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Author Topic: Body insecurity [and sex work], Advice and opinions on what makes you feel body confident.  (Read 1243 times)

Bettyboo29

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Body wise I'm not the most confident for many reasons from stretch marks to being too curvy and not tight enough and having kids my boobs not pert, But I'm curious to hear if having a boob job or work means you get more work because....A. You feel more sexy and boy confident?

B. Clients like that certain look.

Might just be me but I'm feeling like I need to do a few cosmetic things to get work and to give a better understanding I'm 38, had two children and stretchmarks and now with lockdown feeling mentally and physically awful.

But I would like to hear if having certain bodily perks gets more work busily, Face wise I'm pretty and natural.




Bettyboo29

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That's body confident bmnot boy lol

amy

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If whoring has taught me anything it's that regardless of your size, shape, looks, age and everything else, it will be ideal for somebody - provided you offer a good service you'll.always get bookings. The best advice I've seen is just make sire your photos and ad text are accurate so that everybody knows what they're getting and then they're not expecting something different when you open the door :).

It's easy for me to say because I've never had anythimg more than a manicure in terms of professional treatments, but I've never had a punter enthuse about boob jobs, obvious fillers, fake lips amd the like. This doesn't mean those who like them don't exist, just that they don't book me - if you're going to do these things do them for yourself, not because you're trying to fit somebody else's expectations.

saltysweet

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I had boobs and eyes done. Boobs twice as I wanted super vixen boobies. I didn't do it to get more clients, that was never the aim. I don't think it made any difference to volume or earnings. I think that's all related to the market, season, location advertising and such. Going through that agony and deadly risk for punters....no way! I learnt clients were happy and excited the way I was whatever body shape. The surgery made me feel a million dollars, so worth every penny.

But everyones situation and motivations vary don't they?
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KirstyKiss

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I'm not body confident and being doing the job 6 years.
I just cover up my wobbly bits and advertise as larger (I also make it clear in my FAQ's)
I'm generally busy. It's my attitude.
A lot of clients love a mature, curvy woman. I have a friend who goes naked but I draw the line at that, lol.

barbiegirl

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I’ve had work done, and I like the sunbed, having my brows tattooed, lips etc. But only done it for myself and because I wanted to, not to increase bookings. Everyone has a type in this job :)
"Anyone who ever gave you confidence, you owe them a lot"

Kay

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Some men do like the stereotypical porn star look, but many don't, and to be perfectly honest, I rarely see women who look better after plastic surgery. There are a lot of risks involved in boob jobs, not to mention the expense.

Confidence comes from within. If you have clients, you're OK.
"There is no sin except stupidity" - Oscar Wilde

TantricTease

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A friend of mine that works said that she had better clients when she had smaller boobs compared to afterwards when she got her boob job, there have been studies that show that overall intelligent men prefer smaller boobs and I think there is some truth in that, I’m not saying that all men that like small boobs are clever and that all men that like big boobs are thick but with a large number of men then this may be the case.

I was going to get a boob job as I am small and an older more experienced lady told me that my clients would change and to stay as I was.

This may only be relevant to the saunas etc but the ladies with blonde hair also got more crap from men than the ladies that didn’t have blonde hair! There is a certain mentality of men that use saunas and so I can see some of them thinking of blondes being ‘dirtier’ than brunettes, silly but true.

Also girls that are into the fake reality star look always got the arseholes compared to the more naturally pretty girls.

lillybliss

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If you want to make a few tweeks then I would say go for it BUT do it for yourself not for anyone else x.

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Regards sex work I have been all different shapes and sizes, I found most is about confidence also that some men like women whatever shape they are, others are attracted to the entire package including personality, others like a particular look. When I was one size/shape some were put off, others were attracted. In the end my learning is that it has to be for me.

Body image is something which comes from inside, surgery may not be the solution.

TantricTease

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Regards sex work I have been all different shapes and sizes, I found most is about confidence also that some men like women whatever shape they are, others are attracted to the entire package including personality, others like a particular look. When I was one size/shape some were put off, others were attracted. In the end my learning is that it has to be for me.

Body image is something which comes from inside, surgery may not be the solution.

Especially when the men get to see our pics before they book us so they must like what they see when they book you OP.

In saunas (which is what my post referred to regarding men’s attitudes) then it’s a different ballgame, the last sauna I worked in was more popular for the dolly bird look, fake fake fake and young.

Bettyboo29

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Thanks ladies for your posts, Actually really helpful and the main thing seems to be confidence that comes from liking yourself. I think know deep down it's more how I probably see myself.Really interesting to read how some men judge blondes to be dirtier than brunettes and funny. For the one negative comment I've had higher percentage of positive. And men do love a confident lady in and outside the bedroom.