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Gypsy

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Client Desperate to Date Me
« on: 18 August 2019, 10:40:42 am »
So ... I had a client for domination the other week. Booking was great, he did everything a sub is supposed to do then when he left he text me so how gorgeous and stunning I am etc and every word goes over my head because it's typically what they say anyway. He then asks me out for a drink and I say I don't do this, but I was tempted because I thought I could get on with him. He's 10 years younger, so that was a bit off putting but he's confident for his age.

So I say let me think about it and maybe I would text him in a couple of days. He didn't respond and when I did text him 3 days later he didn't respond to that either. I thought okay, fair enough, obviously changed his mind.

Then this week he calls me to ask me out again. I said didn't you get my text I sent last week? He says no. But he still wants to see me. We arrange to meet up. He says he can't wait. Then on the day we were supposed to meet he says could we meet later as he finished work late and has only just got up. I say okay, bit miffed as I could have done other things with my day but whatever. Again he says can't wait to see you. I then go to the place we were meeting and he stands me up. His phone went straight to voicemail like he's blocked me.

Why do they do this? Why? Why go to so much effort to get me to agree to meet him and then do this? No text, no apology, he obviously had it all planned that this is exactly what he was going to do.

Ladies, this is timewasting in it's extreme form!  >:(

« Last Edit: 18 August 2019, 10:46:19 am by Gypsy »
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Rosesugar

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #1 on: 18 August 2019, 11:22:53 am »
Fuck that ..what a waste of your time  :FF

Justine

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #2 on: 18 August 2019, 11:25:25 am »
Power and game playing in my opinion.  Getting his own back for being your sub (weird yes but I can't think of another reason).


Rosesugar

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #3 on: 18 August 2019, 11:29:16 am »
Useless sub ..he should obey !
They get carried away with themselves and say all kinds of stuff .

Kay

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #4 on: 18 August 2019, 01:00:22 pm »
I agree with Justine. I would be open to dating a client (have done it casually once) but never a sub. Can't be arsed with their neediness.
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English Green

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« Reply #5 on: 18 August 2019, 01:06:19 pm »
It was all a game just like in the booking he is a sub and he managed to trick you and get you blurring the lines agreeing to meet him on a personal level with no money.

I think if you met a nice client who carried on normal and wanted to meet up fine if you liked him but i think someone who is paying to be a sub is probably a bit strange in the first place and they can get off on games like this one did. I have met a few in the past slave type clients and i just found them odd and there behaviour can change.

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #6 on: 18 August 2019, 01:49:47 pm »
One rule I stick by.... never let a good-paying client turn into a good for nothing boyfriend  ;D
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Gypsy

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #7 on: 18 August 2019, 01:52:08 pm »
It was all a game just like in the booking he is a sub and he managed to trick you and get you blurring the lines agreeing to meet him on a personal level with no money.

I think if you met a nice client who carried on normal and wanted to meet up fine if you liked him but i think someone who is paying to be a sub is probably a bit strange in the first place and they can get off on games like this one did. I have met a few in the past slave type clients and i just found them odd and there behaviour can change.

Yes. I was thinking it was a new phenomenon that I hadn't heard of alongside ghosting, gaslighting and now paperclipping!

It's very sad to go to all that effort though.

It actually made me think of something an old friend said to me when she was at uni at the time. She had loads of male and female friends and one male friend once said to her that he and his group of male friends were trying to get girls to fall in love with them so then they could dump them just to hurt them. Combining that with the Warwick university scandal over how male students were in a online group chat talking about how they'd love to rape other female students, I find this very, VERY DISTURBING! These are men with supposedly adequate reasonable intelligence who can go on to get good jobs.

There are no words for this evil scum!

I think no matter how hard to you try with cases like these you just can't help but think everyone male is a misogynistic twat!
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Curvyambyr

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #8 on: 18 August 2019, 01:55:37 pm »
One rule I stick by.... never let a good-paying client turn into a good for nothing boyfriend  ;D

Brilliant advice haha  ;D

Gypsy

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #9 on: 18 August 2019, 02:21:50 pm »
It's a wonder why the world doesn't have more female killers with the shit men try and do to us.

Maybe there are more female serial killers out there, it's just they never get caught as they are far cleverer than their male counterparts  ;D
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saltysweet

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« Reply #10 on: 18 August 2019, 03:02:51 pm »
Nothing new or original, It happens in civvy life too I got stood up plenty! We just create different names for it every few years.Its just the dick talking...being sub switch dom vanilla isnt relevant just don't take anything they say seriously. Dont bother listening. I agree crossing the lines is not a great idea and can.loose a good client.
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English Green

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #11 on: 18 August 2019, 04:58:28 pm »
Yes. I was thinking it was a new phenomenon that I hadn't heard of alongside ghosting, gaslighting and now paperclipping!

It's very sad to go to all that effort though.

It actually made me think of something an old friend said to me when she was at uni at the time. She had loads of male and female friends and one male friend once said to her that he and his group of male friends were trying to get girls to fall in love with them so then they could dump them just to hurt them. Combining that with the Warwick university scandal over how male students were in a online group chat talking about how they'd love to rape other female students, I find this very, VERY DISTURBING! These are men with supposedly adequate reasonable intelligence who can go on to get good jobs.

There are no words for this evil scum!

I think no matter how hard to you try with cases like these you just can't help but think everyone male is a misogynistic twat!

No it does go on i know quite a few past women been had over by clients and there games. It can be like a revenge thing too as they hate paying and see you earn more in a hour then quite a few do so they like to trick you then try to mug you off. It is disturbing but a lot get off on this type of thing especially more so with someone who already gets off on sub/ dominant fantasy paid services.

If i was ever going to date a client it would only ever be a vanilla type one none of this slave type.

When you text him and he blanked you he probably got off on the fact he managed to get you to believe he never got the texts and by saying how much looking forward to seeing you that was the 1st point he enjoyed it then 2nd point was when he changed the times and managed to get you to arrange later knowing it is inconvenient and 3rd when he never showed but got off on knowing you got ready and travelled to meet him.

I could imagine he has done worse then this to others. He is someone disturbed and very sad.



He is a sad man indeed though going to these lengths.

Gypsy

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #12 on: 18 August 2019, 05:53:20 pm »
'I could imagine he has done worse then this to others. He is someone disturbed and very sad.
He is a sad man indeed though going to these lengths.'

I could understand it more if he was older and had had time to be humiliated by loads of different women, but he's only in his early 20's so what must go on in his head to have this warped and twisted thinking?

I really do think now that if he doesn't change he will only get worse.

If I never text him though he wouldn't have any proof that I did indeed go and then all his efforts would have been wasted. Like you say he is very sad to go to all this effort. He needs serious help!
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Rosesugar

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« Reply #13 on: 18 August 2019, 05:59:18 pm »
It's tempting to say yes to a drink with some clients being ultra nice but each one never bothered getting in touch to arrange with me over the years so I just say i don't have time  now.
Many say all kinds of things but never materialise

Gypsy

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Re: Client Desperate to Date Me
« Reply #14 on: 18 August 2019, 06:14:07 pm »
It's tempting to say yes to a drink with some clients being ultra nice but each one never bothered getting in touch to arrange with me over the years so I just say i don't have time  now.
Many say all kinds of things but never materialise

I know Sugar I get this all the time too, but this one was just so bloody persistant that's what made him unique.
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