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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Mathilde on 20 November 2020, 12:57:52 pm
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First post in the Blather...hope this hasn't been brought up before.
I have, so far, experienced questions from clients regarding other clients. These questions vary and can be anything from a very well meaning and well timed 'How are things otherwise?' all the way down to the other end of the charm spectrum....where we find the gent who asked 'Ow many 'av you 'ad today?' whilst in the throes of (attempted) passion.
Lots of fun to be had discussing this however, there's one particular facet that I'd like to delve into....
I have a client who has requested that he be the first to see me on any given day 'I don't want to sound awkward but...' he said thus introducing ample awkward to the conversation. At this point I ought to mention that this client is booked in for an evening appointment.
Now, I know that we all want our clients to feel like they're the only one and yeah they are the only one....the only one that hour, but am I right that we should giggle sweetly and tell them that we will of course pass up the opportunity to work, and pine for the petulant punter who doesn't realise he's paying for a service for which there are, of course, other service users, OR are we straight up and tell them that it's simply unrealistic to ever expect me to keep an entire day free?
I suppose that clients who book in the morning are of this ilk, whatever floats their boat, I like an ante meridiem cash injection before elevenses anyway. The point, which I've laboured-forgive me I'm a chronic rambler, is-Do you lie and tell them you've had a quiet day/you won't/haven't see anyone else and, if so, have you ever had issues surrounding this?
Can't wait to hear other opinions and anecdotes on this....
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My typically response is a smile and a “maybe”
If they press the matter I repeat “maybe” ...
it’s none of their business and I can never fathom what answer they want from me ...
a “yeah you’re my 6th since lunch..” or a “I’ve never done this before you’re my first”
Who knows. Who cares.
Nosey buggers, ignore the question they’ll get the message lol x
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My typically response is a smile and a “maybe”
If they press the matter I repeat “maybe” ...
it’s none of their business and I can never fathom what answer they want from me ...
a “yeah you’re my 6th since lunch..” or a “I’ve never done this before you’re my first”
Who knows. Who cares.
Nosey buggers, ignore the question they’ll get the message lol x
Love this, neither confirm nor deny. ;D
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If they want to be the first then they should book when you first start working. I have some clients like this so book me in the morning. They seriously cannot expect us to turn down other work unless they are boundary pushers.
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If they want to be the first then they should book when you first start working. I have some clients like this so book me in the morning. They seriously cannot expect us to turn down other work unless they are boundary pushers.
No they absolutely cannot expect that, surely?
But this the distinction I'm trying to make, by telling a client that I haven't seen anybody else that day am I giving them what they want, telling them what they need to hear-resulting in me providing a service for them-that service being the lie so that they can enjoy themselves (I can't see the issue here as long as I hold up my end of the deal and maintain the pretence) or am I creating problems for myself and of course fellow SWs by indulging this fantasy of them being the first that day/that I've waited all day long?
Is the lie part of the service or a recipe for disaster? I need insight on this weird aspect.
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When you say he's a client, is he a regular or unknown random?
Does he want you to do the donkey work and contact him when you are untouched?
Or is he going to keep ringing on the off-chance?
If he expects me to keep him informed I don't accept that kind of palaver. I think it bodes more controlling behaviour. But if you fancy fibbing, take his money.
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As a rule, my time with a man, any man, is confidential, and as such, I will not discuss other clients either when I am with someone, or in a message. I am very clear about this before I agree to see someone. So far, this has been respected and no-one has tried to engage me on this topic.
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As a rule, my time with a man, any man, is confidential, and as such, I will not discuss other clients either when I am with someone, or in a message. I am very clear about this before I agree to see someone. So far, this has been respected and no-one has tried to engage me on this topic.
This is magnificent, perfect. Genuinely can't thank you enough, I'm going to implement this immediately.
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When you say he's a client, is he a regular or unknown random?
Does he want you to do the donkey work and contact him when you are untouched?
Or is he going to keep ringing on the off-chance?
