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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: K212 on 22 July 2019, 01:28:06 pm
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Working from hotels I have and use the excuse that I’ve not got such and such with me. Sometimes if I can’t be asked to change last minute or I’m liking the look of a certain outfit I’ll even say I haven’t got other things despite maybe having them with me. :/ oops.
You could always say I’ve picked out a cute sexy outfit for you already sorry, or that style doesn’t suit me and I’d rather look my best :) etc xx
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I'm willing to accommodate up to a point.. You want a skirt & heels, I'm always in that, NP. Stockings, NP. No underwear beneath the skirt? Ok... not crazy about it, but ok.
Answering the door naked in just heels? Completely unacceptable. A top where my boobs are falling out? Absolutely not.
No, I do not own a leather catsuit, you twit. :FF
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I'm vague with them and say I'll look nice..... or just refuse.
If it effects your performing mojo and you don't feel sexed up in it, maybe it's not worth it.
It's like me wearing a lush wig, I don't feel like I'm on duty without it!
When I get asked rush over in jeans or whatever I'm wearing in the supermarket....I'm not in character so turn them down.
I was asked for some specific outfits and asked my GF, she always tells them to buy them.
Give them your size or just say that to get rid of them.
If it's a chore but I'm wiling I may charge them an extra £30. They do pay.
I do the big reveal once they've paid in full.
I've had a few very specific requests, for stockings and used to keep lots handy, but now tell them to pick them up at Boots and they're happy to do that. They know exactly what type they like. One client bought a pair for me and one for himself.
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If I'm unable to wear a dress request, I will say so it's then up to them whether they go ahead or not.
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I’ve revently moved (so things are in boxes) and not all at my location. And to be honest I’m a creature that likes to do things my way and do how I best feel comfortable. When I get ask to dress in normal clothes (can mean different things to different guys) that I would wear to something like this or that that are quite specific.
I know exactly what you mean - I had a handful of photos up of me in jeans (which I rarely wear) and a T-shirt and found I was occasionally asked to wear 'normal clothes' like these, which I didn't have for work. What I did was dig out a pair of jeans and a handful of other bits including some old gym gear I didn't like and make them part of my work wardrobe in the way that some people do with costumes and so on. Punters don't get to see or touch my own clothes and I can crack on that I've just walked through the door in my civvies :).
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What I did was dig out a pair of jeans and a handful of other bits including some old gym gear I didn't like and make them part of my work wardrobe in the way that some people do with costumes
That’s a good idea for future reference
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Regards relaxed casual clothing I have some lovely jeans, blouses and boots which I have gotten used to wearing for bookings and can be really nice.
What can throw me is when touring I'm asked for this, but I do have photos in my galleries of me in gym wear and once I realise they won't mind if it's not my 'best stuff' I'm ok.
Sometimes I'm off training or doing things in my other life before or after so it's fine.
Also when restablishing bookings with one particular unreliable and high maintenance client, I refused to get dressed up in usual lingerie and dresses. He'd been so bad I also made it clear I'd only be coming if I wasn't booked by anyone else would confirm when on the way , and tied it in with something else I'd be doing in his locale. Since that one booking I always put my prossie stuff on for him, if I mention other activities he does check I'm coming in lingerie, skirt, heels which I always would now we are both on the same page and I treat his booking as professionally as for anyone else.
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I’ve revently moved (so things are in boxes) and not all at my location. And to be honest I’m a creature that likes to do things my way and do how I best feel comfortable. When I get ask to dress in normal clothes (can mean different things to different guys) that I would wear to something like this or that that are quite specific. It throws me off. I actually live in two types of clothing style due to my daily hobby and my other part time work. So I don’t really have “my summer best that I’d go to so and so with my girlfriends in’ type outfit on hand. Plus I feel they have a set image of they want gou to look when they describe a certain style / scenario. And that can be translated differently by different people. And it’s too much pressure. I have lovely work outfits but to deviate from them too much makes me feel this is a level of delving into my personal life and wardrobe sometimes that I don’t want to do. Or too much effort. Or maybe I’m just tired from all I’ve had on recently breaking out of the norm feels too demanding. :-X I just want to slip my sexy work wardrobe on that’s all clean ready and hung up and save my energy for the client. Not stress about putting together a tailored out of the norm non work outfit he’s described within a pile of boxes! Sorry for the rant!.. anyone else find this challenging?
