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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Supergirl on 25 May 2021, 10:29:32 am
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Why is it always these days some of my least favourite clients that want long bookings? Uuurgh.
5 hr booking today with a chap who is just very boring and really terrible at sex. I've given up trying to improve him - after seeing him for 3 years I've got nowhere. I simply can't torn down the money though - it's far too much to turn down.
Ideas of how to get through without dying of boredom? Oddly he has the best time ever!
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I relate to this so hard! One of my most boring clients ever has decided he wants to upgrade his 1 hour to 2 hours. I don't want to turn down that amount of cash but I absolutely can't make conversation with him. He just looks at me and giggles and sniffs my hair. You're a trooper for getting through 5 hours!
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For 5 hours, you could suggest activities to pass the time. That don’t necessarily involve interacting with him.
Watching a film, passes a couple hours. Or a couple episodes of a tv show.
Or play a card game, could pass an hour or so. Or one of those sex related games where you roll a dice, could make it fun.
Are you always stuck in a room with him for that amount of time? Depending on the time of day you could order in food or get snacks or take a walk or something too.
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I am possibly in the minority but if a client is boring, bad at sex or does something I do not like, I decline to see him again. I often ask myself would I see this client again if he wasn't paying? If the answer is no, I won't see him again.
I understand many do not want to turn down money, but sometimes, money just isn't enough for me to put up with a client who I do not enjoy spending time with.
EveEveEv's advice is good - find ways to fill the time. For me, all bookings over 3 hours must include refreshments/food. This most certainly eats into the time.
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If he is rubbish at sex and boring but pays well that would not bother me at all. It's things like rude, demanding and smelly clients that are the problem.
I suppose we all look at sex work differently i just look at it as earning money and not about if i like that person. A lot of the clients that pay several of them have to pay for it i just kind of accept that most you would not want to entertain without cash being on offer.
I suppose if someone is hard work for conversation through a long booking then that can be awkward and drag on.
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I often ask myself would I see this client again if he wasn't paying? If the answer is no, I won't see him again.
Haha if I applied that criteria to clients I wouldn't see any at all! ;D
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Why is it always these days some of my least favourite clients that want long bookings? Uuurgh.
5 hr booking today with a chap who is just very boring and really terrible at sex. I've given up trying to improve him - after seeing him for 3 years I've got nowhere. I simply can't torn down the money though - it's far too much to turn down.
Ideas of how to get through without dying of boredom? Oddly he has the best time ever!
I could not cope with 5 hours if it was all in the bedroom. I struggle to do more than 90 min bookings.
Tell him you'd really enjoy changing things up a bit on your next meeting if he's up for it. Chances are as he enjoys your company he'll agree.
Suggest going out for a drink/coffee and a walk. That would do away with a cple of hours. Cuddling on the sofa with a film for another cple of hours which would leave an hour of boring, terrible sex ;D
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Haha if I applied that criteria to clients I wouldn't see any at all! ;D
Exactly i would never see any if i did it just for pleasure hahaha
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Haha if I applied that criteria to clients I wouldn't see any at all! ;D
Haha, yes, I'm sure.
We all have different criteria. The majority of my regular bookings are 3 hours or more, so I need to be able to enjoy the client's company as I'm just not that good an actress, no matter how much I'm being paid!
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Well that turned into a bit of an odd one, I survived 4 excruciating hours and was wondering how on earth to get through the last bit - he was clearly having a lovely time he kept saying how brilliant it was having so much time with me
Then he said 'it's coming up to the bit I hate where you have to go' I thought he just meant we didn't have long left but I went to the loo and he was getting dressed. It became apparent be thought the booking was over! He's obviously miscalculated the time.
I was so glad for the chance to leave early I just followed his lead and got dressed while we chatted about what he was doing later then he walked me to the door.
I knew I should really have said something but I was so relieved and figured he'd message if he realised his mistake and I'd say I didn't realise the time myself and thought our time was up when he said.
Driving home I was thinking if it came up I'd offer him a few hour next time but he's since messaged to say how amazing it was and can't wait to do it again etc etc.
Would you say anything?
Ps. I tried to suggest going for a coffee or food and he said he wanted to keep me all to himself tucked away in our room. He had drinks in the room already so had tea coffee and fizzy drinks
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Well that turned into a bit of an odd one, I survived 4 excruciating hours and was wondering how on earth to get through the last bit - he was clearly having a lovely time he kept saying how brilliant it was having so much time with me
Then he said 'it's coming up to the bit I hate where you have to go' I thought he just meant we didn't have long left but I went to the loo and he was getting dressed. It became apparent be thought the booking was over! He's obviously miscalculated the time.
