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englishrebecca121

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #15 on: 09 September 2015, 11:35:25 pm »
I feel your pain curvy i KNOW im too bloody soft the amount of men that have taken the overrunning to the extreme is  getting stupid tho so time for me to toughen up after 3 years! you live and learn we are only human x

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #16 on: 10 September 2015, 09:49:48 am »
I give a warning about whatever it is that is unacceptable, they can then choose to change that or if not I will advise them to find someone else who does provide whatever it is they require.

Regards the overrunning, yes Rebecca that's something which built up for me over many years and started to wear me down. I started making sure I either saw clients who were able to leave on time, and also communicated to those who I did find really took their time and would hang around until I told them to leave that this wasn't fair. I also increased my rates slightly to take into account the fact that I do usually finish slightly over time.

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #17 on: 10 September 2015, 02:26:19 pm »
 CG never change who you are,  do set boundaries so people don't push into your personal space and be overfamiliar with you. 
 At times I don't tolerate their nonsense  I used to be a walkover and na?ve , im not going back to that again. I felt uncomfortable while they were getting off on it down the phone line. 

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #18 on: 10 September 2015, 07:39:26 pm »
I totally blow up at them and 100% regret it every time. Stay as you are. :)

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #19 on: 11 September 2015, 01:51:58 am »
CG never change who you are,  do set boundaries so people don't push into your personal space and be overfamiliar with you. 
 At times I don't tolerate their nonsense  I used to be a walkover and na?ve , im not going back to that again. I felt uncomfortable while they were getting off on it down the phone line.

Oh totally - I stand my ground in bookings and take no shit - just kind of in my own way.  I'd rather say 'I don't think we would click so maybe it would be better if you found another girl you would click with?' then block them, than say 'fuck off and find someone else' and have a massive argument.


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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #20 on: 11 September 2015, 09:07:40 am »
CG never change who you are,  do set boundaries so people don't push into your personal space and be overfamiliar with you. 
 At times I don't tolerate their nonsense  I used to be a walkover and na?ve , im not going back to that again. I felt uncomfortable while they were getting off on it down the phone line.

Oh totally - I stand my ground in bookings and take no shit - just kind of in my own way.  I'd rather say 'I don't think we would click so maybe it would be better if you found another girl you would click with?' then block them, than say 'fuck off and find someone else' and have a massive argument.

That's exactly the right way to do it.

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #21 on: 11 September 2015, 09:35:54 am »
CG never change who you are,  do set boundaries so people don't push into your personal space and be overfamiliar with you. 
 At times I don't tolerate their nonsense  I used to be a walkover and na?ve , im not going back to that again. I felt uncomfortable while they were getting off on it down the phone line.

Oh totally - I stand my ground in bookings and take no shit - just kind of in my own way.  I'd rather say 'I don't think we would click so maybe it would be better if you found another girl you would click with?' then block them, than say 'fuck off and find someone else' and have a massive argument.

That's exactly the right way to do it.
there are so many escorts out there I now tell these callers so please do call someone else.

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #22 on: 04 January 2016, 06:15:58 pm »
Send an email, then another, then another, then when get no reply accuse your profile of being fake. This time you haven't even read the fucking email because you are busy with your life. Then sends another email then 10 minutes later says forget it. :FF These men are mad. Even my ex client said that himself. and I quote " You are dealing with a bunch of dregs who are mad" Now how does he know that? In this business i have to deal with a lot of mad people. I am not even trying to be nasty or mean. I genuinely believe that the majority have a chemical imbalance in the brain and are genuinely suffering from some sort of mental problem whether it be mild or sever. No wonder I feel drained most of the time. I have a friend who just confessed to me she started using drugs to cope with the stress  :'( These people are not normal. The ones that are, are few and far between. For me anyway. Or it could be that the mad ones affect me the most that I forget their are a tiny few that are a bit normal?

I personally find that the good guys are few and far between compared to the amount of people who call me or contact me looking to meet with me.

