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Title: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 16 June 2022, 01:24:41 pm
Do any of you find it not only rude but boundary pushing if you make it clear you do not offer quickies and your starting price is the bare minimum you will accept written all over your adverts.

I understand many offer quickies which is completely fine and a personal choice but why do these idiot men target women all the time that make it clear it's something that is not on offer. I find it really rude and total lack of respect for what you choose to charge. There is many that offer this service so why not just contact the ones that do.

I block them instantly when they do this as to me there is a lack of respect. I had a guy the other week that said to me oh sorry but it's all i can afford i said there is plenty that offer this so why are you targeting me he said he looked at a few that offered it but he never liked the look of them. I said so that gives you the right to target me when it's made clear.

I put this down as boundary pushing and no excuse he has less money as to me this is not a life or death service It's a luxury/ hobbie/treat for many who book.

Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Mirror on 16 June 2022, 01:29:14 pm
I have been asked this many times and simply maintain my minimum, simple as that.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 16 June 2022, 01:32:58 pm
I have been asked this many times and simply maintain my minimum, simple as that.

They are the worst timewasters that are out there and it happens all the time even some i had saying i know you don't do cheaper as you say that but can you do as a one off as i not been paid yet or have less money this month!!!!
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: SquirtyQueen on 16 June 2022, 01:43:36 pm
I honestly believe that it's a numbers game for clients, they just write one message and copy and paste it to a whole bunch of us, first one that accepts wins their custom.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 16 June 2022, 02:01:36 pm
I honestly believe that it's a numbers game for clients, they just write one message and copy and paste it to a whole bunch of us, first one that accepts wins their custom.

I agree with some it's definately a numbers game i think more so with thr ones wanting cheaper they message loads.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Escortx on 16 June 2022, 02:04:12 pm
They will try and get it cheaper whatever price you put. I do 15 for £50 and still get them for it cheaper. In the past I've dont £60 for half an hour and still get them asking for it cheaper
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 16 June 2022, 02:07:42 pm
They will try and get it cheaper whatever price you put. I do 15 for £50 and still get them for it cheaper. In the past I've dont £60 for half an hour and still get them asking for it cheaper
It's awful isn't it but if you say no haggling and they still do it there blocked. I just don't have the patience for it. Even if someone was offering it for £20 they would offer £10.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Escortx on 16 June 2022, 02:10:31 pm
Yes same i report and block them. I wouldn't want ro see someone who ask.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Miffy on 16 June 2022, 02:28:30 pm
I don’t consider it boundary pushing. I think it’s more indicative of the fact they’ve not read my profile and are sending a cut and paste message to many escorts in the hope someone they contact offers what they want.

Anyone who sends me a message asking for something I don’t offer or wants to haggle my prices, I decline or ignore. I don’t even bother giving it a second thought as it’s not about me, it’s all about them and a reflection of their slap dash/ignorant approach. I don’t want clients like this, so it’s all good that I can just reject them outright.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Kay on 16 June 2022, 03:13:31 pm
I don’t consider it boundary pushing. I think it’s more indicative of the fact they’ve not read my profile and are sending a cut and paste message to many escorts in the hope someone they contact offers what they want.

Anyone who sends me a message asking for something I don’t offer or wants to haggle my prices, I decline or ignore. I don’t even bother giving it a second thought as it’s not about me, it’s all about them and a reflection of their slap dash/ignorant approach. I don’t want clients like this, so it’s all good that I can just reject them outright.

Same. As soon as someone texts e.g. 'R u available', 'Can I book 15 minutes', 'Do you do anal' etc. etc. I just know they haven't read (or been able to understand) my profile, and so don't merit a response.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: amy on 16 June 2022, 04:00:17 pm
I don’t consider it boundary pushing. I think it’s more indicative of the fact they’ve not read my profile and are sending a cut and paste message to many escorts in the hope someone they contact offers what they want.

Nor do I. If somebody is trying to get a cheaper rate than the minimum I advertise, I call that haggling.

The easiest way to respond to them for me is to point out that I'm not going to hold them prisoner in my flat and if they want to leave after fifteen minutes they're welcome to do so; it isn't unusual for punters in my location to go before their paid time is up anyway.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: bustybbwsteph on 16 June 2022, 04:28:39 pm
I understand many offer quickies which is completely fine and a personal choice but why do these idiot men target women all the time that make it clear it's something that is not on offer. I find it really rude and total lack of respect for what you choose to charge. There is many that offer this service so why not just contact the ones that do.

I feel like some of the men who try & haggle prices are exactly that, they are direspectful & don't see it as a 'proper job' - Their dick is in control of them, they have to get it wet but don't want to pay our rates, they want to pay what they think our services are worth

I simply delete & block from future contact
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 16 June 2022, 05:47:57 pm
I feel like some of the men who try & haggle prices are exactly that, they are direspectful & don't see it as a 'proper job' - Their dick is in control of them, they have to get it wet but don't want to pay our rates, they want to pay what they think our services are worth

I simply delete & block from future contact

Yes could not agree more with this. Exactly how i see it they think it's no big deal doing it much cheaper for them and they do not realise every stranger we let through the door could be a possible rapist/ attacker and we take our life in our hands.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Hannaah on 16 June 2022, 09:12:43 pm
I used to offer 15 minutes BJ only for £40 but I got so sick of people trying to get it even cheaper that I stopped offering it a long time ago. I now only offer that to two long-term regs who don't take the pee with it. I had someone I've never met or spoken to a few days ago asking me the price for 15 minutes, I replied with my 30-minute rate and he actually came back to me and said that's for a half hour, I was asking about 15 minutes. I responded the exact same way and it must have finally clicked as he vanished.

