Nora batty on 19 December 2018, 12:20:55 pm

In my experience once a punter always a punter. It's so easy to pick up the phone and fire off a text/email/call and quicker than a takeaway delivery, sex on legs arrives. But I feel that maybe these types have a sexual addiction/very high sex drive.

Yes I am sure there are some that quit/dont do it when they have a partner. Look there's one here on a pink unicorn.

I was aiming this topic at single guys, and should have made this a bit clearer!
My clients are a mix of single, having partners or married.

From my experience, the single guys see escorts because they know they will get a "happy ending" and if they try to enter the dating game, lines can be blurred, especially when it comes to bedroom action.
And in the majority of cases end up back in the paid dating game!
Some are also lonely and seek company with or without a happy ending. Some are so shy around women that is the only way they can feel more confident.

I generally agree that once a punter, always a punter which is slightly another topic.
I have been doing this job for a very long time and this is my observation and others also have different opinions, and views on guys that punt.

I have been in this business for a very long time and do think, as regards the single men I have met

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #13 on:** 19 December 2018, 09:48:54 pm »

I have to say I would definitely see more single guys in central london and city of london. They want sexual relief but don't want an emotional investment.

But there are single guys all over the UK who book sex workers. I never ask if they are married though. We only get the "Yeah I love my wife but she doesn't want sex...." story when they decide to volunteer it.

I also see many more single guys when I offer a cheap blow and go; they just want to dump their balls and then fuck off. If you do quickies then it's a lot cheaper of a deal than dating.

CurlsnCurves · « **Reply #14 on:** 29 December 2018, 01:41:49 am »

I think some are undateable yes, but the majority are married or living with someone so they can't be undateable. I wonder actually if I am undateable? I also wonder how some of them managed to bag any woman who would actually say I do!?!
It baffles me.

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Ellie B

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