If he expects me to keep him informed I don't accept that kind of palaver. I think it bodes more controlling behaviour. But if you fancy fibbing, take his money.
Client I've seen before, wants to book an evening but doesn't want me sullied before he sees me. I hadn't thought of the controlling aspect, wise words thank you. Perhaps I'll fib, perhaps I won't. As yet undecided
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As a rule, my time with a man, any man, is confidential, and as such, I will not discuss other clients either when I am with someone, or in a message. I am very clear about this before I agree to see someone. So far, this has been respected and no-one has tried to engage me on this topic.
This is how I run my business as well. It is nobody's business but mine whether someone is the first man or seventh man I've shagged on any day. I don't ask my GP about being his first visit of the day either.
If asked to be the first, I inform them of the time I start taking appointments that day. Of course they can hold until later in the day, but reserving my time is at their expense. Except for times when a client wanted company during that time anyway, I've had no takers. :) Keeping the focus on confidentiality is also a gentle reminder that their arrangements with me are also strictly confidential, which benefits both of us, and is appreciated.
I also don't discuss other clients, even generally. Discretion is one of the most important aspects of this career, and confidentiality is always included in my rates. Many of my clients, while not famous, are people who might be known and depend on me. They know that all details of our arrangements are known to them only, which keeps me in business and regulars returning to me.
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Client I've seen before, wants to book an evening but doesn't want me sullied before he sees me. I hadn't thought of the controlling aspect, wise words thank you. Perhaps I'll fib, perhaps I won't. As yet undecided
I have someone like this at the moment.
Seen him before a few years ago. I can't remember anything about him, except judging by the previous texts, I made excuses not to see him for a 2 hr booking, so he must have been hard work. ::)
Now, he wants this same booking in the evening but "Only on a "quiet day" and to clarify, he stipulated he must be the only client. The cheek of it!
So on a day when I am available (and paid good money to advertise as such) I must avoid all other Clients, to keep myself.. clean and fresh? ???
for his 8pm outcall ::)
If I was even halfway tempted, I would lie like a trouper and massage his ego, but as I don't want his lengthy booking anyway, I just treat his message with contempt.
Ignore and block. ;)
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I would just provide the pricing to block off your time available until 8pm. His choice.... :D
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Client I've seen before, wants to book an evening but doesn't want me sullied before he sees me. I hadn't thought of the controlling aspect, wise words thank you. Perhaps I'll fib, perhaps I won't. As yet undecided
:) Hey I confused myself, I thought he wants a morning. He wants you to reject all clients that day till he rocks up to your door! Ridiculous. You're running a business. I've a few similar requests and just cut the call because I feel they will be more assholery and paranoia involved... whether I lie or not.
I agree with PS state your full day rate and the gig fee on top if he expects you to reserve the day. Curious how he'll react :)
Or lie, take his money and give him a shit service for his wanky demands.
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I would just provide the pricing to block off your time available until 8pm. His choice.... :D
This is precisely what I would do. It is totally unacceptable of him to assume he can ask you to turn down all other business for the day just for him and smacks of boundary pushing. Can you imagine if after all that he cancelled last min? You'd be furious.
Give in to it once or let him think you are giving in to it and it will give him a totally inflated opinion of his importance to you and just lead to further boundary pushing making him a total pain in the ass to deal with.
I have a client who often asks if I've been busy or have other bookings when he is asking to book. I just ignore such questions and only answer any that are relevant to his booking.
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An arrogant nob just lie. When he comes you will have showered after other people so just tell him you just got there an hour ago and had a freshening up for him after travelling in.
He definitely sounds like a boundary pusher.
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This is how I run my business as well. It is nobody's business but mine whether someone is the first man or seventh man I've shagged on any day. I don't ask my GP about being his first visit of the day either.
If asked to be the first, I inform them of the time I start taking appointments that day. Of course they can hold until later in the day, but reserving my time is at their expense. Except for times when a client wanted company during that time anyway, I've had no takers. :) Keeping the focus on confidentiality is also a gentle reminder that their arrangements with me are also strictly confidential, which benefits both of us, and is appreciated.
