Quote from: Shewolf on 04 January 2016, 07:43:33 pm

Quote from: Nova on 04 January 2016, 07:18:35 pm

Quote from: Kendra Glasgow on 04 January 2016, 06:15:58 pm

For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

So what would a better response have been?

I'd say "If you take a minute to read my profile you'd see that's not a service I offer" Bye!.

When I want to outright reject someone I do it very, very sweetly. "I'm sorry but I don't think I'm the right girl for you. I hope you find someone fun to play with and thanks so much for you call." Then I hang up. Even if they're a twat - especially if they're a twat - I will take the sweet and apologetic route because those are the guys you don't want to make angry.

I'm not perfect, though. Sometimes I get fed up. Usually if they're keeping me on the phone with really daft questions. Then I may become a bit rude. But I do try to avoid that because I don't want to anger a nutter.

I don't care so much - or I don't think about very much - whether or not I'm "professional." I'm polite because it's less aggro that way. I'm punctual because I respect other people's time. I'm clean and have a tidy incall flat because I have self-respect. I don't lie about my services or use misleading photos because I respect the client's time and his money. But I don't think in terms of being professional for the sake of it.

I do get worn down by the amount of verbal abuse I get from the phone and emails. I know that it comes with the territory. I try to shrug it off but I don't like it. I don't think it's necessarily abusive to ask "can I fuck all your holes?" but it sometimes feels that way.

I honestly wonder if these really clueless guys ever succeed in getting bookings and if they even sincerely want a booking.

Quote from: mature helen on 04 January 2016, 08:17:45 pm

Quote from: Shewolf on 04 January 2016, 07:43:33 pm

Quote from: Nova on 04 January 2016, 07:18:35 pm

Quote from: Kendra Glasgow on 04 January 2016, 06:15:58 pm

For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

So what would a better response have been?

I'd say "If you take a minute to read my profile you'd see that's not a service I offer" Bye!.

When I want to outright reject someone I do it very, very sweetly. "I'm sorry but I don't think I'm the right girl for you. I hope you find someone fun to play with and thanks so much for you call." Then I hang up. Even if they're a twat - especially if they're a twat - I will take the sweet and apologetic route because those are the guys you don't want to make angry.

I'm not perfect, though. Sometimes I get fed up. Usually if they're keeping me on the phone with really daft questions. Then I may become a bit rude. But I do try to avoid that because I don't want to anger a nutter.

I don't care so much - or I don't think about very much - whether or not I'm "professional." I'm polite because it's less aggro that way. I'm punctual because I respect other people's time. I'm clean and have a tidy incall flat because I have self-respect. I don't lie about my services or use misleading photos because I respect the client's time and his money. But I don't think in terms of being professional for the sake of it.

I do get worn down by the amount of verbal abuse I get from the phone and emails. I know that it comes with the territory. I try to shrug it off but I don't like it. I don't think it's necessarily abusive to ask "can I fuck all your holes?" but it sometimes feels that way.

I honestly wonder if these really clueless guys ever succeed in getting bookings and if they even sincerely want a booking.

Yes the last couple of months, I say I'm sorry but it would seem we're incompatible. I hope you find someone else that you like and is more suited to you.

End of then block their number.

I definitely do think that a guy ringing up asking to fuck all my holes is abusive, ok maybe not abusive but revolting. It's just not an acceptable way to speak to someone unless they are joking in which case I don't have much of a sense of humour with a complete stranger being so crude with me.

It just makes you wonder what they would be like in person if they can't behave for a matter of seconds on the phone.

There HAS to be someone out there that accepts their bookings because there are far, far too many of these guys circling around. Some of them are genuinely and utterly shocked when I refuse their bookings.

As I've said, the way I see it is......I'm trying to make a living here so it's not in my best interest financially to turn a client away so when I do, it's because they have given me reason to and as silly as it may seem to them or anyone else, it's not silly to me.

The part of your post I've highlighted, I agree with every word and couldn't have put it better myself 

I think some times I have trouble typing in words what I'm trying to say without saying things that can be taken or misinterpreted the wrong way.

xx

I don't think that's how most genuine punters or certainly the ones I wish to offer my services to go about  making a booking.Using phrases like that is a definite indication of a timewaster.So for that reason I would assume at best its a prank call designed to either elicit wank fodder or to get an upset reaction and I would just put the phone down and block.If someone contacts me and just asks alot of questions then I politely refer them to my website or profile or if I really don't like the sound of them I'll say I'm booked up.I have been caught on the hop and probably been short with idiot callers but I feel annoyed at myself afterwards as I do like to retain my dignity and yes I suppose professionalism.More important to any of that though is my own sanity if I am getting cross at silly enquiries that means I have that feeling of negativity for however many minutes or hours,its me sat there thinking about it,not the dickhead who has said the silly offensive thing,they don't care.So I strive to keep calm at all times and I don't let the buggers grind me down.

