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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Kescort on 09 August 2019, 09:06:30 pm
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Sorry if this sounds utterly bizarre but I've been on a break for a few years as I had children and this past day can't stop feeling guilty about a client I had, I mean we have plenty of married guys but this guy was early 30s, extremely good looking and a fantastic client very respectful friendly complimentary etc, however he was married but the issue is he had a gigantic tattoo of his wife and young son on his wedding day across his whole back, it was extremely well done realistic and huge and the image is burned into my mind of this gorgeous classy looking woman looking amazingly happy and I dunno I just feel extremely guilty I was fucking her husband and she probably never knew, he was a regular lived in the small Valley I was from and she apparently thought he was at the gym when he visited me. I just feel very sad thinking about it and extremely guilty what the hell is wrong with me I had tons of married clients but this one kinda upsets me now, is it because I've seen her face looking so happy on her wedding day?
I've never felt like this before but keep thinking about it recently has anyone ever had similar feelings?
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Kescort
He probably didn't feel too guilty when he visited otherwise he wouldn't have booked you in the first place.
Guilt is a useless feeling so please don't do it to yourself another minute
Many of our clients are married or attached guys seeing us behind their wives /partners backs .
Their problem not ours.
It's great you had such a hot guy but there must be a reason why he choose to see an escort in the first place.
Despite his memorable tattoo
Move on x
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I also feel bad for some wives too, so many men cheat and i think the crazy bit for me is more the attitude if we sell sex we have no morals towards cheating and we are cool with it and even have a giggle over it. I just accept a lot cheat and doing this job will bring in a lot of married men. It is not our fault we do not look for them they look for us.
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Kescort
He probably didn't feel too guilty when he visited otherwise he wouldn't have booked you in the first place.
Guilt is a useless feeling so please don't do it to yourself another minute
Many of our clients are married or attached guys seeing us behind their wives /partners backs .
Their problem not ours.
It's great you had such a hot guy but there must be a reason why he choose to see an escort in the first place.
Despite his memorable tattoo
Move on x
Thank you sugar xxx
Yes I'm not losing sleep over it but I feel guilty probably because I saw her on her wedding day it's weird when you can put a face to the wives these guys often tell us about. I think also because he told me they had an active sex life but couldn't help himself made it more guilt inducing, I was shocked he paid he was that good looking and he told me he paid because a ons was too risky, that they might want more but he loved his wife whetheras with me he could just text, call round then be gone in half an hour. I will get over it its just a new feeling never felt guilty at the time. X
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I also feel bad for some wives too, so many men cheat and i think the crazy bit for me is more the attitude if we sell sex we have no morals towards cheating and we are cool with it and even have a giggle over it. I just accept a lot cheat and doing this job will bring in a lot of married men. It is not our fault we do not look for them they look for us.
Yes you'd get the very occasional asshole who you thought God help whoever is partnered to you hope she finds out soon so she can ditch you haha but this was rare met only two guys who I felt that about who said they had girlfriends. But this guy was not only gorgeous but a lovely person though I only saw him as a client she probably thought she had a catch, so sad so many women are deceived but yes they seek us out if it wasn't me it would have been another escort
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Sorry if this sounds utterly bizarre but I've been on a break for a few years as I had children and this past day can't stop feeling guilty about a client I had, I mean we have plenty of married guys but this guy was early 30s, extremely good looking and a fantastic client very respectful friendly complimentary etc, however he was married but the issue is he had a gigantic tattoo of his wife and young son on his wedding day across his whole back, it was extremely well done realistic and huge and the image is burned into my mind of this gorgeous classy looking woman looking amazingly happy and I dunno I just feel extremely guilty I was fucking her husband and she probably never knew, he was a regular lived in the small Valley I was from and she apparently thought he was at the gym when he visited me. I just feel very sad thinking about it and extremely guilty what the hell is wrong with me I had tons of married clients but this one kinda upsets me now, is it because I've seen her face looking so happy on her wedding day?
I've never felt like this before but keep thinking about it recently has anyone ever had similar feelings?
K, I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel guilty. If that is more difficult than it seems, try to think why you feel guilty at the moment. Is it because of the tattoo, or is it because he was really good looking and maybe you felt something, or something else?
