There is this man I have been seeing for around 4 years. As soon as he is in my place he worships me and I mean really worships me, to the point of him going on his knees and kissing my feet and legs! He is all over me during the booking and while it is rather over the top it is also ok with me because that is just the way he is. He is reliable and on time and never oversteps the mark in any ways other than the excessive adulation.
When he has come the second time he will not even look at me,hardly speaks while he dresses but as I am still in the room I attempt to make polite talk rather than just have a silence. I see him to the door and it is always the same, I go to kiss him goodbye and he turns his head away so I can only kiss his cheek.


I am sure others will experience similar but how to do you deal with it? I have been on the brink of refusing bookings because it is just so rude to do that to me. This man is single, never been married or had a proper girlfriend so it cant be the guilt? Or can it?

Lots of men have very different 'before coming' and 'after coming' thoughts and behaviour. It's one of the reasons why taking payment for anything afterwards is a bad idea...

Some men are embarrassed or feel guilty after they've come, but in some it's just purely a biological 'shut down' thing - I try not to take it personally!

Its not unusual its when the 1st brain takes over the 2nd brain. You can almost see it click over about 3 seconds after they have become satisfied. Some are ok and chatty but some I just leave the room and let them to dress alone as there is nothing so awkward as dressing in silence.

I am certainly not attached in any way to him. Far from it but I am polite and it is this which he finds difficult to be with me after the meeting. Other clients have done similar but with him I just feel it is worse and yes I have on occasion made an excuse to leave the room while he dresses and then go back to say goodbye.

If we girls did the same and acted cold like that after the action then we would be slated and criticized but then they are paying aren't they. I still find it bad mannered.
Next time I will do as advised and act the same as him, let us see how he likes that.

Yes Bibi I know my choices 

It's one of those jobs where you are simultaneously adored and despised. I've found loads of men lovely, but once they've come they want you out of the door as soon as possible. I've had a few literally throw my clothes at my and say 'right, see you next week'. They treat you like an angel but as soon as they've come you're this dirty thing in their bed.

Still, I've had more guys that want to chat, or get really emotional and tell me tales of their long lost wife, how the met and romanced ect. I've also had loads of guys that think I'm really young (I look a lot younger than I am) and they like to impart their wisdom on me and give me 'life lessons'. I hate that shit, I'm usually the one throwing the clothes at them then. 

I am sure others will experience similar but how to do you deal with it? I have been on the brink of refusing bookings because it is just so rude to do that to me. This man is single, never been married or had a proper girlfriend so it cant be the guilt? Or can it?

I don't blame you.  There is the lack of respect towards you.  He even avoids friendly kissing after what he and you "shared".  It seems that to him, you are someone to simply "add" / facilitate his satisfactory ejaculation (almost like a vibrator for women) and nothing more.   You suddenly become an unwanted "object" once he finishes and you become someone whom he does not wish to deal with / or show any affection.  It seems there is no "connection" between you and him even after a few meets (which is quite odd).  The mutual connection could develop after a while if you genuinely "like" the person.  The contrast before and after coming seems so extreme.  Does this chap like you?  He doesn't act like it.   Almost he shows complete indifference once his "aim" is accomplished and you are expected to back down.    Personally, a meet like this can affect you mentally.   I prefer meets where there is some sort of connection, sharing the space and time together.  If there's none, you almost feel as if you are "used" purely as a sexual object or a tissue to wipe some dirt with.   You get what I mean?  To him, you are not the whole person whom he cares about.  He cares about his orgasm and the means but not "you" as a whole person.   This sucks.