I was so glad for the chance to leave early I just followed his lead and got dressed while we chatted about what he was doing later then he walked me to the door.
I knew I should really have said something but I was so relieved and figured he'd message if he realised his mistake and I'd say I didn't realise the time myself and thought our time was up when he said.
Driving home I was thinking if it came up I'd offer him a few hour next time but he's since messaged to say how amazing it was and can't wait to do it again etc etc.
Would you say anything?
Ps. I tried to suggest going for a coffee or food and he said he wanted to keep me all to himself tucked away in our room. He had drinks in the room already so had tea coffee and fizzy drinks
If the session was dragging, I wouldn't have said anything, but maybe just have asked if he was sure and secretly hope that he was! Maybe he was ready to wrap things up, sounds like he had a nice enough time with you anyway. For five hours though I would definitely have expected some sort of refreshment.
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I just tend to 'think of the new kitchen units' he is paying for!
Keeps me focused.
Imagine working in a boring office. You would have to spend 8 hours a day, every day, with boring people, for a lot less money.
Stag on honey!! xxx
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Why is it always these days some of my least favourite clients that want long bookings? Uuurgh.
5 hr booking today with a chap who is just very boring and really terrible at sex. I've given up trying to improve him - after seeing him for 3 years I've got nowhere. I simply can't torn down the money though - it's far too much to turn down.
Ideas of how to get through without dying of boredom? Oddly he has the best time ever!
Perhaps you could increase the fee by £XXX to make it more bareable. :)
I agree with others, meals out, activities, etc I ask them straight at the booking stage, 'what will be doing for x hours.'
If he won't budge good on you for gritting it out.
I only had had one boring long gig- sat in his home, him playing online poker. No refreshment, chat or entertainment. It was an overnight but I dumped him after a few hours. He threatened to complain and I said 'go ahead, do what you like' I'd already been paid, we hadn't had sex. It was an agency job but I sacked them. I think they sent new girls to him like cannon fodder.
Since then I select my long bookings for compatibility.
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5 hours ..you ladies have the tolerance 😇
I can just about do 2 hours at a struggle..
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5 hours ..you ladies have the tolerance 😇
I can just about do 2 hours at a struggle..
Me too. I don't expect punters to be scintillating company and they're paying me handsomely to provide a service (plus some may find things like small talk and general interaction difficult for a variety of reasons and I'm not going to turn them away because of it) but I know I can't keep up the performance for longer than that.
To be fair, it would be unusual for me to sit and do any one thing for longer than two hours without stopping for food/drink or to glance at the news or nip out to the shop, or whatever.
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I have a couple of clients that are very hard to talk to who want long bookings. I find it really hard to keep the small talk going in between the sexy time, they're so boring that keeping the conversation going and avoiding the awkward silences is like an extreme sport.
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Once I had a booing with a regular for six hours. I didn't normally do them and I still don't but he was an exception.. Anyway we did our thing and also showered together and watched some TV, then three and a half hours in he fell asleep. He woke up about ten minutes before the end of the booking.
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What happened when he woke up? Was he upset that he had fallen asleep?
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This is why I can’t stand overnights. It’s too long to be in anyone’s company and I always find a that they expect a more intimate experience on longer bookings.
I tend to be quite guarded about how much distance I keep between myself and the client, in order to protect myself mentally.
Still, sometimes all you can do is think of the money Honey! X
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What happened when he woke up? Was he upset that he had fallen asleep?
At firts he was chilled thinking he had just nodded off for a moment. He apologised for sleeping. Then he looked at his phone and saw time was almost over and he got a bit sheepish.
Anyway he got dressed and we chatted for ten minutes and then he left.
This is why I can’t stand overnights. It’s too long to be in anyone’s company and I always find a that they expect a more intimate experience on longer bookings.
I tend to be quite guarded about how much distance I keep between myself and the client, in order to protect myself mentally.
Still, sometimes all you can do is think of the money Honey! X
I was very nervous when I first started doing overnights, in my early 20's. Not least of all because of how vulnerable I felt. I tended to do it for regulars and that's true now but sometimes non regulars have the chance. And once or twice I've done an overnight with a regular and it hasn't turned out great.
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This is why I can’t stand overnights. It’s too long to be in anyone’s company and I always find a that they expect a more intimate experience on longer bookings.
I tend to be quite guarded about how much distance I keep between myself and the client, in order to protect myself mentally.
Still, sometimes all you can do is think of the money Honey! X
Same here , cant stand overnights now and I have 3 regulars that want them once a month!!!
I think of the money and try and push through them but im screaming on the inside and im miserable the next day reliving the experience.
