Author Topic: Do you feel escorting has changed you as a person? (Read 48699 times)

Mirror · « **Reply #45 on:** 02 October 2015, 05:42:35 pm »

Quote from: Chicabcn30 on 26 September 2015, 07:34:10 pm

Sure,it did.....
All of us lose the self confidence, the capacity of love and to trust on the other and everything for us turns temporary and without commitments
All of us! soon or later

Well I'll look out for it but the change in me since I started this well over 5 years ago has been huge. It enabled me to fix a very serious problem, which has been life changing. It's also given me my longest relationship, which has resulted in marriage. Prior to all of this I spent my life running away from relationships, getting away before I got too close.

I have found my confidence and choice of partner improved hugely as a result of being paid for sex. It also stopped me from going off on a whim.

The change in me is driven by both work, and me as a person. The whole process has been very revealing for me, and continues to be so.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #46 on:** 07 October 2015, 10:18:57 am »

Good for you Mirror pleased it has worked out. Becoming cynical and bitter isn't something I wish to aspire toward and this job offers plenty of positives for us, the main positive is invariably a bit more 'me' time subject to what else we need to attend to.....

Aqua Allegoria · « **Reply #47 on:** 07 October 2015, 09:27:50 pm »

No. I've always been a slut. Now I just get paid. Thank god for that:)

CarlyAngel · « **Reply #48 on:** 09 October 2015, 10:54:06 am »

Difficult question for me...
I have been an escort for almost 19 years, so i don't know who i was before i started in this industry. My most informative years have been spent being a glorified hooker! $:-\$

Fabulassie · « **Reply #49 on:** 09 October 2015, 12:50:50 pm »

I started fairly young and took a long hiatus. I don't know how much was just maturing as an adult and how much was due to prostitution.

However, I take very little shit from men. I remember, once, years ago throwing a one-night-stand guy out of my flat because he was pestering me for anal. "I can't cum without it." "I don't really care if you cum or not."

I do still enjoy the occasional ONS, but haven't recently. I like to be selfish and do what I want to do for me. Maybe *I* want to perve on and objectify a beautiful young body for a change.

I am not bitter about men and think they all cheat - I am more sympathetic if anything. I have learned that nice men can just want no-strings sex and they've figured out paying is the surest way to avoid emotional entanglements that hurt the other party or endanger their families. I also know that men can be starved for affection even if what they think of as affection is a blow job. And I've learned that men will deal with stress with sex. Like, a woman will have a terrible day and want to A) talk to a friend about their feelings, B) eat some chocolate, and C) watch Sex and the City with a bottle of wine. Men may well say "I want to drain my balls."

Midsstudent · « **Reply #50 on:** 09 October 2015, 06:50:41 pm »

Someone I used to sleep with got in touch recently, he knows what I do and has started acting like a client (who doesn't pay), texting me shit like 'are you available'... I pointed out I get that sort of text from paying customers and he said 'I'm certainly not one of those!' but only bothers when HE wants sex... when I want it I don't hear back from him. Also despite knowing I get up early and so go to bed early he keeps texting me late at night.

This sort of thing used to bother me but wouldn't turn me off the guy completely. Now as far as I'm concerned he can pay if he wants it as he acts like a client anyway.

Kay · « **Reply #51 on:** 09 October 2015, 06:54:39 pm »

Quote from: Midsstudent on 09 October 2015, 06:50:41 pm

Someone I used to sleep with got in touch recently, he knows what I do and has started acting like a client (who doesn't pay), texting me shit like 'are you available'... I pointed out I get that sort of text from paying customers and he said 'I'm certainly not one of those!' but only bothers when HE wants sex... when I want it I don't hear back from him.

That's exactly the sort of crap I no longer tolerate since escorting. I've had too many 'booty call' relationships that only seemed to work in one direction!

CarlyAngel · « **Reply #52 on:** 09 October 2015, 08:36:19 pm »

Quote from: KayHerts on 09 October 2015, 06:54:39 pm

Quote from: Midsstudent on 09 October 2015, 06:50:41 pm
Someone I used to sleep with got in touch recently, he knows what I do and has started acting like a client (who doesn't pay), texting me shit like 'are you available'... I pointed out I get that sort of text from paying customers and he said 'I'm certainly not one of those!' but only bothers when HE wants sex... when I want it I don't hear back from him.

That's exactly the sort of crap I no longer tolerate since escorting. I've had too many 'booty call' relationships that only seemed to work in one direction!

If guys in my personal life want to treat me like a whore....hey can fucking pay me like one lol

Shewolf · « **Reply #53 on:** 09 October 2015, 08:38:13 pm »

Quote from: KayHerts on 09 October 2015, 06:54:39 pm

Quote from: Midsstudent on 09 October 2015, 06:50:41 pm
Someone I used to sleep with got in touch recently, he knows what I do and has started acting like a client (who doesn't pay), texting me shit like 'are you available'... I pointed out I get that sort of text from paying customers and he said 'I'm certainly not one of those!' but only bothers when HE wants sex... when I want it I don't hear back from him.

That's exactly the sort of crap I no longer tolerate since escorting. I've had too many 'booty call' relationships that only seemed to work in one direction!