I feel the exact same way but there’s 100 reasons why I don’t take clothing requests or like being told how to do my makeup or have my hair.
Main reason for why I refuse is because I can do my job much better when I feel comfortable.
If they don’t like how I dress or how I look then there’s many other options for them to choose from.
I also find personally that clients have really bad taste when it comes to clothing requests, rare I ever get a classy request.
And PVC catsuits in this heat? SAKE 🤦🏻♀️
Whenever they ask me to wear my own clothes, I think no because I don’t want them seeing me how I look when I’m out with my family or friends. I prefer them seeing me in my Sophia alter ego if that makes sense, not to mention I spend fortunes on my personal clothes.
I also find clients who are very specific about how they want you to look extremely hard to please and make me more anxious than I care to be.
I have wrote on my profiles that while I don’t take clothing requests, I will always make the effort for them and then explain what I do wear.
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In this heat Ive only been wearing 2 styles that are comfortable and not too hot.
The min they start asking me to truss myself up my heart sinks..
Interestingly those ones are no shows
Most are happy to come visit and like me in my choice :)
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Another one here that has always had on my profile that I don't dress to requests.Just because they pay for time with us does not mean they are entitled to dictate what we wear!!
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i hate be a doll! and do something on request!
they are unrealistic too! asking for material of legging! ahah ;D ;D
having years of working as escort really i do not tolerate these stupid requests!
btw i try to do some effort because already i am very selective!
if ask for gym wear for example, i m more than happy! but if they asking for leather...white staff!..NO
i do not like and some really they do not have taste! i do not wear sh*** for them! :)
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I also used to stipulate that I didn't do dressing requests but stated that I did wear the sorts of things they could see in my photos.I still did get the odd one that didn't read my profile but yo7 get that anyway.
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I am quite happy to dress as requested if it is reasonable and I have enough time to find the damn things. Having far too many outfits and not being the best organised person it is almost guaranteed that they will want the one skirt or dress that seems to have vanished.
It was only last week I decided to put every pvc item I have in one place (yes after 10 years I just got aound to that) so now I will not be in a bad tempered panic 5 minutes before he arrives.
One thing I was asked for and will never buy or wear is corduroy. can you wear cord jeans please? errr no so I had to turn him down. Corduroy? What?! ::) :o
No offence to any cord lovers out there :)
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I feel the exact same way but there’s 100 reasons why I don’t take clothing requests or like being told how to do my makeup or have my hair.
Main reason for why I refuse is because I can do my job much better when I feel comfortable.
If they don’t like how I dress or how I look then there’s many other options for them to choose from.
I also find personally that clients have really bad taste when it comes to clothing requests, rare I ever get a classy request.
And PVC catsuits in this heat? SAKE 🤦🏻♀️
Whenever they ask me to wear my own clothes, I think no because I don’t want them seeing me how I look when I’m out with my family or friends. I prefer them seeing me in my Sophia alter ego if that makes sense, not to mention I spend fortunes on my personal clothes.
I also find clients who are very specific about how they want you to look extremely hard to please and make me more anxious than I care to be.
I have wrote on my profiles that while I don’t take clothing requests, I will always make the effort for them and then explain what I do wear.
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My profile clearly state that I do not cater for any requests concerning my appearance .
I hate being told what to do , and going along with requests would only put me in a filthy mood which in turn would affect the service that I provide :-)
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I am quite happy to dress as requested if it is reasonable and I have enough time to find the damn things. Having far too many outfits and not being the best organised person it is almost guaranteed that they will want the one skirt or dress that seems to have vanished.