I don't think that's how most genuine punters or certainly the ones I wish to offer my services to go about  making a booking.Using phrases like that is a definite indication of a timewaster.So for that reason I would assume at best its a prank call designed to either elicit wank fodder or to get an upset reaction and I would just put the phone down and block.If someone contacts me and just asks alot of questions then I politely refer them to my website or profile or if I really don't like the sound of them I'll say I'm booked up.I have been caught on the hop and probably been short with idiot callers but I feel annoyed at myself afterwards as I do like to retain my dignity and yes I suppose professionalism.More important to any of that though is my own sanity if I am getting cross at silly enquiries that means I have that feeling of negativity for however many minutes or hours,its me sat there thinking about it,not the dickhead who has said the silly offensive thing,they don't care.So I strive to keep calm at all times and I don't let the buggers grind me down.

I 100% agree with everything said here!

Most if not all decent clients will never approach us in this manner.

Idiots who do approach us in this manner are timewasters at best or complete nightmares with no respect what so ever in person neither of which I would want to meet with.

We all have different standards as to what we think is acceptable.

I've been accused a number of times for being up my own arse when I'm actually the complete opposite. I just think that if I'm going to be inviting a stranger into my home to then offer myself in a very intimate way, I expect them to treat me just like a normal person and for them to act like a normal person, that's all but it seems to be too much to ask sometimes.

So if having standards as to who I meet makes me up my own arse then I guess I'm up my own arse.

If someone polite sounding rings me up but clearly hasn't read my profile then I will just refer them back to my profile however in the past, I would have gotten annoyed at them and given them a snappy answer. I don't do this now.

I give everyone a second chance now providing it's not something that really, really puts me off from the start.

If ever someone does really get under my skin and I react, I get annoyed with myself too for lowering myself to their level so I just don't do it now.

I also just save or block someone's number if I don't like the sound of them without confrontation whereas in the past, I would have told them that I didn't want to meet them and would have given a reason why which didn't do me any favours at all.

Believe it or not, I hate confrontation. I get so anxious at the thought of it. The thought of being stuck alone in a room with a stranger who's not happy or expecting things I don't do really makes my stomach churn so I try my absolute best to avoid it. Unfortunately for me, trying to avoid it as much as I have in the past has probably caused me more problems and more haters.

For some people (the likes of me), getting to a point where your strong enough not to react when people are offensive, mean, hurtful and or nasty about me is actually quite a big thing as I've let people hurt my feelings for over 4 years now (particularly the last couple of years) and I just can't allow them to hurt me anymore.

xx

It just goes to show how one thing may be ok for one girl but not for another and visa versa.

This is why I don't take clients feedback into account when they say something I don't like and then proceed to tell me they have good feedback.

For example, guy emailed me ages ago on AW asking me if him and his friend could spit roast me. Not only do I not see 2 men at once but I don't offer that sort of service in any way, shape or form (I call this either a PSE or slutty GFE! Each to their own but I'm neither. I'm vanilla GFE and my profile has always been very clear on this fact).

Ditto. I suppose I'd fall firmly into what you describe a slutty GFE - I am too 'plain' to classify as PSE but I'm also very fetish-friendly and up for experimenting. That said, I feel all those terms are fairly limited in all honesty, but that's a different matter altogether.

In my opinion the only client feedbacks worth keeping in mind are the ones regarding potentially dangerous individuals. Even then though, the country I work in does not have anything resembling an extensive 'information network' and most people are kinda in the dark regarding the clients. Heh.

Even if I don't get butt hurt over it, I would still be afraid to see them. Like, if I tolerate crude talk then I may lead them to believe that I tolerate other rude behaviour, as well. I may be unusually thin skinned, but I need to feel that the client respects me.

I don't think requiring respect from your customer base is a sign of being thin-skinned, at all. It's a completely reasonable thing

However, in my experience crude way of phrasing oneself is not necessarily tied to disrespect. For a lot of people, it's just a matter of being low brow and lacking in social sense. Unless everything else said/written was giving off bad vibes to me, I'd pretty much read a question like that as "do you do anal?", and not much more than that.