First post in the Blather...hope this hasn't been brought up before.

I have, so far, experienced questions from clients regarding other clients. These questions vary and can be anything from a very well meaning and well timed 'How are things otherwise?' all the way down to the other end of the charm spectrum....where we find the gent who asked 'Ow many 'av you 'ad today?' whilst in the throes of (attempted) passion.

Lots of fun to be had discussing this however, there's one particular facet that I'd like to delve into....

I have a client who has requested that he be the first to see me on any given day 'I don't want to sound awkward but...' he said thus introducing ample awkward to the conversation. At this point I ought to mention that this client is booked in for an evening appointment.

Now, I know that we all want our clients to feel like they're the only one and yeah they are the only one....the only one that hour, but am I right that we should giggle sweetly and tell them that we will of course pass up the opportunity to work, and pine for the petulant punter who doesn't realise he's paying for a service for which there are, of course, other service users, OR are we straight up and tell them that it's simply unrealistic to ever expect me to keep an entire day free?

I suppose that clients who book in the morning are of this ilk, whatever floats their boat, I like an ante meridiem cash injection before elevenses anyway. The point, which I've laboured-forgive me I'm a chronic rambler, is-Do you lie and tell them you've had a quiet day/you won't/haven't see anyone else and, if so, have you ever had issues surrounding this?


Can't wait to hear other opinions and anecdotes on this....

My typically response is a smile and a “maybe”
If they press the matter I repeat “maybe” ...
it’s none of their business and I can never fathom what answer they want from me ...
a “yeah you’re my 6th since lunch..” or a “I’ve never done this before you’re my first”
Who knows. Who cares.
Nosey buggers, ignore the question they’ll get the message lol x

Love this, neither confirm nor deny. 

If they want to be the first then they should book when you first start working. I have some clients like this so book me in the morning. They seriously cannot expect us to turn down other work unless they are boundary pushers.

No they absolutely cannot expect that, surely?

But this the distinction I'm trying to make, by telling a client that I haven't seen anybody else that day am I giving them what they want, telling them what they need to hear-resulting in me providing a service for them-that service being the lie so that they can enjoy themselves (I can't see the issue here as long as I hold up my end of the deal and maintain the pretence) or am I creating problems for myself and of course fellow SWs by indulging this fantasy of them being the first that day/that I've waited all day long?


Is the lie part of the service or a recipe for disaster? I need insight on this weird aspect.

As a rule, my time with a man, any man, is confidential, and as such, I will not discuss other clients either when I am with someone, or in a message. I am very clear about this before I agree to see someone. So far, this has been respected and no-one has tried to engage me on this topic.

When you say he's a client, is he a regular or unknown random?
Does he want you to do the donkey work and contact him when you are untouched?
Or is he going to keep ringing on the off-chance?

If he expects me to keep him informed I don't accept that kind of palaver. I think it bodes more controlling behaviour. But if you fancy fibbing, take his money.

Client I've seen before, wants to book an evening but doesn't want me sullied before he sees me. I hadn't thought of the controlling aspect, wise words thank you. Perhaps I'll fib, perhaps I won't. As yet undecided

Client I've seen before, wants to book an evening but doesn't want me sullied before he sees me. I hadn't thought of the controlling aspect, wise words thank you. Perhaps I'll fib, perhaps I won't. As yet undecided

I have someone like this at the moment.
Seen him before a few years ago. I can't remember anything about him, except judging by the previous texts, I made excuses not to see him for a 2 hr booking, so he must have been hard work.

Now, he wants this same booking in the evening but "Only on a "quiet day" and to clarify, he stipulated he must be the only client. The cheek of it!

So on a day when I am available (and paid good money to advertise as such) I must avoid all other Clients, to keep myself.. clean and fresh? 
for his 8pm outcall 

If I was even halfway tempted, I would lie like a trouper and massage his ego, but as I don't want his lengthy booking anyway, I just treat his message with contempt.
Ignore and block. 

Client I've seen before, wants to book an evening but doesn't want me sullied before he sees me. I hadn't thought of the controlling aspect, wise words thank you. Perhaps I'll fib, perhaps I won't. As yet undecided

  Hey I confused myself, I thought he wants a morning. He wants you to reject all clients that day till he rocks up to your door! Ridiculous. You're running a business. I've a few similar requests and just cut the call because I feel they will be more assholery and paranoia involved... whether I lie or not.

I agree with PS state your full day rate and the gig fee on top if he expects you to reserve the day. Curious how he'll react 

Or lie, take his money and give him a shit service for his wanky demands.

An arrogant nob just lie.  When he comes you will have showered after other people so just tell him you just got there an hour ago and had a freshening up for him after travelling in.

He definitely sounds like a boundary pusher.