Our job is to keep our good clients happy so they keep coming back and our loyalty is to the clients and their envelopes. A happy client is a man who will be happy in the rest of his life/relationships too. There is a reason why this man chose you to be regular customer, and you did your job well since he relied on you enough to return each time. If his family relationship is good after seeing you, that is a good thing.
I'm married myself, and while it's a bit different perhaps because my husband knows what I do every day and actively supports my career, someone else's marriage is nothing for you to feel guilty about.
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K, I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel guilty. If that is more difficult than it seems, try to think why you feel guilty at the moment. Is it because of the tattoo, or is it because he was really good looking and maybe you felt something, or something else?
Our job is to keep our good clients happy so they keep coming back and our loyalty is to the clients and their envelopes. A happy client is a man who will be happy in the rest of his life/relationships too. There is a reason why this man chose you to be regular customer, and you did your job well since he relied on you enough to return each time. If his family relationship is good after seeing you, that is a good thing.
I'm married myself, and while it's a bit different perhaps because my husband knows what I do every day and actively supports my career, someone else's marriage is nothing for you to feel guilty about.
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I'm not sure why I've felt guilty, I definitely did not have any feelings for the client I was just happy to have a good will paying client who was friendly respectful etc as we all feel when we have a good regular. So it's definitely not that plus I was in a relationship with my child's father then and still am now (he knew about my work) so no it was probably seeing the realistic photo copy tattoo of his wife beaming on her wedding day with their son which induced the guilt since I'd obvious obviously never seen any clients wife before either on a photo or anything else. It was rather off putting having to look at it lol but luckily was on his back so didn't have to look at it whilst actually fucking him.
I had a few married clients who went into great detail about their wives and sex lives at home which again was off putting but didn't make me feel guilty. Also maybe because I'm a mother now I have more compassion for these women, who knows?
I did have one client who was married and lived in the local area who told me he'd saw me out with my boyfriend whilst he was with his wife I'm glad I never saw them tbh, he always used to moan she was unattractive and wanted sex from him but he didn't want it from her! No idea why they give so much detail lol.
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K, I know where you are coming from, but please don't feel guilty. If that is more difficult than it seems, try to think why you feel guilty at the moment. Is it because of the tattoo, or is it because he was really good looking and maybe you felt something, or something else?
Our job is to keep our good clients happy so they keep coming back and our loyalty is to the clients and their envelopes. A happy client is a man who will be happy in the rest of his life/relationships too. There is a reason why this man chose you to be regular customer, and you did your job well since he relied on you enough to return each time. If his family relationship is good after seeing you, that is a good thing.
I'm married myself, and while it's a bit different perhaps because my husband knows what I do every day and actively supports my career, someone else's marriage is nothing for you to feel guilty about.
I also agree it is our job to make our clients happy and I enjoyed giving customer satisfaction lol I had a lot of regulars and return clients so must have been doing something right. Also we don't get emotionally involved with these guys so the only threat to the marriage is her finding out when a man is laxxy daisy with discretion.
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Am I the only one who thinks the OP has given away some very unique and personal information which could potentially out the client. This is an open part of the forum and anyone can view these posts.
The OP is the one being indiscreet in my opinion. We as service providers are not supposed to be passing on information of any kind which could harm a client.
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Am I the only one who thinks the OP has given away some very unique and personal information which could potentially out the client. This is an open part of the forum and anyone can view these posts.
The OP is the one being indiscreet in my opinion. We as service providers are not supposed to be passing on information of any kind which could harm a client.
Sorry didn't think of that didn't really assume it's the sort of site a clients wife would be looking at or any civvies seeing as it's meant to be for escorts, the description of the tattoo had to be given to explain my dilemma. A mod is free to edit or move it if they agree, I would definitely never want to out a client for various reasons tbh. Although I disagree I'm being indiscreet since its a support forum for escorts, presumably to get support. I've no idea why anyone else would read it or know about it except maybe some clients?
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Am I the only one who thinks the OP has given away some very unique and personal information which could potentially out the client. This is an open part of the forum and anyone can view these posts.
The OP is the one being indiscreet in my opinion. We as service providers are not supposed to be passing on information of any kind which could harm a client.
Also how likely is it, that someone who has seen this clients tattoo on his BACK an area always covered and not visible to most people, be reading this post on this forum? There's probably a higher chance of me winning the lottery next week.
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The guilt should be the clients and not ours if that exists at all. We rarely know any thing about the client and why should we?