It was only last week I decided to put every pvc item I have in one place (yes after 10 years I just got aound to that) so now I will not be in a bad tempered panic 5 minutes before he arrives.
One thing I was asked for and will never buy or wear is corduroy. can you wear cord jeans please? errr no so I had to turn him down. Corduroy? What?! ::) :o
No offence to any cord lovers out there :)
I have some very nice cords, including pair of tight combats.
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I have some very nice cords, including pair of tight combats.
I should have passed him on to you then! ;D
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It's like when they ask daft questions like 'Will you dress sexy for me? Do you wear high heels?'. I feel like saying no I put Army & Navy clothing on lol.
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I just picked up an email from last night, asking to be fucked in a high leg swimsuit. Well I'm close to the coast so I can see his point. Probably one of the most random ones.
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I just picked up an email from last night, asking to be fucked in a high leg swimsuit. Well I'm close to the coast so I can see his point. Probably one of the most random ones.
I think mine is more random ... :-) Request for jodhpurs and riding boots ! And no there is nothing on my profile that would suggest that I happen to have either of these at the back of my closet .
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I've done a few swimming costume bookings, it can be a genuine request. Popped it on under clothes.
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If booked for 30 minutes or car meet dressing up is not really an option.
However booked for longer I try and accommodate any requests and surprised at this thread that others don't.
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In my (however limited) experience. It doesn’t stay on too long anyway. And every time I have made the effort to dress as asked it’s a matter of minutes (a half smile and a nod of appreciate and acknowledgement for following orders lol) then it’s off and down to business haha. Came to realise it rarely actually matters to them, and as said somewhere above, half the time they’re the no shows anyway. :/
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Sitting indoors wearing either a nurse outfit or pvc dress in this heat waiting for that client to show up it may well be the time wasters idea of pleasure it is not mine ..
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Sitting indoors wearing either a nurse outfit or pvc dress in this heat waiting for that client to show up it may well be the time wasters idea of pleasure it is not mine ..
I will wear outfits ( I have a lot of different ones ) but I will never put them on till they arrive and have paid me
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In the earlier days, I would wear stockings, skirts and skimpy little numbers for clients, but as the years have gone by... I now never dress up for clients, but also make it clear on my advert that I don't dress up.
No complaints yet.
I tend to do what's best for me, to make sure I'm comfortable.
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In the earlier days, I would wear stockings, skirts and skimpy little numbers for clients, but as the years have gone by... I now never dress up for clients, but also make it clear on my advert that I don't dress up.
No complaints yet.
I tend to do what's best for me, to make sure I'm comfortable.
When you say “don’t dress up” do you mean like everyday T-shirt and jeans and they’re fine with it or do you mean just not the whole get up and go with stockings but still a nice dress type thing ?
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I don't mind outfit requests (within reason) its not a big deal, I can be in and out of clothing in seconds if need be, and want to make the whole experience as enjoyable as possible and like wearing a variety of different looks anyway. For the odd few clients who ask for me to dress 'normal' I also 'recycle' old jeans and little tops or dresses that have shrunk in the wash (or I've grown out of lol) as they seem to love me wearing the tight items ;D
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I just want to slip my sexy work wardrobe on that’s all clean ready and hung up and save my energy for the client. Not stress about putting together a tailored out of the norm non work outfit he’s described within a pile of boxes! Sorry for the rant!.. anyone else find this challenging?
I feel the same as if what he means is, "now I can easily spot you in town in normal clothing".
That's what he means. Is he local to you?
He clearly doesn't like high heels, suspender belt. These men exist!
They are probably in denial.
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I go naked. Can’t be arsed to dress up lol. 😂
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When you say “don’t dress up” do you mean like everyday T-shirt and jeans and they’re fine with it or do you mean just not the whole get up and go with stockings but still a nice dress type thing ?