I got close (or thought I did) to one of my clients over a long period of him being a regular. He said he wanted to see more of me and in a relationship sense. I have taken the chance...yet nothing whatsoever has actually changed...oh, apart from him not paying that is...I feel like it is all a giant piss take and it has only taken me a couple of weeks to put a stop to it. Before I was escorting, I would probably have given him the benefit of the doubt for a while longer if he had been my fuck buddy etc and wanted things to change. I feel like my radar has been heightened. I know I am used as an escort (and compensated for this) so I certainly don't appreciate being used in a personal context anymore. In a personal context, I expect to be put first and adored x

xSweetCheeksx · « **Reply #54 on:** 09 October 2015, 09:16:41 pm »

Quote from: victoryrose on 20 September 2015, 02:20:51 pm

For me personally, this is not at all a replacement for dating or "real life" sex. Even when the sex is good, it's work and feels like it. Even when the guy is nice, he's a client and not a boyfriend. I get into relationships for the cuddles over Netflix, and being able to ask them specifically to massage me all day in exchange for a bunch of blowjobs. Oh and the inside jokes. You don't really get that mutual arrangement with clients, much less with ones that are decades older than you.

It has changed me in terms of financial independence, the insecurity and worry that was on my mind for the majority if not the entirety of my life has lessened a lot now. I still can't get over not having to constantly tally up how much I'm spending on groceries (I still do, but with much less shock in my eyes). I care a lot less about my body image and am happier with where I am and what my body looks like. I have some level of hope for the future and how self reliant I can be which can help a lot in academia in a field where if you're poor, you've got to rely on shady companies funding your research rather than having the freedom to essentially do what you want.

In a way though I guess it has also brought even more stress into my life, especially with some of the recent problems I've been having. I do constantly have a bit of "Imposter Syndrome" and feel like I don't deserve the money I'm earning and that it will end one day soon. I'm currently on a very unsuccessful tour which is partly deliberate as I've barely bothered with advertising/picking up the phone because I think I'm getting burnt out a bit.

Overall I'd say I've improved, and this job has given me a lot.

This is pretty much me exact! I don't really have a massively high sex drive. I enjoy it in a serious relationship but within this i am purely driven by the money and the opportunities it's given me. I love the feeling of going on nights out and drinking the drinks i love rather than any crap that's on offer and same when i see nice clothes ect.

It's definitely given me more body confidence. I have to admit though, lately the novelty with money ect is wearing off and i'm giving myself 2 years to save like mad and have a career plan set in place. I'm 25 years old and really want kids and a family one day so can't keep doing this forever.

Midsstudent · « **Reply #55 on:** 10 October 2015, 10:27:09 am »

Quote from: KayHerts on 09 October 2015, 06:54:39 pm

Quote from: Midsstudent on 09 October 2015, 06:50:41 pm
Someone I used to sleep with got in touch recently, he knows what I do and has started acting like a client (who doesn't pay), texting me shit like 'are you available'... I pointed out I get that sort of text from paying customers and he said 'I'm certainly not one of those!' but only bothers when HE wants sex... when I want it I don't hear back from him.

That's exactly the sort of crap I no longer tolerate since escorting. I've had too many 'booty call' relationships that only seemed to work in one direction!

Yeah, I have no issue with having a fuck buddy, when it's not just one sided! I expect to get sex when I want it too. He wants to act like a paying customer, he can pay like one. Hell, customers treat me better as I won't see anyone sending random texts for sex like he does!

Lushblossom · « **Reply #56 on:** 12 October 2015, 03:54:17 am »

Generally I don't feel cheapened by doing the job. I feel ok about it unless I tell somebody in 'real life' shall we say and then worry what they are going to think of me, since most people just aren't streetwise enough to get it.

I have told someone I respect quite a lot in the spiritual organisation I go to but now I don't know how she perceives me. She certainly won't understand the cost of living as a single parent without family support and without an ex who actually can see his son safely without hitting.

If it wasn't for this job I seriously do think me and my son would have ended up slowly in a caravan somewhere surviving for dear life on scraps to exist from through the benefit system.

This is why I feel quite grateful to the clients generally as it is still giving us a roof over our head and food on the table.

I think from now on should I reveal my job to somebody I will make sure I only tell a fellow single parent as I can't imagine most people will get it.

Anyway don't mind me am just feeling down about my life but I will pick up again! Like I say I do feel quite grateful to most of our clients as they are giving me a form of security that otherwise I simply would not have.

Shewolf · « **Reply #57 on:** 12 October 2015, 10:10:31 pm »

Lushblossom:

I understand you completely. I too have been a single parent in every sense of the word i.e no support from anyone and an ex who isn't even responsible enough to offer practical support re: seeing their child. No, don't tell in general people what you do, don't put yourself in a position of being judged. You don't deserve it. You deserve to be respected for providing for your child in very challenging circumstances. I have every bit of respect and admiration for you.

MollyG · « **Reply #58 on:** 14 October 2015, 03:17:43 am »

Quote from: Lushblossom on 12 October 2015, 03:54:17 am

I think from now on should I reveal my job to somebody I will make sure I only tell a fellow single parent as I can't imagine most people will get it.

I agree with Shewolf in not revealing your job. If there's anything I've learnt, it's that people don't understand why women become escorts even when the alternative is to struggle. Hope things pick up again for you Lushblossom.

Midsstudent · « **Reply #59 on:** 14 October 2015, 09:16:59 pm »

I guess I'm lucky as I've been able to be open with pretty much all of my friends about it and only lost one due to her treating me like a money tree. The others are awesome and I talk about work with them all the time.

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