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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: OverTheHill on 19 December 2024, 07:18:13 pm
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I’ve decided to change a lot about how I present myself to clients and wondered if other ladies have gone down a similar route?
I’ve always stressed over presenting myself in a glamorous way because I felt it was expected, but I’ve been finding it stressful, time - consuming and expensive.
I’ve ditched: false eyelashes, false nails, high heels and I’m lucky if I shave once a week! I’ve also started to wear my hair up, as daily styling was driving me mad and ruining my hair.
I feel so liberated!
I wish I’d realised years ago that I didn’t need to be ultra glam. My make up takes literally 5 mins now as I’ve ditched the foundation.
I can relax so much more now.
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I couldn't be arsed with the heels and sets with suspenders etc too much of a faff. Prefer body stockings and bodysuits! Sometimes they ask for leggings/gym wear which is a plus.. Super comfy lol
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I used to get really, really glammed up for bookings, but now I go casual and wear minimum makeup. I also write this on my profile too, so no-one expects super-glam. ::) It hasn't seemed to make a difference.
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Shaving once a week ? Nah not down with that .
Men are paying for a service surely being shaved if that’s what you offer is only fair ? To give them a load of stubble is a little bit shitty !
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Yea I got rid of the fake nails and eyebrow appointments this year and my natural nails/brows have recovered after all the damage. Now I just keep everything trim and neat. I stopped buying mountains of a cheaper makeup/beauty products (clutter!) and have a more streamlined amount of better stuff.
I like a pretty bra and knickers with a silk kimono, but don't bother with stockings, suspenders, heels unless they ask and even then I'm reluctant unless it's a 90 min plus booking. I try and shave once weekly but don't always get around to it and my hair is light anyway. I think a lot of guys like the simple, 'lady next door' look anyhow. If I feel like it, I put on red lipstick, black lingerie, pretty drop earrings and maybe in the summer cute slip on sandals, because its a simple way of having more 'glamourous look' thats pretty simple to achieve :)
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I've managed very well for a long time without spending a great amount of time and money on makeup/nail salon visits and costly hair treatments and cuts.
I don't think I could do glamour if I tried. A bit of eye makeup and lipstick plus wearing my long hair in a style which I know flatters me is just about all I do and it takes 10 minutes. I do however make an effort with outfits/shoes and lingerie and have lots of it.
None of it was expensive either.I like to note what I wore on previous bookings so ensure it's a different colour/style next time. If I like what I see in my mirror then I have 100 percent confidence and will accept dress requests if possible. I always wear 👠👠 high heels too although sometimes they need to come off. Stockings and suspenders if I feel like it otherwise one of my many suspender bodysuit things which have the stockings built in. What the hell are they called?
Shaving as and when but lucky me - I don't grow underarm hair and almost none on my legs. A bit freaky but in a positive way 😉
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Nails, eyebrows and hair I do for me anyway and not for work or men. I have never worn makeup and I may dab a bit of lippy on before a booking. Ditched heels a long time ago. I shave my foo every few days but that's a habit now so will probably do that til the day I die ;D . Don't have to shave arms and legs much at all anymore as they don't seem to grow.
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Shaving once a week ? Nah not down with that .
Men are paying for a service surely being shaved if that’s what you offer is only fair ? To give them a load of stubble is a little bit shitty !
Oh, I advertise as naturally hairy (as in intimate and armpits). I had my leg hair lasered so that’s gone. I meant the little bit at the top of the thighs, which isn’t much, so it only needs a quick once over. Getting my leg hair lasered was the best thing I ever did.
Tbh, I never had that much leg hair as it gets finer as you get older (which I am), but I hated the stubble from the razor and didn’t get on with hair removal cream. It really hurt my skin having to shave my legs so often.
I’m honest in my advertising, and I’m busy, so being hairy suits many clients.
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I shower. It pretty much ends there :D
I don't remove body hair, or do anything with my head hair bar give it a shake; I don't wear makeup beyond a bit of lip balm and eyebrow gel (although I do have them microbladed) and I keep my nails short and clean.
I wear the same clothes for every booking because it's easier; I have half a dozen near-identical work dresses (with a couple of lightweight nightie things for very hot weather), I don't take clothing requests and shoes are not worn in my flat at all, so I don't have to give any of it any headspace whatsoever. I did used to wear nicer lingerie, but so much of it got stolen or torn with them yanking and pawing at it it's not worth the faff (I still can't fathom out how an adult would think that the way to take a bra off would be to pull the strap sharply forwards and downwards).
I have yet to have a punter turn tail and run away screaming ;D.