Yes, casual clothes, for example a vest top with leggings - not to revealing and easy to take off :)
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Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
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I know I am newish and dumb but isn't dressing the way a client wants is a basic service? Isn't it like going to the hair dresses and being told I will style your hair but won't cut it because I can't be bothered to sweep up or having a service done on your car but told they are not going to change your oil.
It never occurred to me not to try and dress the way a client wants providing I get notice. I have gone out and bought outfits in the past, example earlier this week I was asked to wear a pink pleated mini skirt which was£12 and it is something I will wear in future.
My most common requests are stiletto heels, stockings and heeled knee high boots
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I know I am newish and dumb but isn't dressing the way a client wants is a basic service?
It is if you're happy to do it, yes. A far more important tenet of sex work is not doing anything you're not comfortable with and the car service/hairdressing comparisons don't hold water because of this (and also if you need to go out and spend money on a particular item that you don't have - if a punter I'd never met had asked me to wear a garment like this I'd expect him to bring it with him).
Some people are - not unreasonably - uncomfortable with being treated like a human Barbie, too.
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Punters don't get to see or touch my own clothes and I can crack on that I've just walked through the door in my civvies :).
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This is something I’ve done since day one, always have separate clothes for work and your personal life, just like a nurse has her protective clothing and equipment, so do we ;D
I’ve recently been thinking of purchasing some good quality wigs, as people keep stroking/sniffing my hair :-\ anyone else had to find a way around this issue?
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Yes never without one. I used to buy expensive ones but no need. They cant tell a £200 from a £40 one. I also have a stunt wig for sleeping in overnights. However I stop them fingering my wigs as it gives the game away. I tell them.straight I don't like my hair touched..no dramas.
As trump says, Im 'not a fan' ...of having cock spunk arsey fingers contaminating my head.
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While happy to wear anything they request if I have it, I do not go out and buy something that is not in my vast wardrobe of clothes/shoes etc etc. They can spend their cash if they are so keen on me in a certain outfit. One exception was something very cheap and I did purchase it for his next meeting. A plain pair of white tights, not something I would normally have or want to wear in civvy life. He was happy to bring them but could not find them anywhere so I did it for him. For the sake of £3.99 I did not bother charging him extra. ::)
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It is if you're happy to do it, yes. A far more important tenet of sex work is not doing anything you're not comfortable with and the car service/hairdressing comparisons don't hold water because of this (and also if you need to go out and spend money on a particular item that you don't have - if a punter I'd never met had asked me to wear a garment like this I'd expect him to bring it with him).
Some people are - not unreasonably - uncomfortable with being treated like a human Barbie, too.
I don't want to allinat myself so what argue to much but don't get why my comparison to a hair dresser not wanting to cut hair is a bad one, why should a hair dresser have to do things they don't feel comfortable with?
Sindy :)
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. For the sake of £3.99 I did not bother charging him extra. ::)
Exactly and especially if it is something that you are going to use again.
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I don't want to allinat myself so what argue to much but don't get why my comparison to a hair dresser not wanting to cut hair is a bad one, why should a hair dresser have to do things they don't feel comfortable with?
I honestly can't tell whether you're deliberately trolling or just misunderstanding me. If a hairdresser didn't want to cut hair then of course they don't have to - they would advertise that fact (and that they were a colour specialist, or whatever) and then people who called and asked for a haircut would be told to book somebody who offered the service they wanted. It would be unusual, but I have no doubt that it happens.
The difference is that it is a reasonable expectation that a hairdresser will cut hair. There is no such standard expectation with sex work because the services offered and the people offering them are so diverse, and therefore comparisons to people fixing engines and so on don't work. There are prostitutes who do and don't kiss, fuck, perform/receive oral, allow anal, fingering and everything other conceivable service and nobody anywhere has any business telling any of us that we 'should' be doing anything because it's 'standard'. Nothing is.
