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UrbaneAspects

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Is it wrong for me to want a relationship while doing this?
« on: 31 May 2009, 07:15:32 am »
Lately I just been feeling like I want to get with somebody outside of this whole escorting deal. I've seen a couple guys recently; but nothing thats turned into 'boyfriend'.

But now, Im on edge because I feel bad because I dont tell them right away. Then I bet if I do tell them; they probably wont respect me enough to want to be with me. Or maybe they'll just feel insecure about it. Mind you, I live in the western USA, so its not as open as say...London.

For one, I'm definently not considering giving it up as I am new. But for some reason I've been getting caught up in the feeling to want to date someone. And also Im not sure if Im going to be living in this area much longer either, so there's so much in the air. Whats a good way to go about it?

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medea

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Re: Is it wrong for me to want a relationship while doing this?
« Reply #1 on: 31 May 2009, 03:34:35 pm »
hi joey

i am not sure whether london is that open... of course more than the US.... i think it really depends on the person more than the area

i would say go for it.. and yes you deserve a relationship... and i think it is possible

in general i think there is an advantage of not being in the straight community and i find the none straight ppl more open to it; however not everyone can handle it well.

i would suggest you to be true to yourself and listen to your instincts; also i feel you won't need to tell before it is becoming a commited relationship.
and a relationship is where two or more create a bond relate to each other; in general what is good for the ppl involved is good for the relationship, so anything which is not good for you is also bad for the relationship...

i am a firm believer if you would give something up for a relationship the relationship breaks anyway... especially because you have given something up, and by given something up not being the full and authentic you

i admit there are less potential partners of being outside the norm... but i believe there are more... i do believe there are some men for you, who are ok with what you do and love to have a relationship with you.

i would advice to tell them what it is for you; i think most are ok, when they know what it is for you.. and most problems are due they have a perception that is formed by socity and that is usually bad.
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