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Seeing so many of you ditching the makeup.. I don't blame you, hate wearing it all day long! I would think to myself once it's off I shouldn't take bookings but now I don't think that is the case. I have ombre brows and individual lashes anyway (this is for myself) ;D
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I love not wearing foundation now. I just felt that I had to.
I just brush some bronzer over my face and neck (or I’d look like a corpse), gel eyebrow stuff, a flick of mascara and a neutral or light lipstick and I’m ready to hussle.
When I think of the volume of makeup I have worn to do this job, because I felt I had to, I shudder.
I honestly don’t think clients are bothered as long as your advertising is accurate.
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I shower. It pretty much ends there :D
I don't remove body hair, or do anything with my head hair bar give it a shake; I don't wear makeup beyond a bit of lip balm and eyebrow gel (although I do have them microbladed) and I keep my nails short and clean.
I wear the same clothes for every booking because it's easier; I have half a dozen near-identical work dresses (with a couple of lightweight nightie things for very hot weather), I don't take clothing requests and shoes are not worn in my flat at all, so I don't have to give any of it any headspace whatsoever. I did used to wear nicer lingerie, but so much of it got stolen or torn with them yanking and pawing at it it's not worth the faff (I still can't fathom out how an adult would think that the way to take a bra off would be to pull the strap sharply forwards and downwards).
I have yet to have a punter turn tail and run away screaming ;D.
I love that you have body hair too. Likewise, clients have never turned tail and ran ;D
I’ve never worn a bra to work but I can imagine you could write a book on the various ways clients have attempted to remove them over the years!
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Stockings and suspenders if I feel like it otherwise one of my many suspender bodysuit things which have the stockings built in. What the hell are they called?
Suspender Tights :D (I look like a hippo in them lol)
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When I have the energy ill use a gradual tan on my face and body, dye my eyebrows with beard dye. I've lasered off some body hair so showering is quicker. Make up wise I use bb cream,mascara ,blusher and false lashes.
I have sensory issues so foundation and wired bras are a no go now, I struggle massively with transitions so being ready as quickly and easily as possible before a booking is important.
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Suspender Tights :D (I look like a hippo in them lol)
Not just suspender tights although I wear those too sometimes. I meant the body suit with suspender bit and stockings all in one. I've got a few and they wash and dry in 10 mins... there's nothing to them 🤸
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Laser hair removal is life changing
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I’ve never worn a bra to work but I can imagine you could write a book on the various ways clients have attempted to remove them over the years!
Believe it or not I once had a punter try to take my bra off by pulling it over my head like a tshirt - just grabbed the body strap and started dragging it upward.
My hair is particularly choice today after I went to a gig last night, so I am calling it surf style (which means hanging in stringy clumps and smelling slightly of Guinness :D). Unfortunately I know that if I'd washed it before work I would have had a succession of hair touchers and had to do it again :(
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Not just suspender tights although I wear those too sometimes. I meant the body suit with suspender bit and stockings all in one. I've got a few and they wash and dry in 10 mins... there's nothing to them 🤸
You can also buy these super cheap from tiktok shop or shein £2-5. I have loads and if they break it doesn't matter because they're so cheap.
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Laser hair removal is life changing
As I understand it (having looked into it some years ago), laser didn't work on blonde, fair, red or grey hair is this still the case?
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Nails heavier / eyelashes I do fit myself not for work
I always wear stocking / suspenders lingerie little black dress high heels - it’s my work outfit
I have several dresses of the same style / colour and wear them with a little shrug type type
I use my nice expensive Honey Birdette stuff for photos and get a Anne summers dupe for the same sets so I don’t worry about punters wrecking it
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I've never yet had lingerie wrecked by clients, but I am quite protective and will remove if their hands are rough. Some have wrecked stockings with rough [skin] hands., also tend to educate how to remove or roll a stocking off or just make sure I do it myself. Biggest risk is nice jewellery I like to wear, earnings can be caught when a client runs hands through hair, I try to divert them or keep aware and check everything sporadically particularly during outcalls.
Eyebrows tinted, 14 day gel nails I can do myself, make up takes 20 minutes maximum.
I shave underarm, nipples (I have a couple of light hairs there), bikini line, legs every day, hair hasn't lessened yet and I'm too fair for laser removal.
I stopped taking heels to outcalls because most were not bothered when I suggested I put them on or specifically declined. Then I had a booking during which he wanted a lingerie show, he was visibly disappointed I didn't bring heels. To be fair on myself after accepting this booking, he then sent quite a few messages asking for the lingerie show specifically bringing many pairs of a certain style of knickers, he brought some brand new with labels for me to wear & take away too. So half my brain was 'Is he a TW or boundary pusher?', the other half figuring out and finding the pairs of knickers. Since then I take a pair to every booking apart from one long term regular, who has told me many times he prefers me in flat shoes.