Oh! I once had someone I'd never met before asking if we could meet and he would pay me half at the booking time and the other half when he got paid at the end of the month.  ;D
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 16 June 2022, 09:22:56 pm
I used to offer 15 minutes BJ only for £40 but I got so sick of people trying to get it even cheaper that I stopped offering it a long time ago. I now only offer that to two long-term regs who don't take the pee with it. I had someone I've never met or spoken to a few days ago asking me the price for 15 minutes, I replied with my 30-minute rate and he actually came back to me and said that's for a half hour, I was asking about 15 minutes. I responded the exact same way and it must have finally clicked as he vanished.

Oh! I once had someone I'd never met before asking if we could meet and he would pay me half at the booking time and the other half when he got paid at the end of the month.  ;D

Jesus they are never satisfied are they. You give a inch they want a mile.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Mirror on 17 June 2022, 08:24:00 am
I used to offer 15 minutes BJ only for £40 but I got so sick of people trying to get it even cheaper that I stopped offering it a long time ago. I now only offer that to two long-term regs who don't take the pee with it. I had someone I've never met or spoken to a few days ago asking me the price for 15 minutes, I replied with my 30-minute rate and he actually came back to me and said that's for a half hour, I was asking about 15 minutes. I responded the exact same way and it must have finally clicked as he vanished.

Oh! I once had someone I'd never met before asking if we could meet and he would pay me half at the booking time and the other half when he got paid at the end of the month.  ;D

I've been asked several times if payment can be several days after the booking, as well as post-dated cheques etc.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Milf-G on 18 June 2022, 08:35:24 am
I don't offer quickies due to discretion (plus guys booking 15 and needing 25). My 30 min rate is £80 and once had someone offer me £30 for a 10 minute quickie. When I responded that I do not see hagglers or do quickies he said that's all I was worth and I should fuck off back to my own country.... I'm white British 🤷‍♀️

They have no respect haggling.

I had another one who politely said he couldn't afford my fee, what could I do for £25. I told him he needed to find someone cheaper. I'm not desperate for money.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: English Green on 18 June 2022, 09:39:31 am
I don't offer quickies due to discretion (plus guys booking 15 and needing 25). My 30 min rate is £80 and once had someone offer me £30 for a 10 minute quickie. When I responded that I do not see hagglers or do quickies he said that's all I was worth and I should fuck off back to my own country.... I'm white British 🤷‍♀️

They have no respect haggling.

I had another one who politely said he couldn't afford my fee, what could I do for £25. I told him he needed to find someone cheaper. I'm not desperate for money.

It's terrible i think it comes with men thinking all sex workers must be very desperate to do the job in the first place so why not try our luck to get away with more piss taking out of them.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Milf-G on 20 June 2022, 08:59:32 am
It's terrible i think it comes with men thinking all sex workers must be very desperate to do the job in the first place so why not try our luck to get away with more piss taking out of them.

Exactly. I mean I'm not rich but I make enough to pay my bills and have savings. It's just rude and boundary pushing.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Michellebelle on 01 August 2022, 07:50:43 am
Re the “what can I get for £25 ? “
I’ve sent them a link to the Bernard Manning . You can have a penguin joke ! 😂😂
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Boudoir on 01 August 2022, 11:07:52 am
Re the “what can I get for £25 ? “
I’ve sent them a link to the Bernard Manning . You can have a penguin joke ! 😂😂

 Never got that joke fully til I started doing this work ;D ;D
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Jadine on 01 August 2022, 11:21:17 am
Another I did at the weekend paid for half a hour service,   before that we sat whilst he had a drink we went done overtime in the bedroom he had near a hour chat shit and go overtime then had cheek to say he skint and moaning he paid me I hate men like him give them bit free time treat them nice and take the piss , he moaned about other women charging lots too , he can fuck off thinking I see him again,[off topic removed].
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Luvmylips on 01 August 2022, 09:47:46 pm
Same. As soon as someone texts e.g. 'R u available', 'Can I book 15 minutes', 'Do you do anal' etc. etc. I just know they haven't read (or been able to understand) my profile, and so don't merit a response.

This was something that used to happen with me all the time a few months back; I found changing ny profile wording helped immensely.

Now if one message slips though like this, I just block them - no response.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: BisexualBlondie on 03 August 2022, 10:55:39 am
It's terrible i think it comes with men thinking all sex workers must be very desperate to do the job in the first place so why not try our luck to get away with more piss taking out of them.
I do think you’re right in that some men think we are desperate to do what we do.  Many people both male & female can’t seem to understand that we do enjoy our chosen profession.