We offer our services, they pay - end of
Don't get engrossed in a guy's personal life. It really is not our business.
I really don't give a fuck about their relationship status and is certainly not our business or concern.
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I never feel guilty because I always keep in mind the difference between a hooker and a wife. We're service providers, nothing more. Men may love their wives passionately and share their whole lives with them but the truth is, a great many of them will take lovers or see prostitutes or have one night stands. It means nothing more to them than sex.
Don't beat yourself up because if it's not you it will be someone else. You can't tame human nature!
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Also how likely is it, that someone who has seen this clients tattoo on his BACK an area always covered and not visible to most people, be reading this post on this forum? There's probably a higher chance of me winning the lottery next week.
Potentially a lot of people! He just might have sunbathed on holiday with friends or gone to the gym with mates etc etc.
Yes this site is for escorts but we know many men read it too.
Obviously the details you gave are allowed to remain, which surprises me but there you go.
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Potentially a lot of people! He just might have sunbathed on holiday with friends or gone to the gym with mates etc etc.
Yes this site is for escorts but we know many men read it too.
Obviously the details you gave are allowed to remain, which surprises me but there you go.
I imagine the only men who Read this forum are hobbyist punters which I doubt pose much of a risk of this client being outed plus there are 0 identifying details other than the tattoo and the description is as I said relevant to the dilemma. The reason it's likely been left is because the chances of it outing the client are absolutely miniscule.
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The guilt should be the clients and not ours if that exists at all. We rarely know any thing about the client and why should we?
We offer our services, they pay - end of
Don't get engrossed in a guy's personal life. It really is not our business.
I really don't give a fuck about their relationship status and is certainly not our business or concern.
Yes I agree the client was obviously seeking escorts to find me in the first place and if it wasn't me it would be someone else, the guilt has gone now so thanks as you say a clients fidelity isn't our responsibility
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Personally I think seeing us is less damaging to a marriage/relationship than a full blown affair
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I am often approached by clients who are in a married or a regular vanilla long term relationship and are sexually frustrated by a partner who can't meet their need. A partners pregnancy or after childbirth is one reason I often come across.
Sex in Marriages and long term relationships often need a little sexual spice introducing to them to keep the sex interesting or add another dimension to pep it up. Fantasy plays a major part in arousal and their partner may not be able to fill that role. A lot of my clients fantasize about sex with a transsexual. I can fulfil that fantasy or maybe will do what their wife, partner or girlfriend can't or won't for whatever reason.
Sometimes sexual energies are just not synchronised and their sexual needs are not being met. There is nothing wrong with satisfying their needs, they may love their partner and don't want the risk of an affair but yet need sexual release, It's not cheating, it's just a sexual need which I can take care of. I offer them total and absolute discretion in a quiet and comfortable venue, I don't wear perfume if requested and I don't leave any telltale evidence of our sexual liaison. I also accommodate times when its easy to explain away absences such as saturday mornings, early morning or early evening to or from work.
We're not offering love, we're offering a sexual release, an itch which needs scratching. Perhaps his wife is sick and he just needs a cuddle and some sex whilst she's recovering.
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I am often approached by clients who are in a married or a regular vanilla long term relationship and are sexually frustrated by a partner who can't meet their need. A partners pregnancy or after childbirth is one reason I often come across.
Sex in Marriages and long term relationships often need a little sexual spice introducing to them to keep the sex interesting or add another dimension to pep it up. Fantasy plays a major part in arousal and their partner may not be able to fill that role. A lot of my clients fantasize about sex with a transsexual. I can fulfil that fantasy or maybe will do what their wife, partner or girlfriend can't or won't for whatever reason.
Sometimes sexual energies are just not synchronised and their sexual needs are not being met. There is nothing wrong with satisfying their needs, they may love their partner and don't want the risk of an affair but yet need sexual release, It's not cheating, it's just a sexual need which I can take care of. I offer them total and absolute discretion in a quiet and comfortable venue, I don't wear perfume if requested and I don't leave any telltale evidence of our sexual liaison. I also accommodate times when its easy to explain away absences such as saturday mornings, early morning or early evening to or from work.
We're not offering love, we're offering a sexual release, an itch which needs scratching. Perhaps his wife is sick and he just needs a cuddle and some sex whilst she's recovering.