But once I weed out all the arseholes, freaks and weirdo's......the bad guys become few and far between.

Like for every 10 calls I get, your lucky if I entertain one of them who I would like to meet with.

Again, once all the idiots are out of the way.....In person, 9 times out of 10 my clients are complete gentleman.

The problem I have more than anything with clients in person is incompatibility, no matter how clear I make my profile and no matter how clear I am on the phone....I STILL get guys book me who expect me to turn into a porn star or offer the slutty GFE when I'm just not that girl at all which pisses them off so they become horrible to deal with in person, they become very cold towards me as if it's my fault that I'm not what they wanted me to be. It's their ignorance. We have profiles for a reason, we are all different.

These guys in their own mind believe that your a shit escort rather than accept that they made a bad choice based on their own personal needs the same as really rude guys on the phone don't for one second think they are completely ignorant.....they would much rather believe that WE have a bad attitude of that WE are nutters because they didn't get the response they were expecting. For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off and then I get abuse for being the bad guy and having a bad attitude but he clearly didn't think that there was anything wrong with what he said to me.

So many of them haven't worked out yet that if you treat people in a way you expect to be treated yourself that you'll have a far better outcome.

Luckily once we weed out all the idiots, the vast majority of our clients are more than decent.

Well in my opinion anyway x

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #23 on: 04 January 2016, 07:18:35 pm »
For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

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« Last Edit: 05 January 2016, 01:21:44 pm by xw5 »

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #24 on: 04 January 2016, 07:43:33 pm »
For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

So what would a better response have been?

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« Last Edit: 05 January 2016, 01:22:15 pm by xw5 »

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #25 on: 04 January 2016, 08:17:45 pm »
For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

So what would a better response have been?
I'd say "If you take a minute to read my profile you'd see that's not a service I offer" Bye!.
« Last Edit: 05 January 2016, 01:22:49 pm by xw5 »

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #26 on: 04 January 2016, 08:21:59 pm »
Ugh sifting through emails after 2 weeks off... Bareback request, role play that would be impossible to accommodate, bareback request, 50 pairs of tights guy, can I fuck you anal in an alleyway behind my house. Back to reality it is then  :FF



All in a days work hey? ;-)


When I get stupid emails/texts like this I either totally ignore or just reply with "ha ha ha , you should be a comedian haha!"


With the daft phone calls I put on a really bored disinterested voice, then just say all the best in your search, bye." Then phone goes down.

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #27 on: 04 January 2016, 08:24:35 pm »
For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

So what would a better response have been?
I'd say "If you take a minute to read my profile you'd see that's not a service I offer" Bye!.

Or, 'Sorry, that won't be possible. Goodbye.'
« Last Edit: 05 January 2016, 01:23:21 pm by xw5 »

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #28 on: 04 January 2016, 08:30:22 pm »
For example, guy phones me up asking if he can fuck all my holes.....I tell him to fuck off

There's your problem.

So what would a better response have been?
I'd say "If you take a minute to read my profile you'd see that's not a service I offer" Bye!.

Or, 'Sorry, that won't be possible. Goodbye.'

I know what you mean, Nova, it's just that sometimes I think the way they ask things is so derogatory. To ask a woman in any context 'can I fuck all your holes' is just wrong.

I see though that to answer in civil manner may make them think again about how disgusting their approach may be. Hard sometimes though :) x
« Last Edit: 05 January 2016, 01:23:50 pm by xw5 »

Nova

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Re: Do I need to toughen up?
« Reply #29 on: 04 January 2016, 08:36:25 pm »

I know what you mean, Nova, it's just that sometimes I think the way they ask things is so derogatory. To ask a woman in any context 'can I fuck all your holes' is just wrong.

I see though that to answer in civil manner may make them think again about how disgusting their approach may be. Hard sometimes though :) x

It is derogatory and unacceptable but we have to be better than they are. The service provider has to be professional, or gain a poor reputation. And for those who behave this way to get a reaction, having a go at them is giving them exactly the rise they want. I'm way too stubborn for that.