Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 20 September 2015, 07:55:19 pm

Quote from: victoryrose on 20 September 2015, 03:36:02 pm

LL, I totally agree it is likely an age thing! Also I think it depends on how much you want to be loved, which usually as you get older and more independent lessens as you become less needy.

I don't think it's necessarily that we become less needy or are more independent.  We have just worked guys out more and after we have tried the tshirt and found it didn't fit well that we weren't willing to put up with the crap some guys give out.

Nail on the head. Plus being financially secure, I don't need to take the crap a man dishes out. They are like puppies to me now, cute to look at, even cuter to play with, to be returned to their owners. I might want to own one, but do I want the commitment of having a creature around who will not change in any way other than growing bigger, eating more, pissing up trees, and humping my leg? No thanks.

Lol that's brilliant!  loyal to whoever feeds them too.

Quote from: Irish Josephine on 20 September 2015, 04:01:43 pm

Would you believe before I started Escorting I would not let anyone see me naked LOL (except ex hubby and even with him I would hide my ugly bits)

Life has improved in so many ways from Escorting

My body confidence improved. My ex-partner used to say my vagina lips were too big, clients found me very sexy down there  . I am a curvy girl and no longer care about my pot belly amongst other things.

 I have been hardened. I don't suffer fools gladly and had to leave a few 'friends' who were taking advantage of me for money and time. This job made me value my time more and I don't give my time to people who only complain and want to create drama.

On the downside, I no longer believe anything a man tells me. I don't trust my partner 100 percent. I find text messages on his phone and I always think he is seeing his ex again or sleeping around when I'm working.

I'll second that. It's added to my insecurities. This job has been a real eye opener into how many cheats there are out there [a male friend says this too about men] & the difference in men's sexual needs. I find it a bit overwhelming sometimes with how many clients there are out there. I know women are lying to their Bfs too about working etc & there are female cheats so it's not just men.  I look at guys in my other job & think I can read who is seeing escorts & who's a cheat. Waste of mental energy I know but it pops up when I'm bored. A little psychological Red flag, other reasons for this too. This job has made me more interested in gender differences.

Quote from: VioletteUK on 20 September 2015, 08:32:28 pm

Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 20 September 2015, 07:55:19 pm

Quote from: victoryrose on 20 September 2015, 03:36:02 pm

LL, I totally agree it is likely an age thing! Also I think it depends on how much you want to be loved, which usually as you get older and more independent lessens as you become less needy.

I don't think it's necessarily that we become less needy or are more independent.  We have just worked guys out more and after we have tried the tshirt and found it didn't fit well that we weren't willing to put up with the crap some guys give out.

Nail on the head. Plus being financially secure, I don't need to take the crap a man dishes out. They are like puppies to me now, cute to look at, even cuter to play with, to be returned to their owners. I might want to own one, but do I want the commitment of having a creature around who will not change in any way other than growing bigger, eating more, pissing up trees, and humping my leg? No thanks.

Lol that's brilliant!  loyal to whoever feeds them too.

Quote from: MollyG on 20 September 2015, 10:41:04 pm

Quote from: Irish Josephine on 20 September 2015, 04:01:43 pm

Would you believe before I started Escorting I would not let anyone see me naked LOL (except ex hubby and even with him I would hide my ugly bits)

Life has improved in so many ways from Escorting

My body confidence improved. My ex-partner used to say my vagina lips were too big, clients found me very sexy down there  . I am a curvy girl and no longer care about my pot belly amongst other things.

 I have been hardened. I don't suffer fools gladly and had to leave a few 'friends' who were taking advantage of me for money and time. This job made me value my time more and I don't give my time to people who only complain and want to create drama.

On the downside, I no longer believe anything a man tells me. I don't trust my partner 100 percent. I find text messages on his phone and I always think he is seeing his ex again or sleeping around when I'm working.