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I had hair removal everywhere and it’s been life changing as I was quite a hairy monster. So shaving is maybe once a week, as the remaining hair grows slower and thinner.
I’ve also gone the opposite way to most on this thread in terms of makeup and lingerie recently. I have always been the girl next door type and low effort, but as I am getting older I feel I need to get a bit more glammed up to look presentable & feel more confident.
I have a whole chest of drawers full of expensive lingerie that I used to buy and never wear but now started wearing super sexy lingerie to every booking and getting use out of those provocateurs.
Invested in some all day wear foundation& lip stain, so don’t look like a clown at the end of a booking.
I do manicure at home every 2-3 days, pedi once a fortnight
I feel less stressed when I know I am groomed &manicured
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Iv reworked my look so it’s minimal effort but still very glam …I stopped having hair extensions which I would spend ages styling to popping on a pre styled wig. It’s ready to go within a few seconds (after getting use to it!) I changed my eye lash extensions for stick on and Iv swapped lengthy /costly visits to the nail salon for cheapy stick on nails. I still look very glam but with out the time and cost !that being said. I do have regulars who prefer /don’t mind seeing me natural hair shoved up , casual clothes etc. I don’t buy sexy outfits just rotate what I have and it works for me …oh I only shave my legs every now and then. They don’t really touch my legs tbh but I like it smooth else where daily x
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As I understand it (having looked into it some years ago), laser didn't work on blonde, fair, red or grey hair is this still the case?
I think that is the case yes. I’m sure I heard that there are some new lasers that might work, it’s worth investigating x
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Iv reworked my look so it’s minimal effort but still very glam …I stopped having hair extensions which I would spend ages styling to popping on a pre styled wig. It’s ready to go within a few seconds (after getting use to it!) I changed my eye lash extensions for stick on and Iv swapped lengthy /costly visits to the nail salon for cheapy stick on nails. I still look very glam but with out the time and cost !that being said. I do have regulars who prefer /don’t mind seeing me natural hair shoved up , casual clothes etc. I don’t buy sexy outfits just rotate what I have and it works for me …oh I only shave my legs every now and then. They don’t really touch my legs tbh but I like it smooth else where daily x
Do you find that your pre-styled wigs get damaged? I am debating wearing them for work, but worry that they'd get wrecked...
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My hair is particularly choice today after I went to a gig last night, so I am calling it surf style (which means hanging in stringy clumps and smelling slightly of Guinness :D). Unfortunately I know that if I'd washed it before work I would have had a succession of hair touchers and had to do it again :(
Eew I wouldn't want my hair smelling of Guinness for myself never mind the punters.
Must be great to make so little effort and still be busy, big city effect I suppose, no need to keep regulars happy as there will always be another random.
I wear minimal make up but make an effort with lingerie as in a smaller pond there is a need to keep regulars happy.
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Ha, 90% of my clients are regulars and returnees; I've been working in London for almost seventeen years! As I said in my post, there was no point washing my hair (which takes a good hour to do properly including drying) when I only had one day of working left and would have had to do it again after. That's what dry shampoo is for :D
There are a lot of ways I make an effort for punters without having to plaster my face with makeup or buy limitless sets of lingerie (they're coming to see me not a fashion show, plus it's all going to be on the floor in five minutes anyway). Efficient communications, straightforward directions and not having a cunty attitude are the key ones in my experience, but those things aren't what this thread is about :)
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when I started, I'll do the full monty, but now I literally just do eyebrows and eyeliner. Lipstick gets kissed/BJ'd off, foundation gets sweat off so why bother? I only do that much because I look like an alien with no eyebrows, and my eyeliner is kinda like my "trademark" look.
I always have my hair in a basic style that takes literal seconds to put up, but I can't say it's always squeaky clean if I only have a 15 min booking in.
I always wear lingerie, but only bra and underwear. Fuck trying to wear suspender belts and hold ups etc. They always get ripped by the first client of the day that's a bit too excited lmao.
Never had any complaints tho!
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I'm pretty low effort. I wash and remove body hair apart from trimmed pubic hair. Only make up is eyebrow pencil and mascara. Most men think I don't wear any lol. I do wear heals and lingerie/sexy dresses or skirt but it's all from primark or charity shops.
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I used to do all face, make-up wise.
Now I only put lippy on.