Had to cancel on one the other night. he in particular annoys the heck out of me , its like every move he makes causes me angst or discomfort and he thinks they are unique and sexy ... one of them being to take spit from his mouth and rub on my nipples ( dribbling spit on other parts of my body YUK YUK YUK)
ive jokingly said its a turn off but doesn't seem to have registered
im hoping i can get regular half hour clients i dont even want one hour clients anymore
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im hoping i can get regular half hour clients i dont even want one hour clients anymore
I'm the same now. Since I started offering 30/45 mins, the one hour bookings have become a drag. I have one who is fairly regular and books an hour and although he's a nice guy, he is such hard work.
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I find 2 hour clients just drag on i couldnt do longer unless its somone I really like the company of and there are few.
Or that time goes far too slow and I'm trying to drag it out as I really dont want them asking for money back if it ended quickly
I had one guy but he was a reliable for over 2 years then started to cancel and just got on my nerves. Nowadays an hour is enough.
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I prefer longer bookings means less people to see but if someone is hardwork or awkward yes it can be very comsuming but i don't have to see them again.
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Hi
My name is Zoe and I am a mature caribbean woman and have just registered on SAAFE although I have looked at website several times before I joined.
I like long bookings. Don't know why. It just gives me time to get to know client and if they are boring, well I can always think of something to liven up the situation.
My longest booking for 13 hours in a massage parlour I used to work in in Manchester. Admittedly he was off his face but very amicable and charming. He obviously couldn't do anything due to his intake of drugs but it didn't seem to bother him. He sent me to the off licence to buy booze and cigarettes so this broke up the time a little. He spent his whole wage packet in that time and went home with no money but he was happy and so was I.
I haven't had a long booking with someone that I cannot stand. They are normally just 30 mins which suits me fine. And if I don't like them and they want long booking I just say lets just start with an hour and see how it goes.
I really like my work and most of the customers I meet (now that I'm independent) want to spend time with a mature woman.
I have other colleagues who hate long bookings. But I really like doing them especially if client is chilled and gives no problems.
Does anybody else like long bookings?
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Welcome to our world, I wish you well. xx
I have a client who wants to buy me stuff, not things that I want but loads of weird stuff, he likes me to open presents in front of him.
Although it sounds sweet, it is actually really weird.
He books 4-5 hour meetings... thank you..
But it's just strange.
He brings trinkets for me, I wouldn't put them in my home, obviously because of where they came from.
The thing is, what I really want to say.... In my experience, the guys who want really long bookings are invariably not "right"
They can be obsessive, in love with you or, how do I say it? just not right!!!
If there is anything that time and experience has taught me, go for the short meetings, check the feedback and be careful
If it doesn't smell right, it isn't.
You don't need to open your world to weirdos, there are many people who enjoy tis lifestyle who are safe. Be careful xx
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I'm considering longer bookings in the place I've moved too as it's less footfall I find the residents here are really friendly but might be nosey
If too many visitors came it might raise suspicion !
I've not done longer bookings in ages though and it's pacing myself in the two hours maximum that I need to manage and not rushing the services .
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I used to see this client a few years back for three or four hours. He used to get high and want to smother me in baby oil and rub myself against him. He barely got hard enough for sex. For me it was really boring but easy money.
Another books me for three hours but so difficult to talk to. I just get one word answers and have to keep the conversation going. He seems to be on a different planet as thinks we have excellent chemistry and loves our conversations. The sex isn't great either unlike with most of my clients.
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For 5 hours, you could suggest activities to pass the time. That don’t necessarily involve interacting with him.
Watching a film, passes a couple hours. Or a couple episodes of a tv show.
Or play a card game, could pass an hour or so. Or one of those sex related games where you roll a dice, could make it fun.
Are you always stuck in a room with him for that amount of time? Depending on the time of day you could order in food or get snacks or take a walk or something too.
Yeah but even that in itself can become really hard work.
I had one like this and he always wanted to turn up with gifts... like it was Xmas.
Drugstore earrings that made my ears green etc.
In the end I realised that although I like to market myself as upmarket, longish meetings only... in honesty a 30 minute £100 meet is great!!
Who wants do spend hours with an obsessive.... and they always are the weird ones!!
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I rarely accept even a two hour meet these dsys. 90 mins is my maximum.
You never know how boring they are going to be until you meet them after all.
I was once given a really naff homemade candle. These type of items I donate to charity via the charity sacks that come through the letterbox.
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If I'm spending hours with someone I genuinely click with or I fancy then the time goes quick. Most of time, I'm not and it goes too slow and I dread these bookings.