I also don't discuss other clients, even generally. Discretion is one of the most important aspects of this career, and confidentiality is always included in my rates. Many of my clients, while not famous, are people who might be known and depend on me. They know that all details of our arrangements are known to them only, which keeps me in business and regulars returning to me.
Thank you so much. I'm so glad I found this site, so much support. Feel like for the first time in a while that I'm not alone in the endeavour.
I really appreciate this, it gives me another really solid and straightforward way of stopping this situation arising in the future.
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An arrogant nob just lie. When he comes you will have showered after other people so just tell him you just got there an hour ago and had a freshening up for him after travelling in.
He definitely sounds like a boundary pusher.
I could not shower on purpose as a dirty protest, but I'd only be letting myself down ha!
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This is magnificent, perfect. Genuinely can't thank you enough, I'm going to implement this immediately.
Genuinely delighted I've been of help.
This is how I run my business as well. It is nobody's business but mine whether someone is the first man or seventh man I've shagged on any day. I don't ask my GP about being his first visit of the day either.
If asked to be the first, I inform them of the time I start taking appointments that day. Of course they can hold until later in the day, but reserving my time is at their expense. Except for times when a client wanted company during that time anyway, I've had no takers. :) Keeping the focus on confidentiality is also a gentle reminder that their arrangements with me are also strictly confidential, which benefits both of us, and is appreciated.
I also don't discuss other clients, even generally. Discretion is one of the most important aspects of this career, and confidentiality is always included in my rates. Many of my clients, while not famous, are people who might be known and depend on me. They know that all details of our arrangements are known to them only, which keeps me in business and regulars returning to me.
I'm the same as you. I am all about discretion and confidentiality. I won't even accept (public) feedback or reviews as they're the exact opposite of discreet. The I see men like the fact there is not a single hint I see other men. Sure, they know I do, but there's no evidence anywhere online about this, or during the time I spend with them.
I believe my right to privacy is the same as any man I engage with. If he can't respect my right to privacy and that a key part of my business is being discreet and keeping confidences, he can go elsewhere.
I find it really strange that men would dare ask something like this anyway, so prefer to close down the idea before it is raised.
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An arrogant nob just lie. When he comes you will have showered after other people so just tell him you just got there an hour ago and had a freshening up for him after travelling in.
He definitely sounds like a boundary pusher.
I don't lie, I just don't answer questions that are not relevant to the current activity.
On a busy incall day I often don't have time to shower between guests, but I am very efficient with wipes and freshening up.
Mathilde, unless you know the client well, I wonder if it is a fantasy to get you to cancel all other appointments for him, and then cancel himself. I try to avoid working with any clients I can't trust or behave strangely.
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This kind of relates to the have you been busy today? There's really no right answer, I always say, as busy as I want to be..
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When I get asked this incredibly invasive & none of their GD business ??, I ignore it. They assume I’ve not heard, so they’ll ask again, “Am I your 1st client today?” Or the ever cringe worthy, “How many men have you fucked so far?”
I’ll act like I’m thinking 🤔, & then say, “37.”
😮😮😮is their reaction. “Really?” Or, “You’re joking!”
“Ahh,” I say. “You’re correct, that IS wrong. 73.”
They shut up after that.
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Or the ever cringe worthy, “How many men have you fucked so far?”
I just say, "Not Enough!" Accurate and ends the conversation.
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I could not shower on purpose as a dirty protest, but I'd only be letting myself down ha!
I think I would be really tempted to go along with the whole thing during the booking, not refer to it again during the meeting and then, as he has his hand on the door to leave say;
"Well, that's me all done for the day now, 4 Clients is usually my absolute limit, but I made an exception just for you today. I'm all shagged out now! Thanks darling! (or" hun" if I really want to piss someone off) >:D
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When I get asked this incredibly invasive & none of their GD business ??, I ignore it. They assume I’ve not heard, so they’ll ask again, “Am I your 1st client today?” Or the ever cringe worthy, “How many men have you fucked so far?”
