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Escortx

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #15 on: 03 June 2020, 05:46:34 pm »
Well no because if it wasn't for the money I wouldn't do it ever.it my job work only.its a bit like saying to a cleaner do you count your cleaning job as your personal cleaning


I didn’t mean that, I just meant regardless of us being in it for the money then do you still count them as your sex life! I agree though, it’s just work sex.

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #16 on: 03 June 2020, 10:56:29 pm »
Absolutely not. He walks thru the door, my emotional thermostat gets dialed down to zero🧊. I’ve no interest in you other than the $$ you’re bringing.

I *especially* hate when they ask, “If I was your BF, what would we be doing? Just behave as though we’re together.”

How dare you. In the 1st place I would never date someone who looks like you/is so obnoxious/clearly didn’t shower🚿/has to be reminded to take the fucking gum out of his mouth before he kisses me/take your pick, etc etc, so what you’re asking for IS IMPOSSIBLE, you cretin *shouting*.

I simply don’t answer those ??s any more. If they press me, I smile nicely & say, “What would YOU like to do?”  That generally shuts’em up.
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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #17 on: 03 June 2020, 11:18:12 pm »
The worst thing when they say "What do you like?"...
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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #18 on: 04 June 2020, 09:47:19 am »
The worst thing when they say "What do you like?"...

I always say, and I don’t know if they buy this but they seem too, “your pleasure is my pleasure”, and then I’ll always say blowjobs are my forte! :)

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #19 on: 04 June 2020, 10:35:26 am »
Yes I guess I do, its my kink and I enjoy it majority of the time. I also don't do relationships, not standard monogamous ones anyway, but am yet to find a man genuinely secure in himself to love without physical possession. Its also rare that I will find a man deserving of free casual sex with me. So yeah most of my sex life is covered by my job! I market a certain type of service that provides the kind of sex I like and attracts the kind of clientele I want whilst screening out the rest that I dont.
I started doing this years ago for the thrill and took it up as a proper job when I got satisfaction, money and freedom from the rat race with it. I recognise that I have the privilege of choice when doing this work compared to many who do it because they need to.

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #20 on: 04 June 2020, 11:22:58 am »
I don't have a sex life out of work.  I tell friends who don't know what I do to earn a living that I've lost interest and I'm a bit of a prude.  I even find myself believing this which is a bit odd as I nearly always orgasm with clients (I have a vivid imagination and like to close my eyes!).  Having not had any sex (even alone) since lockdown I'm starting to look around when i'm at the supermarket and have some sexy dreams.   so I guess sex work is my sex life.  I can't imagine having a civvie relationship; there's just no time and i'd only end up falling for them and that would complicate a rather cushty situation.

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #21 on: 04 June 2020, 11:42:43 am »
At this moment in time then I feel like I wouldn’t care if I ever had penetrative sex again, oral yes as i love that (outside of work and when I’m not burnt out then I don’t mind some clients doing it as some of them truly know what they’re doing, I still think of a punter that gave me an amazing orgasm last year!) but I don’t think I’ve ever truly liked vaginal sex but I feel like I pretend that I do because I feel I should!

I like penetrative sex to be over within 5 mins and at work, within 2!!

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #22 on: 04 June 2020, 12:52:37 pm »
Absolutely not. He walks thru the door, my emotional thermostat gets dialed down to zero🧊. I’ve no interest in you other than the $$ you’re bringing.

I *especially* hate when they ask, “If I was your BF, what would we be doing? Just behave as though we’re together.”

How dare you. In the 1st place I would never date someone who looks like you/is so obnoxious/clearly didn’t shower🚿/has to be reminded to take the fucking gum out of his mouth before he kisses me/take your pick, etc etc, so what you’re asking for IS IMPOSSIBLE, you cretin *shouting*.

I simply don’t answer those ??s any more. If they press me, I smile nicely & say, “What would YOU like to do?”  That generally shuts’em up.

I am recently back to work and I saw one guy who actually asked me did I fancy him 🤔🙄

I said I don’t answer those questions it’s not professional, I mean wtf

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #23 on: 04 June 2020, 01:40:19 pm »
TheLastTime omg I cannot believe that he asked you that, sounds like one of the deluded ones that think we’re all in it for the sex! *eyeroll*

I will obviously put out the fantasy to a certain point but pretending to fancy/like a client is crossing the boundaries and making a rod for your own back, plus it’s not nice for the men either.

I know an escort that does pretend such things to some guys and then she wonders why they try to get out of paying and why they text her all the time!!

When I first stated this job then I had no idea just how far the delusions of some men went, nobody told me what to say and what not to say, I honestly just thought that you had sex with them and that they would obviously know I was there for the cash, and I didn’t even think they would want to go down on me, that’s how naive I was, anyway I was new and a client asked me if I had a boyfriend (I am bi) and I didn’t know to say that it wasn’t his business or to lie so instead I said yes and he got up and walked out!!!

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #24 on: 07 June 2020, 04:54:12 pm »
I'm single so the only sex I have is through work and some of it is very enjoyable for me too. Some of my regulars often make me orgasm and some have become friends too so there is an emotional connection with one in particular and always look forward to our meets.

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #25 on: 07 June 2020, 05:09:08 pm »
Nope.

I’ve had sex for free with 3 men in the past 3 years. My ‘sex life’ is pretty stale, I get paid to be used for sex so why would I do it for free? It’s very difficult to find a man who doesn’t just want you for one thing, in my personal experience, so I very rarely give it away for free
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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #26 on: 07 June 2020, 08:20:51 pm »
When I was in a relationship, work sex was just mostly an unpleasant duty, just for money . I had the most beautiful sex life with my partner, we connected on many levels I never had an idea existed.
Now when I’m single , I guess my work sex is my only sex , so yes , it is my sex life .

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #27 on: 08 June 2020, 12:23:15 pm »
Nope.

I’ve had sex for free with 3 men in the past 3 years. My ‘sex life’ is pretty stale, I get paid to be used for sex so why would I do it for free? It’s very difficult to find a man who doesn’t just want you for one thing, in my personal experience, so I very rarely give it away for free

You may do it for free because you have feelings for someone? I don’t think I could never have private sex again, even though I feel like right now I’m not keen on it but a few months off and I’ll soon want private sex.

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #28 on: 08 June 2020, 03:03:26 pm »
I like penetrative sex to be over within 5 mins and at work, within 2!!

Me too!

I have a few one minute wonders.

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Re: Do you count sex work as your sex life?
« Reply #29 on: 08 June 2020, 04:09:58 pm »
KBP, I could have written that post myself...I feel exactly the same about it as you. I have 3 marriages behind me, loads of one nite stands, loads of heartbreak. Dont need anymore of that. The job gives me everything I need in my life, a bit of company, good sex occasionally lol, and a good income