Had a client yesterday who paid for his hour and got his hour's worth.  After the event, he took the money and divided it into two bundles and said to me 'Spend that half, and put the other half into a savings account for your children'.

Keeping things light-hearted, I asked him who else he thought my money was spent on anyway?! and I went to gather up the money.  There then followed a lengthy lecture on how I should save, how I won't be able to do this job forever, and how my kids won't be young forever.

This annoyed me big time.  He's a regular, and presumably thinks that gives him the right to pass on the benefit of his advice.  Now, advice I can handle; patronising assumptions I can do without!

For example, why the assumption that I don't already have a savings account?  Why the assumption that I can't look after my own financial affairs?  After all, I'm smart enough to run my own business, do my own marketing/advertising/book-keeping, etc.

Would he tell his gardner or his accountant how to spend their money?

Grrr.

Seriously?? What. The. Hell?  That is rude, presumptious and incredibly patronising, not to mention completely outrageous! I'm not surprised you were annoyed!

It's SO hard not to do something sarcastic and unnecessarily nasty like.... I dunno.... dividing the money into three piles and saying "and this third pile is to score some cocaine tonight! Thank god, I've been desperate!" or something equally uncalled for when they suddenly go all "you are just a silly little girl, not like me, a successful businessman" on you, isn't it?

I would have literally drawn blood through biting my tongue if a regular had said that to me!!! Nice one for not wringing his neck, actually. I am gnashing my teeth at punters today!!!! GODDDDDDD.

Clients can be extremely insensitive at times. 

I don't know whether it's because the pay us for our time or whether they think because we do this work then we must have nothing between our ears! 

It is rude though of him and like you so rightly say - would he say it any other service provider he knows!  I mean we are sevice providers but not idiots are we! 

Every now and then I get the " how about meeting for a coffee " nonsense and I am tempted to say " Would you call your plumber and tell him to leave work and meet you for a coffee?" No!  So why expect me to!!!! 

Unfortunately it all comes with the territory, but still doesn't stop it from annoying us does it! 

Next time he does it say to him, oh silly me I did not listen to you and now I am very short, can you give me some more please? ! LOL

Alexandra xxx

LOL, thanks ladies - yes, you are all right.

I think what annoyed me so much was a) like Alex says, the insinuation that I don't have a brain (I mean, this man knows me ffs! cheeky barsteward), and b) the insinuation that I fritter my earnings away.

Totally patronising but in his head I guess he thought he was being kind and caring.

Perhaps he is one of those who thinks we all need to be saved from this job. 

Quote from: LiverpoolJenny on 14 May 2009, 12:09:25 pm

Had a client yesterday who paid for his hour and got his hour's worth.  After the event, he took the money and divided it into two bundles and said to me 'Spend that half, and put the other half into a savings account for your children'.

He should try that after he pays a lawyer...

Hah! Can you imagine? Or a Big Issue seller. Or a personal trainer. Or anyone else. What makes escorting the only profession where we can't look after ourselves?!

Well, I'd say the proportion of people who are extravagantly stupid with their money is probably higher amoungst escorts and strippers than most other professions. He may well have come across examples of it, not that that justifies the way he went about expressing his concern. I sometimes get into conversations about finances with clients and they express pleasure on finding that I'm not rubbish with money*, but that's quite different from flat-out assuming.

*Nothing against people who are though. I'm rubbish at plenty of other things.

Well, that's making assumptions that we're all the same. That women aren't individuals. And this client has been seeing Jenny for some time. Time enough to not assume she's an airhead.

Given this week's headlines, I could say that all MPs are money-grabbing heathens who've been claiming god-knows-what with taxpayers money. But I won't make that assumption that they're all the same.

Had a client yesterday who paid for his hour and got his hour's worth.  After the event, he took the money and divided it into two bundles and said to me 'Spend that half, and put the other half into a savings account for your children'.

Keeping things light-hearted, I asked him who else he thought my money was spent on anyway?! and I went to gather up the money.  There then followed a lengthy lecture on how I should save, how I won't be able to do this job forever, and how my kids won't be young forever.

well now holdon just a second. Maybe he was just saying the first part as a way to be 'nice' or suggest his money fall on good ground. I dont think he was being mean about it. I had one guy give me money and say, "now this is for your college tuition". I'm like, uh ok my tuition is taken care of already!

The last part about lecturing, now thats fucking annoying. I have close friends and my photographer lecture me about my job and I get pissed with them and tell them I know what I need to do. Its just ignorance on their part because they dont understand shit about the industry, or may have some kind of percieved notion about it which is understandable. Just cut them off immediately and tell them you know what you have to do.

We may not be able to do this forever but FUCK we are going to do it while we can! Our clients needs us and vice versa!