Hi ladies I was just wondering recently in what way have we found that escorting has changed us as a person?  Does it make us stronger and more confident and empowered?  I have certainly found this to be the case for me.

Do you think it also makes us feel we are half in something if you see what I mean so that I don't really need a relationship - as to my mind the only good points about a relationship at best ever were 1) sex 2) diy help and 3) gardening help.  Luckily I have currently got a cheap handiman who does diy and gardening work for a pretty good price as his job and he is reliable too.  And as for sex well we are spoilt in that department aren't we!

I think we are quite lucky in that we get a regular supply of sex, some of which is great and some of it not so great depending on their sexual prowess and what sort of sex they want e.g. if it is anal or blowjob although I enjoy those it won't be as relaxing as vaginal sex - if they are any good that is.  I really do find this quite fortunate since I find sex relaxing!

Would be interested to know/learn anybody else's views?

The only difference I've noticed would be the improvement of my social skills. I'm a very unsociable person in my personal life, and my ability to relate to people was somewhat lacking. That has changed since I started working. The job didn't impact how sociable I am in general, though, neither positively nor negatively.

For me personally, this is not at all a replacement for dating or "real life" sex. Even when the sex is good, it's work and feels like it. Even when the guy is nice, he's a client and not a boyfriend. I get into relationships for the cuddles over Netflix, and being able to ask them specifically to massage me all day in exchange for a bunch of blowjobs. Oh and the inside jokes. You don't really get that mutual arrangement with clients, much less with ones that are decades older than you.

It has changed me in terms of financial independence, the insecurity and worry that was on my mind for the majority if not the entirety of my life has lessened a lot now. I still can't get over not having to constantly tally up how much I'm spending on groceries (I still do, but with much less shock in my eyes). I care a lot less about my body image and am happier with where I am and what my body looks like. I have some level of hope for the future and how self reliant I can be which can help a lot in academia in a field where if you're poor, you've got to rely on shady companies funding your research rather than having the freedom to essentially do what you want.

In a way though I guess it has also brought even more stress into my life, especially with some of the recent problems I've been having. I do constantly have a bit of "Imposter Syndrome" and feel like I don't deserve the money I'm earning and that it will end one day soon. I'm currently on a very unsuccessful tour which is partly deliberate as I've barely bothered with advertising/picking up the phone because I think I'm getting burnt out a bit.

Overall I'd say I've improved, and this job has given me a lot.

It's made me a little bit emotionless I think. I just don't care about people's feelings etc anymore. And I definitely don't want a partner, I absolutely couldn't be bothered! Whereas before this I was quite needy, jealous and a lot more miserable!

Would you believe before I started Escorting I would not let anyone see me naked LOL (except ex hubby and even with him I would hide my ugly bits)

er not that I was shopping in the nudie but I wont wear a bikini

I had a few operations and have a large scar which I thought devastatingly ugly
A man persuaded me to show him my scar when I was doing massage and looked at me like I am crazy and said who the H is going to see that (it is huge, I thought he was being nice)
A few months later another man persuaded me to show him and again the "you're nuts" look

So I started wearing fewer clothes and showing off a bit
So far only 2 men have ever asked about the scar, with interest as to the operation.

I used to warn people who booked me in case my scar upset them, no one ever seemed to notice - I have very big boobies and the eyes rarely drop below that level 

For me confidence big time and ability to pay bills also allows confidence as does being able to pay for a social life which I never could before and would always refuse invitations too embarrassed to say I do not have money to pay for a coffee I would just say I was busy and look anti social until everyone dropped me.

Life has improved in so many ways from Escorting

LL, I totally agree it is likely an age thing! Also I think it depends on how much you want to be loved, which usually as you get older and more independent lessens as you become less needy.

I don't think it's necessarily that we become less needy or are more independent.  We have just worked guys out more and after we have tried the tshirt and found it didn't fit well that we weren't willing to put up with the crap some guys give out.

Would you believe before I started Escorting I would not let anyone see me naked LOL (except ex hubby and even with him I would hide my ugly bits)

Life has improved in so many ways from Escorting

My body confidence improved. My ex-partner used to say my vagina lips were too big, clients found me very sexy down there  . I am a curvy girl and no longer care about my pot belly amongst other things.

 I have been hardened. I don't suffer fools gladly and had to leave a few 'friends' who were taking advantage of me for money and time. This job made me value my time more and I don't give my time to people who only complain and want to create drama.

On the downside, I no longer believe anything a man tells me. I don't trust my partner 100 percent. I find text messages on his phone and I always think he is seeing his ex again or sleeping around when I'm working.

Fluffy Bunny you are so bang on about men being vulnerable.

I do find 90 per cent of single men far too needy to even contemplate as a friend let alone a partner.  Their neuroticisms and inability to withstand stress just does not lure me in as a potential friend or girlfriend in the slightest!

To my mind only a similarly needy female could put up with most single men out there.

That said I do have two platonic men friends one is a handy neighbour (handy for practical queries on the mobile, an occasional cup of tea and neighbourly chat etc.) and the other is a gay man friend which is a lot easier in the latter case as we know he won't ever wish to cross the line!!