Speaking of people trying to push prices, when the pandemic kicked off I received two unsavoury emails from chaps I hadn’t seen before.  One read ‘I’ve always wanted to see you Diana but your price has always been above what I’m willing to pay.  Guessing now your phone is dusty because of the pandemic you’ll partake in Tontober (an hour for £100) in March?’.  This was £60 less that my advertised rate, I didn’t bother replying.  Another chap emailed presuming that I’d start offering services that weren’t on my likes list.  It was at that point that I thought to myself…..if this is the sh#t@ I’m going to be receiving because some chaps think they can exploit the pandemic to get more for their money I’m pulling my advertising & spending time at home with my family until things improve.  I’ve managed to get by for over two years not advertising & just seeing regs but am very much looking forward to making a comeback.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: amy on 04 August 2022, 08:38:56 am
Why would you do an hour for £100 because it's March? That's the weirdest haggle I've ever heard ???
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Schwiftysquancher91 on 04 August 2022, 10:17:50 am
I think the idea would always to be to get the most for the least amount of money for some people. If they could haggle to 1p they would, those kinds don't care about our expenses. Whenever someone asks for a discount I tell them when they can cover my hotel costs they are more than welcome to have a discount. No one has taken me up on that yet surprisingly  ???

I used to do my 15min bookings for £30 and in my experience I had the worst piss taking overstaying 'most bang for your buck' type of people come and see me. The price worked for me at the time and I was happy charging it but I now I charge £60 (my old half hour rate) and I now get lots of 'oral only' bookings and repeat custom with great regulars. Knowing the difference makes me realise I wouldn't charge less again for it, even if I discounted my hour rate for whatever reason.

I think its knowing that people will still pay for essentially 5-10 mins of my time for a higher rate that I've set will always give me the confidence to tell these other twats to just wank in or sock or not respond altogether. I think I'm trying to stay zen and growing as a hooker because I simply don't rise to their bs anymore now, helps with burn out and stress in the long run.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: DBLM on 20 September 2022, 09:50:51 pm
Do any of you find it not only rude but boundary pushing if you make it clear you do not offer quickies and your starting price is the bare minimum you will accept written all over your adverts.

Yes I find this quite unacceptable.

Now if someone asks once on the phone as a polite enquiry that's OK, but I've had many then carry on... arguing with me about the price - as if I will see them!. No, I won't now see them even at my full original fee. And this surprises them.

Way back in about 2004 I used to charge £120 and I recall a man turning up and offering me £100 - yes quite a good amount of money - I did want to take it!

He had the cash out ready.
I sent him away and made it quite plain that I'd told him on the phone how much the service cost if he wanted to offer less he had no right to ask my address. Book my time and then turn up and insult me like that.
I was furious with him.

He'd wasted my time.
He then offered the full amount, but I sent him away anyway - that bad taste in your mouth is no way to start the session - what kind of session would follow?

The thing is, if he only intended to use my body like a doll then it wouldn't make any difference TO HIM that he'd insulted me. But I charged the higher price because I offered my clients a lovely time - you know - that personal engagement GFE that he wouldn't get from me after pulling that shit.

It has happened a few times since then too.
I just think if I accept the lower amount of money I can guarantee they will also be the clients from hell.



Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: BJC on 24 September 2022, 04:37:06 am
I just deliberately misunderstand them and say my rates start at 70 but you're welcome to leave after 10 mins if that's the length you want.
I used to offer a cheaper blow and go but the haggling was too much to deal with. "What do I get for 20 quid babe" I just reply a blow and go without the blow 😂😂
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Pepper on 28 September 2022, 09:33:32 pm
Hi, not posted here for a while...

I really understand why anyone would be upset if someone offers a lower price or asks for a service you do not offer, just say no. I now run a business and forever haggling.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Tickle on 30 September 2022, 06:57:31 pm
I can't add anything to what has already been said. I pretty much bin them all off now whether it's a call or a message. There's a minimum floor to standards and the sooner "the market" gets this in their head the better. It's my home and my body and I'm not letting any old detritus blow in off the street.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: amy on 30 September 2022, 07:49:29 pm
There's a minimum floor to standards and the sooner "the market" gets this in their head the better. It's my home and my body and I'm not letting any old detritus blow in off the street.

Of course there is, but it has nothing to do with what anybody charges or what anybody pays. Unless you actually think that people who charge/pay more are 'better', but in almost twenty years working I've seen no evidence of that whatsoever.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Tickle on 30 September 2022, 10:24:00 pm
Of course there is, but it has nothing to do with what anybody charges or what anybody pays. Unless you actually think that people who charge/pay more are 'better', but in almost twenty years working I've seen no evidence of that whatsoever.

I don't think you can be absolute about this. I feel too low and it does open the door to too many lazy opportunists and hassle. The ones who did spend a lot relative to everyone else have been among my better clients. That's my experience.
Title: Re: Boundary pushing with prices.
Post by: Escortx on 30 September 2022, 10:41:33 pm
If someone haggles I don't want to see them because I think its not very respectful