Clothing wise I tend to throw on boring baby dolls,unless they make a request.
I just can't be arsed going over and above. I do well enough, regardless.
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Laser hair removal is life changing
Yep!
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I do my makeup, hair, nails lashes ect. Not for clients but for myself. I do the same even when I'm not working. It makes me feel glamorous. Shower and Shave down there daily- just personal choice. As much as a pain they are i do wear suspenders and sets. For the money I charge it sort of is part of the package. Thats just my preference but I know everyone has their own way of working
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Do you find that your pre-styled wigs get damaged? I am debating wearing them for work, but worry that they'd get wrecked...
They get worn out and a little rat taily with all the friction from the bed ! But a good rinse in fabric condition and comb through brings it up nicely. I found a trick using layering scissors and cutting all over the hair (there’s you tube videos) which helps it last longer.
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As much as a pain they are i do wear suspenders and sets.
I have moved from suspenders to thigh high stockings. They are easier to stay on during the act. A ribbon choker is a real turn on for my clients
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I have it clear on my profile “I do not take outfit requests unless you are shopping for me “ ;D
I take one outfit on lingerie which I hand wash. I wear natural skin tint make up with liquid blush and mascara.
I have beautiful joe malone shower gel which smells so good no need for Purfume.
I do take heels but often open the door without them.
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What did all the people posting what they do now do before - the OP was asking what we've changed?
I haven't worn heels for work in a good ten years (and outwith work probably not for ten years before that, and I didn't wear them often then), even before I stopped working from hotels.
No shoes are worn inside my flat regardless, but I'm not actually sure I could even stand up in a pair now, let alone walk anywhere without holding onto the wall ;D
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All I can think of just now regarding changes? When I was a brand new escort I used to have those individual lashes glued in but not now. I used to lie on sun beds in the salon and got glorious golden skin with no tan lines but after a few months realised my skin was edging towards crepeyness so stopped that. Both those treatments were time consuming and cost money which I quickly realised I could get by nicely without.
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All I can think of just now regarding changes? When I was a brand new escort I used to have those individual lashes glued in but not now. I used to lie on sun beds in the salon and got glorious golden skin with no tan lines but after a few months realised my skin was edging towards crepeyness so stopped that. Both those treatments were time consuming and cost money which I quickly realised I could get by nicely without.
I’m saving £1k a year by not getting my nails done and buying false eyelashes. Plus, it’s much less stressful.
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I've become a lot more relaxed with my beauty routine for work, I used to wear full make up for every booking, lashings of mascara etc, always had immaculate hair and nails, felt the need to be perfectly polished All dress requests were taken on board to the extent of spending a lot of time and effort sourcing particular outfits etc,
These days as long as I'm showered, my make up routine of a light layer of face cream, foundation, bit of blusher and lip oil, quick brush of hair I'm ready to go, takes me about 10 mins I have had semi permanent eyeliner, eyebrows and lip blush done so it saves a lot of time and effort and I'm not stressed in the run up to bookings. Hair is however it is that day washed or unwashed/messy lol If they do ask for outfit requests it's limited to either little black dress or secretary, I do always wear hold ups or stockings though as I never wear them in my normal life so it makes me feel in my role as sex worker and taking them off after feels good. I'm really enjoying not having my make up smudged all over my face and the dreaded panda eyes several times a day!
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Low maintenance woman over here too!
I regularly defuzz, because I've always done it anyway. No fake lashes, they look strange to me and I can't do it, so just mascara.
I like a full face of makeup when I'm going to see clients even though it invariably comes off.
I get my hair done regularly, but don't bother with styling tools, just keep it clean and tidy.
I do my own gel nails so it saves a fortune!
In terms of outfits, I prefer a matching set of bra and panties, tights or hold up stockings. I wear heels sometimes because it makes my legs look nicer, even though they hurt my feet!
I once got asked to meet a client in casual gear and I literally wore leggings and a hoody, no make up and we had a great time haha!
I'm currently at home in a loungwear set, hair up, no make up at all lol
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I have always worn Estee Lauder Double Wear foundation both in personal and work life. I used to mix two shades but now I find just the one shade really suits my skin.
I also used to use two concealers but now just one does the job.
Not only do I look better but it is less faff.
I am too pale skinned to not wear foundation. My skin gets really dry without it too.
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I love this and totally relate! I’ve been simplifying a lot too, no more fake nails or heavy makeup. I’ve swapped heels for comfy shoes (or even barefoot sometimes!) and wear my hair up way more now, so much less stress.
Honestly, it’s been such a relief and i feel way more like me and still totally professional.