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Lady_Lust_XXX

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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #30 on: 18 March 2013, 11:08:46 pm »
Alexis, how many different ways do we have to tell you .................... he is stringing you along to get out of you what he can and for as little (moneywise) as he can.  Forget about him.  He is a loser in all meanings of the word.  Move on and make a success of your business or you will go under.  :( :FF
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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #31 on: 18 March 2013, 11:14:46 pm »
I got it...
sorry...

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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #32 on: 18 March 2013, 11:15:19 pm »
he is actually 34...
he said today he didnt want to say this again but he is missing me...i know it is so easy to say that (especially if his cock is hard and wants get a quick relief) but i didnt see him for 3weeks,he cant just come over bcs of his daughter,and we cant manage to meet at least in the last 2 weeks...so if he just wanted to sleep with me this is why he said that...doesnt make sense,does it?
i very much want to believe that he didnt lie to me :FF
he sent me 2pictures today...a screenshot about each emails with the ladies who i thought he had seen last week bcs he has feedbacks from them,they agreed on making/accepting the booking and giving positive feedbacks for each other.on the screenshot even the date was visible,he didnt just create them to prove,those mails were sent to him before he got the feedbacks... :-\
and he said he didnt see anyone
what do you reckon??

At the end of the day it now looks like your are after reassurance that he is a good man. Me I wouldn't be a chaser with any man. It's more about what you think in the situation. If he treats you bad if you give him another chance. When he does it will be like the I knew. So really his not in the wrong any more. When others don't want to help themselves. It is pointless in my opionon asking for support wasting time.

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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #33 on: 18 March 2013, 11:18:54 pm »
I got it...
sorry...

Alexis, I didnt want to be too brutal but you seem to be ignoring everything else that is explained to you and clinging on to something that isnt there..

I was being cruel to be kind.  He is a loser .............. we could pat you on the back and say "there there" but that wouldnt be right ....................
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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #34 on: 18 March 2013, 11:53:52 pm »

he sent me 2pictures today...a screenshot about each emails with the ladies who i thought he had seen last week bcs he has feedbacks from them,they agreed on making/accepting the booking and giving positive feedbacks for each other.on the screenshot even the date was visible,he didnt just create them to prove,those mails were sent to him before he got the feedbacks... :-\
and he said he didnt see anyone
what do you reckon??

I reckon he either DID see those two escorts who gave him feedback...which makes him a LIAR, OR, he just had some agreement with them to make false bookings and leave each other false feedback, which makes him a LIAR and conman at least!

I agree with Lady Lust, you seem to want us all to say he's nice and he's just confused and really he does have feelings for you....even when he's told you
a) he doesn't, b) He'd never introduce you to his family, and c) He wants you to hate him!

I too have been manipulated by a client and the feeling of freedom and power when you ignore the calls and texts gets stronger each time you do it. But you are STILL answering him!  :FF


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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #35 on: 19 March 2013, 09:17:16 am »
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I too have been manipulated by a client and the feeling of freedom and power when you ignore the calls and texts gets stronger each time you do it. But you are STILL answering him! 

He must be really good in the sack lol!
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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #36 on: 19 March 2013, 11:33:05 am »
I got it...
sorry...

I think a lot of us have been in a similar situation to you - please learn from our mistakes. At the end of the day it is up to you but just look at how much stress this man is causing you. *hugs*

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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #37 on: 19 March 2013, 11:50:25 am »
You can tell whether someone is being genuine when their actions match with their words, without being prompted or putting on an 'act'. Even the best liar in the world gives off clues, usually in their voice tone and eyes which can be anything that isn't the norm for them. Often their voice will drop, they'll look away or alternately they'll make a point of looking you straight in the eye.

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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #38 on: 19 March 2013, 07:27:51 pm »
he sent me 2pictures today...a screenshot about each emails with the ladies who i thought he had seen last week bcs he has feedbacks from them,they agreed on making/accepting the booking and giving positive feedbacks for each other.on the screenshot even the date was visible,he didnt just create them to prove,those mails were sent to him before he got the feedbacks... :-\
and he said he didnt see anyone
what do you reckon??

I can take a screenshot and completely change the date of emails and the content in them so please do not believe he emailed these escorts and offered to just give them positive feedback for no reason as any escort who got this email would think the guy had an agenda I.e would leave bad feedback or he would want a freebie.  It is a lame excuse but I would tell him you want his password to check his emails yourself not see a screenshot, he should give it to you after all he has nothing to hide right?
Wrong. he wont give you his password or he will say he has deleted them already.  I can promise you that.

This guy sees you as easy free sex.  He doesnt want a relationship with you he has been honest and told you that.  He also knows you are in love with him so he can have it on tap by just saying a few nice words when he wants, after all it does get expensive when paying for escorts so he needs a fall back plan.  Sorry to sound harsh but I have seen it so many times.
I havent read the whole thread but is he by any chance lying about being single hence he can only see you for a few hours on a Saturday night when he can get away with saying he is out with his mates for a drink?  I have to ask this as men do lie about being single as it gets them free sex on tap. 

Also why cant he see you just because he has a daughter if he is actually single?  He always managed before, has all the childs extended family who obviously must have babysat suddenly disappeared?  I hate saying this but I personally feel he has taken you for a fool and is making up excuses as he goes along as to why suddenly you cant go out or see each other except when he states

My best advice would be to change your phone number and stay well away.  If you carry on it will destroy you.  By saying he misses you , you are already thinking everything will be ok.  It wont.  A relationship cannot be built on a couple of hours of sex each week.  There has to be more than that and he is either unwilling or unable to commit to anything more with you.  he has basically told you there is no relationship so it is just sex for him.  RUN AWAY from him as fast as you can
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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #39 on: 19 March 2013, 07:30:46 pm »
He has probably run out of money and cant afford to book another escort and thought to himself I know who would be gullible enough.  If he wants to sleep with you he can pay you at the end of the day you seem as miserable as hell and relationships are supposed to make you happy.

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Re: Dating a client???
« Reply #40 on: 19 March 2013, 09:03:27 pm »
...what do I do now???
Block him, be kind to yourself and let time heal. He was up-front about what he was after and it wasn't what you were after, but you let you heart rule your head (easily done, I've been there too). You will never be his girlfriend so refuse to see him again. Don't see him even if he wants to book you as you are too emotionally attached to him and it will hurt you more than the money will compensate for. He's either very confused (in which case he'll drag you down to his level) or he's a maniplative bastard. Either way he's a wrong'un and you'd be best to cut all ties with him. Tell him you don't want to see or hear form him again, then block his email and phone number. Keep yourself occupied so you spend as little time as possible thinking about him. If you think about him try and distract yourself with something you enjoy.

so how do you know if a guy just want to take advantage of you or he is being serious????...
He'll take you out on dates and not always expect sex when you meet is one way of telling I suppose. And he'll probably want to stay the night and not hurry to leave in the morning even if you don't have sex. Oh, and he won't be ashamed to introduce you to his friends and family!

I reckon he either DID see those two escorts who gave him feedback...which makes him a LIAR, OR, he just had some agreement with them to make false bookings and leave each other false feedback, which makes him a LIAR and conman at least!...
Quite! Alexis, he's a bad apple. Go cold turkey and ignore him before he wrecks you emotionally.

I too have been manipulated by a client and the feeling of freedom and power when you ignore the calls and texts gets stronger each time you do it. But you are STILL answering him!  :FF
Yes, which is keeping the wound open and avoiding the inevitable.
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