I’ll act like I’m thinking 🤔, & then say, “37.”
😮😮😮is their reaction. “Really?” Or, “You’re joking!”
“Ahh,” I say. “You’re correct, that IS wrong. 73.”
They shut up after that.
;D ;D ;D ;D
When they ask : Am I your first client today? I just repeat their question back to them but with - Am I your first escort today which then baffles them.
Then the - How many men have you fucked so far - Again throw it back at them - How many escorts have you fucked so far.
This goes on till they get the hint and shut. I ping pong throwing their question back at them while I don't ever provide them an answer.
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I think I would be really tempted to go along with the whole thing during the booking, not refer to it again during the meeting and then, as he has his hand on the door to leave say;
"Well, that's me all done for the day now, 4 Clients is usually my absolute limit, but I made an exception just for you today. I'm all shagged out now! Thanks darling! (or" hun" if I really want to piss someone off) >:D
Haha love it! Might try this one
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;D ;D ;D ;D
When they ask : Am I your first client today? I just repeat their question back to them but with - Am I your first escort today which then baffles them.
Then the - How many men have you fucked so far - Again throw it back at them - How many escorts have you fucked so far.
This goes on till they get the hint and shut. I ping pong throwing their question back at them while I don't ever provide them an answer.
I like it, Dynamite Doll - I think I'll try out your strategy.
Miranda x
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Loving this topic
I usually get the “so have you been busy?” and my responses depending on the client are:
“Absolutely (then go into non-escorting things I’ve done that day/week LOL)”
“I’m a lot less busy than you may think” —vague, and ends the convo
Or if they ask more specifically like “how many clients do you have/see/seen today”, my stock answer is
“Omg there is really no right answer for that!!”
Cause some get off on thinking it’s loads of clients, and some want to be the only one...(I have actually explained this to one of my clients who I really like ha ha...he was fascinated but didn’t say which camp he was in)
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I think most want to be the only one. When I haven't worked in a while I get a lot of requests to be the first one to see me. They seem to have an image of me all horny and gagging for sex.
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I look them in the eye and say would you like me to talk about you with other clients? Stops them from being nosey.
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When I get asked this invasive ???, my other go-to answer is: “Ahh. A good magician never reveals her secrets🔮😉😈.”
It’s very effective in shutting them down.
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Loving this topic
usually get the “so have you been busy?” and my responses depending on the client are:
“Absolutely (then go into non-escorting things I’ve done that day/week LOL)”
This is exactly what I do. Deliberately misinterpreted the question and start twittering on about my trip to Tesco, picking up my grandmothers medication for her ibs... It's none of their business. To me it's in the same league as asking how much money I make. Rude and invasive.
I'd be tempted to say that if he's willing to cover your loss of earnings for the day then he's welcome to be the first :angel:
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They are so fucking nosey, you can’t win, if you say as many as I physically can, they think your money grabbing, if you say not many, they think your not popular. Had one guy ring and I answered, he doesn’t say hi, instead he says “not busy today then you’ve answered the phone” also, someone else was working out what I would be earning that day...
>:(
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This is exactly what I do. Deliberately misinterpreted the question and start twittering on about my trip to Tesco, picking up my grandmothers medication for her ibs... It's none of their business. To me it's in the same league as asking how much money I make. Rude and invasive.
I'd be tempted to say that if he's willing to cover your loss of earnings for the day then he's welcome to be the first :angel:
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My reply to this kind of crap It's OK darling don't worry I've had a good shower in between shags & done my pelvic floor exercises, so no slack fanny for your visit this evening. Or there's absolutely no guarantee of anything in life but death & taxes. I have zero patience for coercive controllers.
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I've had some clients asking if my other clients make me cum as much and personal stuff like that.
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I've had some clients asking if my other clients make me cum as much and personal stuff like that.
Aaawww bless their fragile little egos ;D
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I think some think it's a competition. Maybe I should make up some report cards to mark their performance handing out gold stars.