I appreciate your viewpoint, I agree with most of it but don't agree that they arnt cheating and don't believe any spouse would feel they arnt cheating either lol! I don't judge the client since I haven't even got the mental energy to, providing he pays and is respectful I don't care. The clients wife wasn't sick lol he actually told me he just couldn't help him self and they had an active sex life.
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Don't even start to think of why Punters punt, as you will get so wound up.
It is a job and that is that
We provide a service, get paid, they sod off and we pay our bills!
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I appreciate your viewpoint, I agree with most of it but don't agree that they arnt cheating and don't believe any spouse would feel they arnt cheating either lol! I don't judge the client since I haven't even got the mental energy to, providing he pays and is respectful I don't care. The clients wife wasn't sick lol he actually told me he just couldn't help him self and they had an active sex life.
This sounds typical for our married clients. When they need something beyond what they can have at home, they come to us. You should never feel guilty for doing your job well and helping your client. I’ve heard from numerous married regular clients over the years how I’ve helped their home life by reducing stress, providing relaxation when times were too tough, showed them new skills they can use, boost their confidence etc. No doubt you helped your client and you did it safely, discreetly, and with professional skill that kept him returning. Men buy our services to avoid emotional baggage, and you should as well. If he went to a professional therapist to talk about his marriage problems, this wouldn’t be cheating any more than coming to you, in my opinion.
On the other hand, my tattoo artist strongly discourages inking significant others. It makes you wonder why he felt the need to do that.
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If I analyse everything punters and clients do to see us, I'd become very cynical - although if in my personal life I'd not accept deception I'm aware there's a lot of lies and by both genders. I just get on because what matters to me is how a client is with me.
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This sounds typical for our married clients. When they need something beyond what they can have at home, they come to us. You should never feel guilty for doing your job well and helping your client. I’ve heard from numerous married regular clients over the years how I’ve helped their home life by reducing stress, providing relaxation when times were too tough, showed them new skills they can use, boost their confidence etc. No doubt you helped your client and you did it safely, discreetly, and with professional skill that kept him returning. Men buy our services to avoid emotional baggage, and you should as well. If he went to a professional therapist to talk about his marriage problems, this wouldn’t be cheating any more than coming to you, in my opinion.
On the other hand, my tattoo artist strongly discourages inking significant others. It makes you wonder why he felt the need to do that.
Yes, me and the client both got what we wanted out of the meets and hopefully he is still happily married and she never found out what he was up to!
Why do you think your tattoo artist advises against it, did they say?
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Yes, me and the client both got what we wanted out of the meets and hopefully he is still happily married and she never found out what he was up to!
Why do you think your tattoo artist advises against it, did they say?
I would guess potential for regret if you split up.
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sexually frustrated by a partner who can't meet their need. A partners pregnancy or after childbirth is one reason I often come across.
Ladylait.. please understand that's just an excuse. Most likely; the sex life is fine. They just want wifey at home - and get a thrill visiting sex workers. Most pregnant ladies are horny as hell.
If your husband is cheating on you, CAUSE YOU JUST BIRTHED HIS CHILD and require a month or two to heal...
Then he's a huge W@nker. Its the most precious time a couple can go through. Can't imagine being married to a narcissist who would do that straight after childbirth!!
I personally believe there's no excuse to cheat or visit sex workers unless you are in an open relationship. But we have free will and it's not my problem what a person does. My work does not exist for married men to cheat. They should leave their partners if they are unhappy in the bedroom.
I find it really sad and it has put me off marriage permanently.
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I've seen a few married couples though. It's not cheating if they explore sexuality together ;D ;D
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A guy I saw last week who I assumed was single because he seemed so sexually frustrated said he had a wife of 10 years. I felt sorry for his wife she probably went off sex because he couldn’t make her come or wasn’t attentive enough.
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Ladylait.. please understand that's just an excuse. Most likely; the sex life is fine. They just want wifey at home - and get a thrill visiting sex workers. Most pregnant ladies are horny as hell.
If your husband is cheating on you, CAUSE YOU JUST BIRTHED HIS CHILD and require a month or two to heal...
Then he's a huge W@nker. Its the most precious time a couple can go through. Can't imagine being married to a narcissist who would do that straight after childbirth!!
I personally believe there's no excuse to cheat or visit sex workers unless you are in an open relationship. But we have free will and it's not my problem what a person does. My work does not exist for married men to cheat. They should leave their partners if they are unhappy in the bedroom.