I'll second that. It's added to my insecurities. This job has been a real eye opener into how many cheats there are out there [a male friend says this too about men] & the difference in men's sexual needs. I find it a bit overwhelming sometimes with how many clients there are out there. I know women are lying to their Bfs too about working etc & there are female cheats so it's not just men.  I look at guys in my other job & think I can read who is seeing escorts & who's a cheat. Waste of mental energy I know but it pops up when I'm bored. A little psychological Red flag, other reasons for this too. This job has made me more interested in gender differences.

At least puppies are cute and have that new born baby smell

I have to say I do not see physical infidelity with a wg as cheating, to me it would be hurtful if my hubby told another woman he loved her, took her out, spent money on buying her gifts.  Obviously I would not want to know if he goes and sees another wg, that he needs to keep secret but it would really not bother me or be the end of my marriage if I ever find out.

i guess that is one thing this industry has taught me, men see sex as a bodily function, it does not diminish their feelings for their partners, but unfortunately women see and use sex as a way of getting love.

I do not look at my clients as cheaters or lowlifes but men who have a physical itch that needs scratching.

I agree with Fluffy Bunny. Some people are actually cheaters... They thrive on the drama of an affair.

Few civilian women have a clue what sex means to men.

They think marrying him and offering a once a week grudging tumble is going to keep him satisfied, not a hope in hell.

Yes you are right Lady Lust it is definitely an age thing - since I have lived with 4 men over the years prior to having my son.

Somebody else mentioned casual sex online yes I too was giving it to all and sundry out there as that was the way I was feeling for a while and then luckily a guy mentioned on one of the dating sites that adultwork existed as a site and if I was short of money why didn't I escort.  After much deliberation and pondering and breaking through the angst barrier over time I eventually got there and this is 3 years ago and now the rest is history!

Personally I find our line of work very empowering.

I am in a similar boat lushblossom.. Did the marriage and kids thing and wondered why I ended up feeling so trapped and depressed (husband who had extremely low sex drive and just loved lying on the couch watching match of the day).
Then split with him and went nuts exploring sexually and loved it.. Discovered I have a talent too, and then heard about AW and thought why not earn money for something I am enjoying anyway?
I have great friends and my  kids I can snuggle with, a gardener and a cleaner, and just don't feel the need for a relationship.
I am much more confident since escorting , more assertive, and am not so worried about making ends meet.

Escorting hasn't changed me much. I was already socially adept due to my previous job, I was a shy and awkward teenager but work taught me to be confidant with people. I would perform all day long for customers and loved being the centre of attention, which is a great asset in this line of work. I also had the balls to deal with men due to the strong women in my family. Again a good asset for escorting. Where it has changed me is how I feel about men, I now feel sorry for them and have far more understanding and empathy for thier situations. I know some tell us tall tales about thenselves but some tell partial truths and are in sad situations. It hasn't put me off men and I don't feel any less of them, some will always stray whether affairs or escorts, I have always known that. Another way I have changed is I am a bit more bolshy and don't suffer fools any more I find I am far more likely to stand my ground in a dispute. I don't like that change as I see it as a negative. I'm not always right but won't back down.

..I feel escorting has changed me in that it has given me a confidence in my body and also I am learning to assert myself in a way I haven't done before - I think my bullshit radar has become finely tuned too and I don't know if this is good or bad but I don't (or can't suffer fools gladly).

It has changed me but only in good ways.

 I grew up with no money, and was doing 40 hour weeks in my minimum wage job barely making ends meet with nothing left over.  The first time I did an outcall with my friend and had roughly a weeks wages in my hand afterwards, I could barely believe it.  It's really weird now not having to worry about my bills, or rent or how I'm going to afford my food shopping.  That in turn has made me more relaxed, running my own business makes me feel confident, and the extra income has helped me take care of my appearance more so I feel better too

But it's also helped me see different sides to men. I used to be quite naive but not anymore. You need a finely tuned bullshit detector for this.  I didn't realise how many men just want a bit of company and a bit of affection.  I also didn't realise just how depraved and vile some men can be when you put your foot down and say no! Definitely opened my eyes to how many men cheat on their partners too.  In agreement with other ladies on this forum maybe staying single is best...