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StawberryFields

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #15 on: 14 August 2014, 09:56:12 pm »
I met my boyfriend on OkC. If you can be bothered putting the time in and answer the (addictive) questions, it's fantastic. Ignore anyone in your inbox less than 85%, preferably 90+%. My boyfriend was 99%. It's great because you can answer the questions that say things like "would you ever date someone who had been a sex worker?" "A) Ew, never!, B) I don't know, C) Only if it was in the past or D) I would have no problem with this", then you can rank as "Highly important, Sort of important, Sort of unimportant, Don't care", and it starts to move your %ages around. You can also hide your own answers, provide comments, see their comments etc etc :) You can also get a plug in for chrome for the "alternative OkC user" and then you can select the things that are important to you, then before you even look at any responses, their profile comes up as how likely they are to be homophobic, be into BDSM etc etc whatever you've selected, so you can judge straight away :) So useful!

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #16 on: 14 August 2014, 10:14:20 pm »
I met my boyfriend on OkC. If you can be bothered putting the time in and answer the (addictive) questions, it's fantastic. Ignore anyone in your inbox less than 85%, preferably 90+%. My boyfriend was 99%. It's great because you can answer the questions that say things like "would you ever date someone who had been a sex worker?" "A) Ew, never!, B) I don't know, C) Only if it was in the past or D) I would have no problem with this", then you can rank as "Highly important, Sort of important, Sort of unimportant, Don't care", and it starts to move your %ages around. You can also hide your own answers, provide comments, see their comments etc etc :) You can also get a plug in for chrome for the "alternative OkC user" and then you can select the things that are important to you, then before you even look at any responses, their profile comes up as how likely they are to be homophobic, be into BDSM etc etc whatever you've selected, so you can judge straight away :) So useful!

My BF was also a 99% match. Though we met in real life and added each other "as a joke"  ::) it was a good way of getting an insight into someone's core values without committing too much or giving away your deepest darkest secrets.

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #17 on: 14 August 2014, 10:52:34 pm »
I found dating sites contained just as many timewasters and rude people as I encountered being a prossie, so I decided at least prossying I was being paid so best concentrating on that. There then followed two lovely relationships, one cut short for other reasons(and we are still friends), the other ongoing very open, honest and accepting - there is nothing we cannot talk about.

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #18 on: 15 August 2014, 12:53:25 am »
I am another fan of OKCupid.

My most recent date was because we both thought of the rabbit in The Magic Roundabout when hearing the name Dylan...
'The Ian formerly known as SW5'. What they said: "Indispensable", "You are our best resource", and (hours later!) "I'm afraid that you're being made redundant..."

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #19 on: 23 August 2014, 02:23:57 am »
Oooooh!  Haven't done ok Cupid...maybe just one last go. I like the options it seems to give and don't mind the research. Thanks for all the insights - let you know how I got on :)

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #20 on: 31 August 2014, 12:12:10 pm »
I met a guy from OKC this afternoon and he turned out to be a bore. I was just thinking that it was such a waste as I could have been charging $$$ for it. What's worse was that I didn't really know how to end it. Perhaps it's too much of my escort-manners where I politely sat down and laughed at his joke  :FF

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #21 on: 03 September 2014, 12:28:45 am »
When do you break the news to a date, or potential date, that you're an escort though? I have a dilemma about telling a lovely young man I see occasionally: I'm worried he'll want nothing more to do with me, but if anything am more concerned that I'll hurt his feelings, which would be horrible.
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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #22 on: 03 September 2014, 12:44:14 am »
When/if it gets serious but not all are for escorts in society. This is what I found difficult when things seemed perfect but....Yes he didn't know so could ruin things. In the end broke away without saying. So now have decided to concentrate on whoring putting a high percentage in to business. He got in the way and turned out to be sly thinking that he could outsmart me. So now my priorities are business comes before any bf dates. He didn't like it when stuck up for clients when he slagged them off.

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #23 on: 03 September 2014, 09:30:54 am »
I started seeing a guy a month or so ago. He seemed really open minded and we got on quite well. So I told him. He still seemed fine, still wanted to see me a lot. Then the last time I saw him, he seemed a bit off. Then he text me the next day saying it wasn't working. I'm not too fussed but I don't know if it's because of the escorting or because he genuinely didn't feel a rapport with me. Personally I was quite relieved as I felt a bit awkward around him as he's a bit older and I prefer younger guys ;) At least I gave him a go.
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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #24 on: 03 September 2014, 09:48:05 am »
Thanks. I dated a lot before escorting, but I've let all my FWBs drop by the wayside in the lead up to starting. This young man surprisingly reappeared in my life though and he's a real sweetheart. I've made up my mind to tell him next time I see him though (it's only once or twice a month). Will just have to keep my fingers crossed!
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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #25 on: 05 September 2014, 01:15:40 am »
I met a guy from OKC this afternoon and he turned out to be a bore. I was just thinking that it was such a waste as I could have been charging $$$ for it. What's worse was that I didn't really know how to end it. Perhaps it's too much of my escort-manners where I politely sat down and laughed at his joke  :FF

Seriously, girl.

I went back onto OKC last month - first time after starting escorting. On the second date the guy kissed me and I freaked out. "I have to tell you something: I'm a prostitute and I don't think I can do this!"

Random hookups are way better when money's involved. And I have some lovely clients who make my body feel good AND leave when the hour is up :D

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #26 on: 10 September 2014, 02:48:04 am »
hihi I am curious how he reacted @alicinwonderland

Agreed. 'normal' dates are awkward because there is no time frame involved and you don't really know when to cross the line, what is too much on a first date, or where this leads.
Once money is involved everyone know what to expect and everything is so much easier without any awkwardness...

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #27 on: 11 September 2014, 12:46:07 am »
hihi I am curious how he reacted @alicinwonderland


Lol. He really didn't care. He was neither disturbed or supportive. He just wanted to make out with me again!

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #28 on: 11 September 2014, 09:14:43 am »
I have found the calibre of the men much nicer and much better in terms of punters and not the dating sites!  I have found it much easier to strike up a more interesting conversation with them and have an affable chat whilst pleasuring them.  The cross-section is also much greater - perhaps it depends where we live.

The dating sites in my experience have largely only attracted saddos and those who are just players.  If they are going to play they may as well pay me for it and by and large if a guy has the balls to do a punt then he has balls fullstop.  They seem to have much more character and depth than those on the dating sites.  Like I say it is only in my own experience but I have found the difference totally striking!

Amazing isn't it.

aliceinwanderland

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Re: Dating sites
« Reply #29 on: 11 September 2014, 09:42:09 am »
I have found the calibre of the men much nicer and much better in terms of punters and not the dating sites!  I have found it much easier to strike up a more interesting conversation with them and have an affable chat whilst pleasuring them.  The cross-section is also much greater - perhaps it depends where we live.


Yes!

I found dating sites contained just as many timewasters and rude people as I encountered being a prossie, so I decided at least prossying I was being paid so best concentrating on that.

and this, also, YES! Oh my god so many 'hey babe,' and 'what are you doing right now?' messages. Ring a bell?

But I'm not trying to judge anyone who's enjoyed dating websites or had good luck and met someone great! I know it's possible, I just don't have the patience. It's comforting to know I'm not alone .
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