I find it really sad and it has put me off marriage permanently.
Yeah I once had a call from a sociopathic sounding client who asked if id been tested recently because his fiance was pregnant. His tone of voice sounded cold anyway but tbh I was pretty put off and refused the booking because of it. What I find unfair is that these women arnt being given a choice in the matter. I imagine it would destroy someone's life finding out their darling husband had been betraying them for years.
I do think many women are too trusting of their men, I had my arse groped by my sil boyfriend on Xmas day when they'd just had a baby, my partner doesn't know as I am not the one to cause problems but when you see this behaviour in civvies life aswell you wonder how many women can trust their men, they are very naive.
I will never get married having a child is enough attachment to someone for me lol.
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A guy I saw last week who I assumed was single because he seemed so sexually frustrated said he had a wife of 10 years. I felt sorry for his wife she probably went off sex because he couldn’t make her come or wasn’t attentive enough.
I had a regular client who made no secret of the fact he was married and found his wife unattractive after having children, he said she wanted sex with him but he wasn't interested and I did feel very sorry for her, she hadn't shut up shop she was just with a man who didn't fancy her and preferred fucking escorts, really a client like that should just leave his wife and let her find someone who wants to fuck her lol.
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I had a regular client who made no secret of the fact he was married and found his wife unattractive after having children, he said she wanted sex with him but he wasn't interested and I did feel very sorry for her, she hadn't shut up shop she was just with a man who didn't fancy her and preferred fucking escorts, really a client like that should just leave his wife and let her find someone who wants to fuck her lol.
But why oh why when he has the perfect house maid waiting at home. On hand for meals and cleaning and blaming his failures on lmfao.
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Maybe this guy was projecting some guilt onto you Kescort & you've come away with that transfer of negative energy & taken it on as your own guilt?
It shows you're a human being with morals so try not to sweat it.
I would find that graphic tattoo weird myself. Often wonder if the names they say are their kids are of their wives.
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Maybe this guy was projecting some guilt onto you Kescort & you've come away with that transfer of negative energy & taken it on as your own guilt?
It shows you're a human being with morals so try not to sweat it.
I would find that graphic tattoo weird myself. Often wonder if the names they say are their kids are of their wives.
Yes,he did volunteer all the information about his sex life and where his wife thought he was himself, so maybe he was trying to project who knows. I would feel guilty when massaging him at the beginning whilst looking right at his beaming wife on her wedding day, with their child also looking back at me just to top it off,lol.
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We do get treated like scapegoats often.
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A client showed me a photo of his wife and him together and her grave. Inappropriate, but I couldn't really stop him pushing his phone in my face. Seeing their family sets a tone that we didn't sign up for.
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Awww that's pretty sad, I know what you mean it's a bit much though. I had a lovely regular who's wife had died of cancer like a year or two before he started visiting, i was the first escort he visited and he came every week one day he bought me some perfume, I thought it was odd as it was very dated and old lady like if you know what I mean, not something I'd Wear (I was 21 at the time) he'd ask me to wear it for meetings anyway he burst out crying one day saying it was his wife's favourite perfume I felt so sorry for him but I never wore it any other time it felt too weird wearing this old ladylike perfume that was a clients dead wives favorite. Felt so sorry for him though he was a lovely man who clearly missed his wife a lot and said he'd never cheated or visited escorts whilst she was alive and I definitely believed him when he said that.
It's like being a counsellor isn't it lol!
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On the other hand, my tattoo artist strongly discourages inking significant others. It makes you wonder why he felt the need to do that.
That’s what I was thinking. It’s a big statement to make. Wedding pic aswell. For all to see who you undress with. Wonder who’s idea it was. I’m surprised he didn’t keep his top on during, it’s like having a photo of your wife and kid out on the wall in a big blow up picture while having sex with another woman underneath it. Awkward and a bit careless.
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Some people get very carried away with tattooing
I can understand maybe a grieving partner inking after as a memory tribute to their loved ones.
But I guess the guy felt very strongly about the wife and child enough to display it on himself
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Some people get very carried away with tattooing
I can understand maybe a grieving partner inking after as a memory tribute to their loved ones.
But I guess the guy felt very strongly about the wife and child enough to display it on himself
But not strongly enough to keep his top on during sex with others :-X
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But not strongly enough to keep his top on during sex with others :-X
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