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As I've said, I'll accommodate up to a point. I've had requests for leather cat suits (EYE. ROLL.), leather dresses 👗, things completely out of the ordinary for my GFE offerings. That's fetish wear & I neither own it nor have any interest in it.
To the cat suit request I simply told him he was welcome to purchase it & bring it along. Strange how I never heard back from him🤔.
Their expectations are so unrealistic sometimes.
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I wear what I’m comfortable in . If client does not like it then that’s not my problem.
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I think its really taking the absolute piss if they want to book for 15mins and ask if you have any uniforms. They get blocked. I have one regular i see for 30mins a time who always asks for something or other n to have porn on too. Normally I would say no I am not taking outfit requests under an hours booking but as he is a regular and also pays in advance I do it. Anyone else though I wouldn't entertain it. Plus in my experience the uniform requesters are proper timewasters who never turn up! Also they never bother reading any part of my profile and ask basic questions which immediately annoy me. Just read the bloody profile ffs!!!
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I think its really taking the absolute piss if they want to book for 15mins and ask if you have any uniforms. They get blocked. I have one regular i see for 30mins a time who always asks for something or other n to have porn on too. Normally I would say no I am not taking outfit requests under an hours booking but as he is a regular and also pays in advance I do it. Anyone else though I wouldn't entertain it. Plus in my experience the uniform requesters are proper timewasters who never turn up! Also they never bother reading any part of my profile and ask basic questions which immediately annoy me. Just read the bloody profile ffs!!!
I tell them I am happy to pop on some pvc dress/stockings/boots etc when i arrive, but they can be sure that this time -and the time spent changing again afterwards-will be included in the half hour they book.
If they are happy with a much shorter service, that's fine by me.
I always leave bang on time and will gently warn them if needed.
Slipping on a pair of stockings and dolling myself up abit in privacy is preferable to being with the Client sometimes. If a bit of oral and a few thrusts is all they want after this, I'm happy with this.
If they book 45 minutes or an hour, i usually do this on my own time, but then these longer bookings usually finish earlier anyway, so it works out the same. :)
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Happy to do outfit requests to a certain point for appointments an hour or more never for a shorter one with the exception for a lovely regular that love black tights with low den to rip. Got so many old tights since I've stop using them but never thrown away so no extra cost lol and not sure I could manage him a whole hour.
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I state clearly on my profile that I don’t take outfit requests for a booking under an hour, I don’t mind hold ups or heels but won’t take it further than that unless they book for longer. I don’t have time to be changing in and out of crap all day, and then of course some idiots won’t even turn up so you’ve got dressed up for nothing!
Depends how they make the request too, if they are polite then I will be happy to accommodate but sometimes they don’t even ask nicely and instead sound like they are demanding. Can’t be bothered with these entitled clients
I just wear a nice block colour set from lounge underwear for work. Classy, simple and flattering for all body types. All my clients love them :)
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I used to take clothes requests. When I rented a flat I had a wall to wall wardrobe full of underwear and outfits. Most didn’t ask and I’d just wear whatever if they asked pat second I’d say I could change but it would come out of the time. Most didn’t care because it came off anyway. I used to have one set of suspended belts that were the biggest pain to put on and they were always the ones asked for. I’d just throw them away but they were a £400 AP set
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I dislike outfit requests as I only wear what I am comfortable and confident in when on tour pack basic normal clothing no hooker outfits.
So for anyone who asks me to wear A - B - C -D etc I simply tell them you are to buy the outfit that you want me to wear that is to your taste that turns you on bring it to appointment. You must call me when your in the shop hand phone to the shop assistance oh and I get to keep the outfit - whatever the cost of the outfit does not come out of my rates.
This weasel out the timewasters idiots and the legit genuine outfit request punters comply with my strict simple rule and turn up with brand new outfit.
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I’ve recently changed my profile slightly to say that any requests for outfits / uniforms latex /PVC is only available with my. Dom and Fetish appointment which I charge more for
I wear nice lingerie stockings high heels and little black dress for all my other appointments